Is this a new wedding trend that I haven't heard of?

Re: Is this a new wedding trend that I haven't heard of?

• holyguacamole79 member

  

  August 2014

  Whoa. That's pretty tacky. That's the first (and hopefully last) time I've heard of this.

  
  
  
  
  

  

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• SBmini member

  

  August 2014

  I don't think that is a thing, at least I hope it isn't a thing. That's ridiculous! After showing a few people my dress I realized that I didn't really care what they thought because I liked the dress and I would rather it be a surprise then have a lot of people know what they thought. 

  
  

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• MobKaz member

  

  August 2014

  I'm going to show my age here.  It seems like EVERY little thing 20-somethings do these days has to be celebrated and acknowledged.  Where they ate dinner, what they ate for dinner, how an occasion was celebrated, what was gifted for the occasion......the list goes on and on.
  
  I have heard of couples that have a "one year until the wedding" party.  Nothing shocks me any more.  Your hair dresser, however, did not HAVE to go to this party.  Why are people so reluctant to turn down invitations to lame or made up events?
  

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• AuroraRose41 member

  

  August 2014

  @MobKaz I have no idea why she didn't turn it down. I would have in a heart beat. Also, I am 23 myself, but I sure as hell don't need every little thing I do in life celebrated. Then again, I realize I am not like many people in my generation, and I shake my head at them too, so I understand the generalization.
  
  Also, I am so glad you all agree that it is super tacky and AW-ish.
  

  
  

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• bride2b71614 member

  

  August 2014

  I am with anyone who says this isn't a thing. I've never heard of twenty people in a salon to oooh and ahhh a bride. That being said, I personally would never consider even doing that. Dress fittings for me are seen by my closest family members, FILs, and maybe my bridal party can see a few pics.
  
  I also kind of understand where your hairdresser is coming from. FSIL is a new family member (who sounds awish and high maintenance) and she probably doesn't want to say no to anything her FSIL invites her to. She's not obligated to go, but at least she has a funny story to share about her FSIL. That being said, yeah I would have side eyed that hardcore and declined the invite. I'll see the dress at the wedding like everyone else.
  
  

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• MobKaz member

  

  August 2014

  AuroraRose41 said:

  @MobKaz I have no idea why she didn't turn it down. I would have in a heart beat. Also, I am 23 myself, but I sure as hell don't need every little thing I do in life celebrated. Then again, I realize I am not like many people in my generation, and I shake my head at them too, so I understand the generalization.
  
  Also, I am so glad you all agree that it is super tacky and AW-ish.
  

  I take back a bit of that generalization.  It really isn't just the 20-somethings that AW their lives, but I see it the most.  However, social media sites such as Facebook seem to compel people of all ages to broadcast their lives in self important ways.  Suddenly bragging and AW is en vogue.  Yuk.
  

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• steph861 member

  

  August 2014

  I seriously can't stop watching your corgi gif. And yes, that is tacky as hell (the SYTTD party, not the corgi).

  
  
  
  
  

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• wandajune6 member

  

  August 2014

  That's ridiculous. I went with my mom and sister/MOH. We did the same thing when my sister got married.
  
  It's funny- I took some crap from women in both families for not including them. It didn't even occur to me!

  

  

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• misshart00 member

  

  August 2014

  I could understand it if you were maybe iffy about your pick and took a few women with you a second time to get other opinions *before* buying it, but yeah, this is ridiculous.
  
  And I'm also 20-something and don't feel the need to have everyone fawn over me for every little accomplishment.

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• AuroraRose41 member

  

  August 2014

  @steph11814 I know! I laugh every time I see it!
  
  @MobKaz I totally get where you are coming from, and I'm not offended at all. I side eye most things that I see people post on Facebook, regardless of their age .
  

  
  

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• banana468 member

  

  August 2014

  MobKaz said:

  AuroraRose41 said:

  @MobKaz I have no idea why she didn't turn it down. I would have in a heart beat. Also, I am 23 myself, but I sure as hell don't need every little thing I do in life celebrated. Then again, I realize I am not like many people in my generation, and I shake my head at them too, so I understand the generalization.
  
  Also, I am so glad you all agree that it is super tacky and AW-ish.
  

  I take back a bit of that generalization.  It really isn't just the 20-somethings that AW their lives, but I see it the most.  However, social media sites such as Facebook seem to compel people of all ages to broadcast their lives in self important ways.  Suddenly bragging and AW is en vogue.  Yuk.
  

  I feel the same way.   We don't need MORE ways to be the center of attention and yet our generation now has  baby showers AND gender reveal parties.    Plus, we broadcast all of that on Facebook.

  
  

  The other trend that I CAN'T STAND is seeing people who broadcast the wall of gifts that their kids are getting from Santa / the Easter Bunny before they're opened.    Hooray!   You just dropped wads of cash!   Do you feel better about yourself now? 

