Why did I think this was a good idea?

Inkdancer · August 2014

For the month leading up to the wedding, FI and I decided that we won't have sex, so that our wedding night feels very special.

Two days in, and we're both getting very distracted. We've easily gone 6 weeks at a time without thinking about it, when we're busy and things are going on. Now that we're thinking about it, it's very hard to be patient. Why did I think this was a good idea???

charlottesmom0626 · August 2014

I think your wedding night will be special because you'll be MARRIED.

Go ahead and get some girlfriend.

AddieCake · August 2014

I never understand doing this. If you had NEVER had sex together, that would be one thing. But since you have, I don't see how going 30 days without will make it any more "special." My husband is gone for 1-2 months at a time, and while it's great when he comes home and we get to have sex, it's not any more "special" than any other time we do it. We're just hornier.

Inkdancer · August 2014

AddieCake said:

I never understand doing this. If you had NEVER had sex together, that would be one thing. But since you have, I don't see how going 30 days without will make it any more "special." My husband is gone for 1-2 months at a time, and while it's great when he comes home and we get to have sex, it's not any more "special" than any other time we do it. We're just hornier.

FI and I lived apart for a long time, and I always liked building the anticipation. It made it more fun when we finally got to be together.

SBmini · August 2014

Something you may want to consider... 40% of newlyweds don't have sex on their wedding night. Typically because the groom is drunk or the bride is exhausted. Or in our case... both. We fell asleep watching Cosmos on our wedding night. No regrets. lol.

Inkdancer · August 2014

SBmini said:

Something you may want to consider... 40% of newlyweds don't have sex on their wedding night. Typically because the groom is drunk or the bride is exhausted. Or in our case... both. We fell asleep watching Cosmos on our wedding night. No regrets. lol.

I really hope that doesn't happen to us. We deliberately planned the reception to be over by 3 so we could have a quiet night to ourselves!

AddieCake · August 2014

SBmini said:

Something you may want to consider... 40% of newlyweds don't have sex on their wedding night. Typically because the groom is drunk or the bride is exhausted. Or in our case... both. We fell asleep watching Cosmos on our wedding night. No regrets. lol.

Good point. I was on my period on my wedding night. It showed up as a surprise guest at the rehearsal dinner the night before.

SBmini · August 2014

Inkdancer said:

SBmini said:

Something you may want to consider... 40% of newlyweds don't have sex on their wedding night. Typically because the groom is drunk or the bride is exhausted. Or in our case... both. We fell asleep watching Cosmos on our wedding night. No regrets. lol.

I really hope that doesn't happen to us. We deliberately planned the reception to be over by 3 so we could have a quiet night to ourselves!

3 pm? Yeah, you'll be fine. We weren't back to our room until after 3 am, hence the exhaustion. Husband actually looked at me and said, "Do you really want to have sex right now?" I was so relieved because no, I did NOT want to have sex.

WinstonsGirl · August 2014

Our after party finished around 11pm and we still didn't have sex that night. We were too exhausted!!

Inkdancer · August 2014

SBmini said:

Inkdancer said:

SBmini said:

Something you may want to consider... 40% of newlyweds don't have sex on their wedding night. Typically because the groom is drunk or the bride is exhausted. Or in our case... both. We fell asleep watching Cosmos on our wedding night. No regrets. lol.

I really hope that doesn't happen to us. We deliberately planned the reception to be over by 3 so we could have a quiet night to ourselves!

3 pm? Yeah, you'll be fine. We weren't back to our room until after 3 am, hence the exhaustion. Husband actually looked at me and said, "Do you really want to have sex right now?" I was so relieved because no, I did NOT want to have sex.

Yes, 3 pm. I intend to nap and then go on a husband and wife dinner date. Or just get room service because pants are tyrrany.

smichek said:

Go buy some new lingerie, then tell him you bought new lingerie but he doesn't get to see it until the wedding night. That way you can have the excitement of building up anticipation for the next month and still have sex between now and then.

You, my dear, are a genius. I think I will do this.

lc07 · August 2014

We had sex on our wedding night. That was really important to me. Maybe I'm a weirdo but I thought consummating the marriage was an important part of it and wanted that to be done the same night.

chibiyui · August 2014

We did not have sex on our wedding night. Way too tired, and too many people in the house to be loud.

Personally, I find sex the first time after a long dry spell kinda uncomfortable. Not sexy.

theartistformerlyknownas · August 2014

Sex on your wedding night will be your first married sex. That will be awesome even if you had sex an hour before the ceremony! That was just engaged people sex! You've been having that for months! You'll be married-to-each-other-sex virgins. Awesome no matter what.

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826 · August 2014

OMG I totally wanna have sex on our wedding night. It will be the first instance of unprotected sex EVER. I will be coming off my period and completely ready for it! For some reason, it is totally important to me. I'll drink some redbull or something and I'll be fine. ~_^

OP, you're a warrior. I live with FI and we've never gone 30 days without sex since we've lived together. The lingerie idea is a good motivator but if you slip up between now and then it's okay.

Jells2dot0 · August 2014

I have been unable to have sex for about two months now. With DH being in TX, me being in the hospital, and then having some complications. I'm starting to dream about it frequently and I am desperate for some time with DH when I feel well. So, I say, JUST DO IT

raissyrais · August 2014

@Inkdancer what a cute idea but I don;t know how you guys do it if you are living together lol! Once the fruit becomes forbidden, you must know that it'll be all you'll ever think about...

ETA: Haven't had sex for 6 months (LDR) so pleeeeeaaaaase have the sex for me. Hehe.