My grandmother, who raised me, has been a complete nut-case since my engagement. I think it's because she is poor and can't help much with the wedding- but my absentee parents have stepped up- my dad actually helping with money- and my mom being super supportive, catering the event, and having fun dress shopping etc. My grandmother is a notoriously nit-picky person who is very good at belittling me and making me feel ugly- so I didn't bring her to the dress shopping. I think she is feeling left out- so I keep giving her things to be 'in charge of': the 6 flower girls dresses, baskets, priest, floral arrangements- she's basically my go to person on all of those. She likes that a lot- but anything she hasn't had a hand in is deemed 'tacky.'
I keep getting reassurances from others that my ideas are sound,
But despite this, I listen to her, and am worried she's right- even though everybody else (including a friend of ours from Project Runway) loved the choices I've made- she raised me- and she's making me second guess everything.
INTERNET PEOPLE- IS IT TACKY? OR IS GRAN JUST BEING SPITEFUL?
When she saw the dress on me, she said it was tacky and cheap looking. Currently sleeveless, but we're going to add tulle sleevelet things. She wanted something with lots of rhinstones on the top and ruching...
Terrible pic, but here is the dress I chose:
When she saw the bridesmaids dresses she criticized the colors, saying they aren't bright enough for a November wedding.
When she heard I was going with traditional linen ivory table clothes, she again said it sounded tacky.
It's going with something similar to the following flowers, and general place setting (only the runner would most likel be a subtle sage color- as there were no affordable wooden tables in the area and a table cloth is required) Gran thinks I should have table clothes the same color as my flowers...
Please just tell me the truth. I'm rattled and need to hear from people who have no reason to lie to me.
Edited to Add: DRESS AND BRIDESMAID DRESS COLORS ATTACHED