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• huskypuppy14 member

  

  August 2014

  AuroraRose41 said:

  So, I frequent NEY mostly, but heard something today that made my jaw drop, and wanted to know if you ladies had ever heard of this wedding trend.
  
  I got my hair done this morning, and my hairdresser was telling me how her brother got engaged in July. She really likes her FSIL, but FSIL is apparently way over the top with some things. They have a date set for July 2015, bridesmaids picked out, and the bride bought her dress. I side eyed these things slightly for being early, but no harm done. However, my hairdresser said that her FSIL had a "Say Yes to the Dress" party. No, I am not talking about a TV marathon.
  
  The FSIL picked out her dress with only her mother present, and then invited EVERY female family member to come with her to the bridal salon a second time for the bride to try on her dress again and for everyone to tell her how awesome it was. It was a party to AW her dress, and everyone had to toast the bride for finding a dress. Needless to say, my hairdresser was not happy that she had to go to a salon with 20 other women just for them to tell the bride that the dress she already purchased a week prior was awesome.
  
  I would happily decline this new wedding event if anyone invited me, but is this seriously a thing now?
  

  Your hairdresser didn't have to go. 20 family members is ridiculous. I had my sisters and my mom when I picked out my dress, and then I brought my MIL to see the dress when it came in (7 months later).

  
  

  I don't know why you are side eyeing the bolded. It's not early at all.

  
  

  I was engaged in July of last year and my wedding was in June. I had an 11 month engagement. I bought my dress, secured the venue, and picked my bridesmaids in August. 

  
  

  My dress took 7 months to come in, so it made sense to get it early. The venue only had 2 Saturdays left in June.
  

  
  

  My bridesmaids were my two sisters and my best friend of 14 years. Not likely to change in 11 months.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• AuroraRose41 member

  

  August 2014

  huskypuppy14 said:

  AuroraRose41 said:

  So, I frequent NEY mostly, but heard something today that made my jaw drop, and wanted to know if you ladies had ever heard of this wedding trend.
  
  I got my hair done this morning, and my hairdresser was telling me how her brother got engaged in July. She really likes her FSIL, but FSIL is apparently way over the top with some things. They have a date set for July 2015, bridesmaids picked out, and the bride bought her dress. I side eyed these things slightly for being early, but no harm done. However, my hairdresser said that her FSIL had a "Say Yes to the Dress" party. No, I am not talking about a TV marathon.
  
  The FSIL picked out her dress with only her mother present, and then invited EVERY female family member to come with her to the bridal salon a second time for the bride to try on her dress again and for everyone to tell her how awesome it was. It was a party to AW her dress, and everyone had to toast the bride for finding a dress. Needless to say, my hairdresser was not happy that she had to go to a salon with 20 other women just for them to tell the bride that the dress she already purchased a week prior was awesome.
  
  I would happily decline this new wedding event if anyone invited me, but is this seriously a thing now?
  

  Your hairdresser didn't have to go. 20 family members is ridiculous. I had my sisters and my mom when I picked out my dress, and then I brought my MIL to see the dress when it came in (7 months later).

  
  

  I don't know why you are side eyeing the bolded. It's not early at all.

  
  

  I was engaged in July of last year and my wedding was in June. I had an 11 month engagement. I bought my dress, secured the venue, and picked my bridesmaids in August. 

  
  

  My dress took 7 months to come in, so it made sense to get it early. The venue only had 2 Saturdays left in June.
  

  
  

  My bridesmaids were my two sisters and my best friend of 14 years. Not likely to change in 11 months.

  @huskypuppy I didn't mean to offend. Everything I have read on here says not to pick bridesmaids until 6-8 months out. The venue thing makes sense now; I didn't realize that they book up so quickly!
  
  

  
  

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• missdelilah member

  

  August 2014

  Never heard of this, and I agree that it's ridiculously AWish and tacky.  Everyone else's "say yes to the dress" party is called a wedding.  

  
  

  I agree on keeping it a bit of a surprise.  I showed my FI and MOBs the dress on the manufacturer's website, and told my BMs and dad that I purchased it, although they don't know what it looks like.  That's it.  Everyone else has to wait.  If my BMs really want to know, they can stalk my post here, because I asked for advice on it.

  
  

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• VulgarGirl member

  

  August 2014

  If this is gonna become a legit thing I'm gonna need to buy a bigger flask.

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• huskypuppy14 member

  

  August 2014

  AuroraRose41 said:

  huskypuppy14 said:

  AuroraRose41 said:

  So, I frequent NEY mostly, but heard something today that made my jaw drop, and wanted to know if you ladies had ever heard of this wedding trend.
  
