Meeting with my priest.....update in post

mrsmorales2be · August 2014

FI and I have a meeting with my priest on Friday to discuss moving our wedding to October. He knows why we've requested the meeting and yet I have NO idea what he's going to say. I'm not just a little nervous about this meeting.

JCbride2015 · August 2014

I think I missed it-- why are you moving the wedding?

mschristie123 · August 2014

I'm assuming she's referencing this?

http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/1032389/possible-change-of-plans#latest

mrsmorales2be · August 2014

We realized that what we really want, and what we were planning, were two very different things. We don't want a large wedding (and with my whole family there, it would be huge!). We just want a small wedding, very simple. The reason we want to move it to Oct. is mostly for FI - he's not juggling work, school, housework, and being alone well. He doesn't have any friends or family close to him. There's a lot more to it, but we're just ready to be married and get him through school.

scrunchythief · August 2014

I think as long as you're not rushing your marriage prep work, he might even be happy with the change in plans. The priest that married us was super happy with how much we were focused on the sacrament/liturgy and not on the details. That said, we had a lot of people there, we just kept the fluff down to a minimum. If the "big" wedding is interfering with you getting the sacrament in a way that sets you up best to live it out, and you want to change that, I would think your priest would have no problem with that.

mrsmorales2be · August 2014

@scrunchythief - we finished our PreCana in May, so that won't be an issue. The retreat, the FOCUUS inventory, the meetings with my priest - we actually learned so much from the process, even in areas we'd already discussed.

scrunchythief · August 2014

mrsmorales2be said:

@scrunchythief - we finished our PreCana in May, so that won't be an issue. The retreat, the FOCUUS inventory, the meetings with my priest - we actually learned so much from the process, even in areas we'd already discussed.

Hooray for early Pre Cana:) We did ours pretty early too (November for a July wedding) and I was so glad we had the time to work on what we'd learned long before things got crazy with wedding planning. Our reasoning was that if, God forbid, something came up that meant we shouldn't get married, we didn't want to feel trapped by the wedding. At that point we only would've lost $300 on deposits. Not saying we anticipated it happening, just that we wanted to be able to honestly assess our relationship. A lot of the other couples were 3 months or less from their date. When I got to that point I was so stressed about the wedding I don't think I could've concentrated on marriage prep. Not saying that's true for everyone, just a reason why I'd encourage the counseling to be earlier in the process.

mrsmorales2be · August 2014

So the meeting is in 7 hours, and I'm all kinds of nervous! Good vibes, woowoo, juju, mojo, T & P, or whatever ya got would be greatly appreciated!

scrunchythief · August 2014

Sending T & P, good vibes, and mojo your way:) Unfortunately, I'm all out of woowoo and juju. Good luck!

mrsmorales2be · August 2014

Here goes nothing - hopefully I'll have good news to report in about an hour!

IrishPirate60 · August 2014

I say go for broke and ask if you can be married at a weekend Mass. The exchange of vows takes all of ten minutes, planning is already done for you...