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peachy13peachy13 member
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Any thoughts on these? I received one yesterday from a couple who had a destination wedding as well as a very tacky AHR (bride's PPD, cash bar, no dinner) where we gave them a nice gift. I could really do a whole separate rant on the DW and AHR, the couple, and how much we spent on them as well as both wedding celebrations...

...but then to be thanked via postcard with a few scribbled sentences on the back? 

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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    Was it hand-written or pre-printed? 
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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    I don't think it's a problem that it's on a postcard.


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  • littlemushroomlittlemushroom member
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    I don't see why it would matter that it was on a postcard as long as the couple still wrote the sentences on it.  Do those sentences become better simply because there is a fold in the cardstock it is written on and an envelope to throw away?
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  • Liatris2010Liatris2010 mod
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    If the postcard had a nicely written note thanking your for your gift I think it is fine. If it said, "Wish you were here xo" I think it is a shitty excuse for a thank you note, but I would think that even if it was a folded note in an envelope.
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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    If it's appropriately hand-written and thanks you personally for your gift, it's fine. 
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  • sarahuflsarahufl member
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    Postcards don't bother me. I just want to be appropriately thanked.

    Not thanking me is not cool.
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  • gothic_fairy60gothic_fairy60 member
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    At least you got a thank you, right?
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  • aberry89aberry89 member
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    Postcard thank-yous actually sound like a wonderful idea..


    brideloveshergroom said:
    how much we spent on them as well as both wedding celebrations...

    ...but then to be thanked via postcard with a few scribbled sentences on the back? 


    That's charming. What were you expecting?
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  • peachy13peachy13 member
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    aberry89 said:
    Postcard thank-yous actually sound like a wonderful idea..


    brideloveshergroom said:
    how much we spent on them as well as both wedding celebrations...

    ...but then to be thanked via postcard with a few scribbled sentences on the back? 


    That's charming. What were you expecting?
    I honestly do not complain about spending money at someone else's wedding, but in this case, with DW and AHR, it was much more costly than a standard wedding, and on top of that, the bride and groom were quite stingy towards their guests (DW was at an all-inclusive resort so the guests paid for their own food & drink, AHR was cash bar, no dinner, etc.) For a thank you I guess I was just expecting something a little bit more appreciative than two sentences poorly scribbled on the back of a postcard-- the front of which was a collage of the bride and groom's cheesy engagement photos with a pre-printed "Thank you."

    It's probably just my own issue since it doesn't sound too offensive to most of you. I guess I'm used to receiving postcards from my dentist when it's time to make an appointment, not from a couple thanking me for going to their $$$ two weddings. Sorry, had to snark on this one.
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    I don't see anything wrong with a handwritten postcard for a thank you. 

    Also, if you attended the DW, why did you attend the AHR as well? 
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  • peachy13peachy13 member
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    ClimbingBrideNY said:
    I don't see anything wrong with a handwritten postcard for a thank you. 

    Also, if you attended the DW, why did you attend the AHR as well? 


    stuck!

    attended both because I was in the wedding party, and that's also when bride and groom expected their gifts (there was a card box upon entering the AHR but not at the DW reception). Also everyone had to wear their DW reception get-up at the AHR (bride wore her dress again, etc.) 
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    I side-eye this.  You spent money on a nice gift.  They can spend postage to send a real handwritten thank you note,
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    peachy13 said:
    ClimbingBrideNY said:
    I don't see anything wrong with a handwritten postcard for a thank you. 

    Also, if you attended the DW, why did you attend the AHR as well? 


    stuck!

    attended both because I was in the wedding party, and that's also when bride and groom expected their gifts (there was a card box upon entering the AHR but not at the DW reception). Also everyone had to wear their DW reception get-up at the AHR (bride wore her dress again, etc.) 
    I would side-eye especially if you not only gave them a nice gift, but if you also spent a significant amount of money on attending and being in the wedding party (which it sounds like you did).  The post card itself doesn't bother me.  I have seen some I really like, and as long as the message on the back was sincere, I wouldn't have a problem with it.  Did she show her appreciation in any other way?  


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  • peachy13peachy13 member
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    Time2strtliving said:
    peachy13 said:
    ClimbingBrideNY said:
    I don't see anything wrong with a handwritten postcard for a thank you. 

    Also, if you attended the DW, why did you attend the AHR as well? 


    stuck!

    attended both because I was in the wedding party, and that's also when bride and groom expected their gifts (there was a card box upon entering the AHR but not at the DW reception). Also everyone had to wear their DW reception get-up at the AHR (bride wore her dress again, etc.) 
    I would side-eye especially if you not only gave them a nice gift, but if you also spent a significant amount of money on attending and being in the wedding party (which it sounds like you did).  The post card itself doesn't bother me.  I have seen some I really like, and as long as the message on the back was sincere, I wouldn't have a problem with it.  Did she show her appreciation in any other way?  
    Nope. There were a few other things (I won't get into all the little details) that made it pretty obvious the couple didn't spend too much time looking into basic wedding etiquette. They wanted it to be a "fun, crazy time!" which it was, but a lot of polite gestures were lost along the way.
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  • jennyleigh16jennyleigh16 member
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    We received a postcard thank you this week from a couple whose OOT wedding we attended almost 3 months ago. It had a pre-printed message including "thank you for your generous gift" and a handwritten "thank you for sharing our day". It was address to FI only, though the message started with "FI/Me". 

    I side eyed it. We traveled to their wedding, paid for our hotel, paid at the cash bar, and they were offended that since they picked a sunday afternoon we had to leave to drive home to work the next morning. They had under 30 guests, the bride doesn't work and spends her days seeing movies and enjoying cocktail lunches. They could have sent 3 page handwritten thank you letters to everyone if they felt compelled. 

    I felt all their guests deserved more consideration. 
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