  I got my hair done this morning, and my hairdresser was telling me how her brother got engaged in July. She really likes her FSIL, but FSIL is apparently way over the top with some things. They have a date set for July 2015, bridesmaids picked out, and the bride bought her dress. I side eyed these things slightly for being early, but no harm done. However, my hairdresser said that her FSIL had a "Say Yes to the Dress" party. No, I am not talking about a TV marathon.
  
  The FSIL picked out her dress with only her mother present, and then invited EVERY female family member to come with her to the bridal salon a second time for the bride to try on her dress again and for everyone to tell her how awesome it was. It was a party to AW her dress, and everyone had to toast the bride for finding a dress. Needless to say, my hairdresser was not happy that she had to go to a salon with 20 other women just for them to tell the bride that the dress she already purchased a week prior was awesome.
  
  I would happily decline this new wedding event if anyone invited me, but is this seriously a thing now?
  

  Your hairdresser didn't have to go. 20 family members is ridiculous. I had my sisters and my mom when I picked out my dress, and then I brought my MIL to see the dress when it came in (7 months later).

  
  

  I don't know why you are side eyeing the bolded. It's not early at all.

  
  

  I was engaged in July of last year and my wedding was in June. I had an 11 month engagement. I bought my dress, secured the venue, and picked my bridesmaids in August. 

  
  

  My dress took 7 months to come in, so it made sense to get it early. The venue only had 2 Saturdays left in June.
  

  
  

  My bridesmaids were my two sisters and my best friend of 14 years. Not likely to change in 11 months.

  @huskypuppy I didn't mean to offend. Everything I have read on here says not to pick bridesmaids until 6-8 months out. The venue thing makes sense now; I didn't realize that they book up so quickly!
  
  

  Yes, that's what most people recommend, but it's usually in response to brides saying they want to kick someone out of their wedding because they were not close with them now.

  
  

  It's not against etiquette to choose your bridal party early, but you have to accept the consequences if any of those relationships goes sour. I wasn't concerned about that, and had never heard the 6-8 month before until I came here.

  
  

  My sister chose her attendants almost 2 years before her wedding. She knew who she wanted (and it was all family). 

  
  

  I also sent STDs to everyone on our guest list, which I wouldn't recommend to everyone, but it worked fine for us.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• larrygaga member

  

  August 2014

  misshart00 said:

  I could understand it if you were maybe iffy about your pick and took a few women with you a second time to get other opinions *before* buying it, but yeah, this is ridiculous. And I'm also 20-something and don't feel the need to have everyone fawn over me for every little accomplishment.

  Don't do that. I can just as easily rag on the people who raised the 20 somethings. 

  
  

  Generalizations really suck and nobody likes a generalizer.

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• 500days member

  

  August 2014

  On the topic of choosing venue and bridesmaids, I would say it's appropriate to find the venue you want as early as possible. Lock into a rate before the go up and get the day you want before they are all gone. I booked my venue more than a year out and all of the Saturdays in July were already booked, so I had to book at Friday or find a new venue. We did the Friday. As far as bridesmaids, I would say 9 months out would be a good time to ask. If I was asked 6 months before the wedding I might have more stress with saving money for dress and bachelorette party. I think 9 months is plenty of time.

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• AuroraRose41 member

  

  August 2014

  I'm sorry for not knowing the timelines, but it just seemed like this bride had everything done in less than a month when her wedding is still really far away, and I forgot to mention she was already talking about doing a cruise for her bachelorette party according to my hair dresser. It just seemed like she was doing everything all at once (including her AW parties....) and I could tell my hair dresser was getting exasperated with all of the wedding planning.
  
  @MagicInk I am with you there!
  

  
  

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• jenna8984 member

  

  August 2014

  Definitely one of the stupidest AW things I've heard. If you're one who doesn't care to keep it a secret, then send them a text picture and call it a fuckin day. And I can understand the hairdresser going, even if she thought it was stupid. I'm sure she wants to get along with her FSIL and if the FSIL is that bratty to have such a party, then I think it's fair to say she's bratty enough to hold it against hairdresser and call her "negative and non-supportive" for not going. Causing family drama and coming on here to bitch that hairdresser is the "worst sister in law ever and should be kicked out of the wedding party". 

                                                                   

  
  

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• pinkcow13 member

  

  August 2014

  FFS. That's so ridiculous. It's comical, really. I didn't even know bridal salons would allow brides to come go with such a large entourage. Who does she think she is, Kim Kardashian? 

                               

  

  
  

   

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• ashleybunny8 member

  

  August 2014

  My older sister did this when she got married (about 3 years ago). She went with a coworker to look at dresses, because the family (me, our other sister, our mom, and our aunts) were all working and unavailable. She just so happened to find a dress she loved when she was with her coworker, so a week later she invited all of us to go watch her try it on again. It was lame because we didn't get to ooo- and ahhh- over the dresses. And might I add that NO ONE liked the dress, but we couldn't say anything about it because she had already bought it! 

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