Or maybe I'm overreacting again. I have heard of misspellings on invites, but whoever wrote the bridal shower invite I received today got my name completely wrong. Obviously my name is Kelly, but they addressed it to "Shelley MyLastName". That says to me, "Hi, come over and bring me a gift but I won't take the time to learn your name" (The invites also have registry info printed on them as well as a request for cash for their future home AND their honeymoon, which also speaks volumes).
So a backstory to this situation, because I was going to ask you all for advice on if I should even attend the wedding:
I was invited to a wedding of an old friend that I do not speak to anymore. We were great friends in high school/college, but she met her FI and completely changed. She has decided to become born-again, which is absolutely fine except she is doing it for the sole purpose of impressing FI and his family. She also has a gay mother and has become anti-LGBTQ+, again to impress FI/family. From the sounds of it, her and her mother do not speak despite always being close. I have many deeply religious and conservative friends and I respect that, but this is just strange to me.
At first I figured I would attend, but the Facebook statuses have really turned me off, and any time I have tried talking to her about anything (just shooting the breeze or asking how she is doing- nothing political) she ignores it. She *only* messaged me once after I became engaged to ask me wedding details and to moan about her cousin who is in the wedding and has visible tattoos ("she'll ruin the pictures!"). I find that clearly shows she does not want to be a friend anymore.
I was actually going to make a post asking advice on if I should attend. I am not sure if I am being overly snobby or if I should just decline to both shower and wedding and just send a gift? Any thoughts would be appreciated.