Suck it up and pay?

SJM7538 · August 2014

Hi Ladies! I need some quick opinions.

My sister is getting married Sunday and wants all the girls in cowboy boots. I told her from the get go that I wasn't paying for shoes I would never wear again. So I was going to borrow a pair from one of my sisters friends. Well now her friend has changed her mind and indicated she will be wearing her boots to the wedding.

So my dilemma... my sister has been out all afternoon looking for cheap boots for me for Sunday. The only pair she can find is $60. She sent me a txt and said she has searched everywhere and this is the only pair she can find and she asked me to split the cost with her. My mom is already paying for my hair because money is tight right now. Do I tell her no and possible cause her stress and drama 4 days before her wedding or just suck it up and cough up the $30?? I mean its $30 less that will go towards my credit card bill this month. I know its only $30 but thats a lot to her. She doesn't work so the only income they have is her fiances.

JCbride2015 · August 2014

So the $30 each is a lot for you, and it's a lot for her. Why can't she just make an exception for you and not require that you wear the boots?

smalfrie19 · August 2014

I don't think so. You told her from the get go you weren't going to pay for shoes you wouldn't wear again. As a bride myself, I wouldn't pay.

bethsmiles · August 2014

I would probably suck it up and pay the $30. Only because honestly it is really going to stick out if you are the only one not wearing cowboy boots (I'm assuming the dresses are short) and I don't think $30 would be worth a potential fight with the bride a few days before her wedding.

Maybe you can sell them after the wedding a recoup your money?

lyndausvi · August 2014

what a mess. Did you try a thrift store?

I would like to say I wouldn't pay for the boots, but I know myself and would just to keep the peace. What can I say? I'm weak sometimes. Anyway to resell them after the wedding to recoup the costs?

slothiegal · August 2014

Stick to your guns. You told her from the beginning that you weren't going to pay for a pair of boots you'll never wear.

Her BM's shoes should be causing her exactly zero stress.

hellosweetie1015 · August 2014

If it were me, there's no way in hell I'd ever wear the boots again, but I would still cough up the $30 if it was something that would make your sister happy. If it's a one-time $30 expense, I would do it. BUT: I'd be hella annoyed.

JennyColada · August 2014

bethsmiles said:

I would probably suck it up and pay the $30. Only because honestly it is really going to stick out if you are the only one not wearing cowboy boots (I'm assuming the dresses are short) and I don't think $30 would be worth a potential fight with the bride a few days before her wedding.

Maybe you can sell them after the wedding a recoup your money?

These were my exact thoughts.

RebeccaFlower · August 2014

JennyColada said:

bethsmiles said:

I would probably suck it up and pay the $30. Only because honestly it is really going to stick out if you are the only one not wearing cowboy boots (I'm assuming the dresses are short) and I don't think $30 would be worth a potential fight with the bride a few days before her wedding.

Maybe you can sell them after the wedding a recoup your money?

These were my exact thoughts.

Mine too. That said though, you really don't have to if you feel strongly about it. I wouldn't be happy about it either.

levioosa · August 2014

Agree with PPs. I would first look at a couple thrift stores and see if they had some for cheaper. If not, I would buy the boots and then resell them after the wedding. If you just wear them for the ceremony and pictures, you can probably keep them in almost new condition. Good luck!

MairePoppy · August 2014

It's wrong of your sister to insist that you wear cowboy boots, plus, it's such an ugly look. I know you should refuse to pay for them. IMO, you should refuse to wear the damn boots, because footwear is such a personal preference and they are downright uncomfortable. That said, I'd fork over the $30 to keep the peace. I wouldn't buy used boots or borrow boots cause people's feet sweat in them and I'm a fussy PITA about shoes.

sarahufl · August 2014

I would pay, just to keep the peace. I also think it is absurd, but for 30 bucks, I would just do it.

beachyone15 · August 2014

I would do it to make my sister happy...but I wouldn't like it!

SJM7538 · August 2014

Thanks for the opinions ladies! I decided just to suck and it up and pay the $30. It's my little sister and I love her. And I agree that it's a trend that I am by no means of fan of and she shouldn't be dictating my footwear (I let my BMs wear whatever shoes they wanted BTW) but its not worth causing her stress 4 days before the wedding. Theres been enough stress with her wedding planning. Unfortunately $30 is kind of a lot to H and I right now...we are trying to pay down some pretty substantial debt and keep on a pretty strict budget. I just decided to put $30 less on my credit card this month to cover the cost. Not a hill I want to die on.

SJM7538 · August 2014

Just to add- I am totally annoyed with this. But that will stay between us. lol

slothiegal · August 2014

SJM7538 said:

Thanks for the opinions ladies! I decided just to suck and it up and pay the $30. It's my little sister and I love her. And I agree that it's a trend that I am by no means of fan of and she shouldn't be dictating my footwear (I let my BMs wear whatever shoes they wanted BTW) but its not worth causing her stress 4 days before the wedding. Theres been enough stress with her wedding planning. Unfortunately $30 is kind of a lot to H and I right now...we are trying to pay down some pretty substantial debt and keep on a pretty strict budget. I just decided to put $30 less on my credit card this month to cover the cost. Not a hill I want to die on.

