So after more than 7 years of engagement, the wedding is finally less than a month away! And we are so excited, and nervous, and anxious, and happy. It was such a struggle in many ways to get here. Can you say it's about time? Now's as good a time as any, right?
Apparently my mother-in-law thinks so..to plan a wedding FOR HERSELF, that is. She informs us of this just the other day. It will be the week before ours. And she's upset that several family members, including her kids, have said they won't come.
His family lives out of state. They've known the wedding date for about a year and a half. I was already irritated that a lot of them can't make it and/or didn't bother responding, or can only stay part of a day etc. But this, my friends, this takes the cake. It's her third marriage, and it's "not a big deal" so she can't understand why all her kids are upset about it. She's been "waiting all summer" for some financial issues to get resolved so that's why it has to be this coming month. Apparently that's THE ONLY MONTH there is. Of all the self-centered, careless things to do.
I feel like his side is treating our whole wedding like an afterthought. Not only has not a single one offered any physical or financial help during the whole thing, but they are kind of treating it like an inconvenience to come all the way out here. Not that we expected any help, but a simple call to say "Hey, what can we do to help?" would have sufficed. Forget the fact that we didn't have a shower or anything because I was trying to make it easy for everyone, or that we didn't have anyone rent tuxes and the bridesmaid dresses were under $50.
I'm trying so hard right now to let it roll off me. I realize tensions are high during wedding planning, but COME ON. And now I'm thinking, no way is her third husband being in any of our photos, because I'm pretty sure he'll be gone in about two years anyway. Had we married two years ago, another ex's face would have been in the pictures. And two years before that, a different one. And so on, and so on.
The one thing that REALLY gets to me is that instead of being moral support for her son, who's going through a major life event and could really use some of his mom's focus for a couple weeks, she's gotta make it about herself. The look of hurt on his face is a lot more than I can take right now.
I know I'm being bitter and hateful, so any advice to me so that I don't strangle her?