My fiancee and I have been dealing with some drama surrounding the rehearsal dinner. bth of our parents are divorced which has also made traditional things a bit more difficult. The grooms mother did not originally show interest or willingness to contribute to the rehearsal, so we began planning on having it at the restaurant I work at. I figured that would be a way to get good food and I could easily hammer out the details with the owners. However, since the planning process has began the mother of the bride has offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner, and it has quickly progressed from there.
She cannot seem to find tme to sit down and discuss details with us and it is creating more stress than the actual wedding itself. Her budget has changed several times, and she is always asking the same questions over and over again. The rehearsal dinner is quickly changing from a relaxing night to hang out with those closest to us before the wedding to a stressful event which has us all on edge. I realize that tradition and etiquette allow the grooms family to plan and throw the rehearsal dinner, but since we are also paying for half now I am not sure how to handle this. I need advice on how to deal with the situation and maybe just her in general.