As I thought more about it, and if I would do it for my little sister-in-law, I think I would've done the same. As much as it pains my bitchy side to say it, I think you did the right thing.

Hopefully the rest of the wedding goes off without a hitch!

PineapplePopsicles · August 2014

SJM7538 said:

Thanks for the opinions ladies! I decided just to suck and it up and pay the $30. It's my little sister and I love her. And I agree that it's a trend that I am by no means of fan of and she shouldn't be dictating my footwear (I let my BMs wear whatever shoes they wanted BTW) but its not worth causing her stress 4 days before the wedding. Theres been enough stress with her wedding planning. Unfortunately $30 is kind of a lot to H and I right now...we are trying to pay down some pretty substantial debt and keep on a pretty strict budget. I just decided to put $30 less on my credit card this month to cover the cost. Not a hill I want to die on.

Take pictures of them while they're new and while it is on your mind and put an ad on the TK classifieds board. Someone will buy them from you. Wear socks with them and I bet you can resell them pretty easily.

sophhabobopha · August 2014

I'd do it, but I'd tell her I thought it was stupid as hell.

SJM7538 · August 2014

PineapplePopsicles said:

SJM7538 said:

Thanks for the opinions ladies! I decided just to suck and it up and pay the $30. It's my little sister and I love her. And I agree that it's a trend that I am by no means of fan of and she shouldn't be dictating my footwear (I let my BMs wear whatever shoes they wanted BTW) but its not worth causing her stress 4 days before the wedding. Theres been enough stress with her wedding planning. Unfortunately $30 is kind of a lot to H and I right now...we are trying to pay down some pretty substantial debt and keep on a pretty strict budget. I just decided to put $30 less on my credit card this month to cover the cost. Not a hill I want to die on.

Take pictures of them while they're new and while it is on your mind and put an ad on the TK classifieds board. Someone will buy them from you. Wear socks with them and I bet you can resell them pretty easily.

Funny you say this bc I've already decided to cut my losses and promised them to a friend who loves cowboy boots after the wedding. They're going to be gross. It's going to be 93 and 70% humidty the day of the wedding. This friend is close enough where my sweat doesn't bother her. lol

holyguacamole79 · August 2014

What size do you wear? What color are they?

SJM7538 · August 2014

@sarahbear31‌ I wear an 8 and the boots are brown and/or tan. She didn't really care too much about color.

holyguacamole79 · August 2014

Well foo. I had been considering getting a new pair, but I'm a 9.

I hope the wedding goes well!

SJM7538 · August 2014

@sarahbear31 these are the boots. My foot is weird and I may have to go a size up. I fluctuate between 8 and 9 depending on the shoe. If I end to having to go get a size up I'll let you know and their yours after Sunday for $20. A 9 will be too big for my friend. lol. And I'll wear socks haha

holyguacamole79 · August 2014

Argh, I prefer black boots. Good luck, though!

jdluvr06 · August 2014

I wouldn't pay for them. I would never wear cowboy boots anyway. I don't care whose wedding it was.

holyguacamole79 · August 2014

paperpusher said:

Pinterest really has ruined a lot of things.
I'll admit that I love it because it gives me crafting ideas and recipes for food.
But after compiling my own wedding board on there and looking back I'm so glad I only did 4 1/2 things out of the 157 things I pinned and not more.

I only did 1, and I regretted it. Damn DIY centerpieces!

huskypuppy14 · August 2014

Lurkers: This is why you don't dictate your bridesmaid's footwear, unless you pay for it.

lyndausvi · August 2014

I'm a size 8. If you lived close I would let you wear mine. They are assume. I where them all the time in the fall, winter and spring. Seriously some of my most comfortable footwear I own.

I never wear them with dresses or shorts.

SJM7538 · August 2014

@lyndausvi‌ thanks. Just the thought is nice

I think they can look cute with certain outfits.
Just not my thing. Any other type of boot I'm all over it. And I really don't like them as a wedding trend.
But again... It's my sister so I'll suck it up

shelbygetsmarried1214 · August 2014

That's super irritating but it is your sister. I would fork out the $30 to make her happy, it is her day. Just make sure you put on a couple layers of socks in them and blow hot air from your hair dryer on them to break them in a couple days before the wedding. Those things are known for giving bad blisters at first!

Sugargirl1019 · August 2014

shelbygetsmarried1214 said:
That's super irritating but it is your sister. I would fork out the $30 to make her happy, it is her day. Just make sure you put on a couple layers of socks in them and blow hot air from your hair dryer on them to break them in a couple days before the wedding. Those things are known for giving bad blisters at first!

YES. New boots are SO uncomfortable! But they get really comfortable if you break them in. Socks! Nice thick knee high socks!

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