Alternative to Bridal Shower?

andyleemrrs · May 2014

So I have a bit of a problem. I live in California. About 75% of my friends and family are in different states. Any alternative to a traditional shower? Any suggestions are awesome!

tortoisebride · May 2014

It's up to your friends & family to organize a bridal shower for you. They'll figure it out, or not.

NYCMercedes · May 2014

andyleemrrs said:

So I have a bit of a problem. I live in California. About 75% of my friends and family are in different states. Any alternative to a traditional shower? Any suggestions are awesome!

This question would be appropriate from one of your friends or relatives who offered to give you a shower. Has anyone?

AddieCake · May 2014

As PPs have mentioned, it would be up to others to organize a party for you. And if most everyone is in a different state, it doesn't seem likely that there is much chance of any kind of get together.

JoanE2012 · May 2014

andyleemrrs said:

So I have a bit of a problem. I live in California. About 75% of my friends and family are in different states. Any alternative to a traditional shower? Any suggestions are awesome!

Agree w/ PPs.....you shouldn't be worrying about a shower. Leave that to your family and/or friends if they choose. Keep in mind that a shower is not a requirement and not everyone gets one.

andyleemrrs · May 2014

Yes, my maid of honor.

manateehugger · May 2014

I live in a different state than all of my bridesmaids, who are scattered all over. They just coordinated with me to find a time when I would be in town and invited everyone - those who could make it, did.

princessleia22 · May 2014

My BM's, family, and I live in 4 different states, on all sides of the country. They decided to host one back in my home town, so most of family could go, and coordinated a time that could work for me to be there. I've also had different offer for shower where I currently live. Really, I don't think there is a "shower alternative" that wouldn't involve people actually having to get together.

tcnoble · May 2014

@andyleemrrs I'm in a similar situation - I live in Vegas with about 90% of our guests and my closest friends/family living out of state (and not within driving distance). My sisters are my MOHs and came to me asking about if/how they might approach a bridal shower in this situation... I told them realistically it wasn't likely to happen but that I wasn't expecting one so they shouldn't stress about it. They moved on to planning the bachelorette weekend instead

andyleemrrs · May 2014

I think that it is what I am going to do!

muzeqdiva · August 2014

I am in the same situation...what about having the shower, bachelorette party and ceremony all in the same week? Since I'm getting married in the summer, I think people might be willing to take off maybe a day or two during the work week for example: Thursday (bridal tea/Shower) Friday (rehearsal), Saturday (ceremony/reception)... What do you all think?

JoanE2012 · August 2014

muzeqdiva said:

I am in the same situation...what about having the shower, bachelorette party and ceremony all in the same week? Since I'm getting married in the summer, I think people might be willing to take off maybe a day or two during the work week for example: Thursday (bridal tea/Shower) Friday (rehearsal), Saturday (ceremony/reception)... What do you all think?

I like to use my vacation time at work for vacations or other things for me. I take as little time off as necessary for weddings. If your wedding required me to fly in, I would try and fly in Friday night. Unless I was a close friend or family member AND in the wedding party, chances are I would only show up at your wedding.

muzeqdiva · August 2014

JoanE2012 said:

muzeqdiva said:

I am in the same situation...what about having the shower, bachelorette party and ceremony all in the same week? Since I'm getting married in the summer, I think people might be willing to take off maybe a day or two during the work week for example: Thursday (bridal tea/Shower) Friday (rehearsal), Saturday (ceremony/reception)... What do you all think?

I like to use my vacation time at work for vacations or other things for me. I take as little time off as necessary for weddings. If your wedding required me to fly in, I would try and fly in Friday night. Unless I was a close friend or family member AND in the wedding party, chances are I would only show up at your wedding.

Okay. Thanks for sharing!

jenijoyk · August 2014

We threw my bestie a "Showerette" a few days before her ceremony to reduce the number of times people had to travel to get to her. It was super fun and they're doing the same for me now!

muzeqdiva · August 2014

jenijoyk said:

We threw my bestie a "Showerette" a few days before her ceremony to reduce the number of times people had to travel to get to her. It was super fun and they're doing the same for me now!

So what does the "showerette" consist of? Combo of shower and bachelorette party? Or...

jenijoyk · August 2014

Yes! Combo shower and bachelorette party. The one we threw for my bestie involved dinner at her favorite restaurant, with cute, shower-y decorations, and cheesy bridal shower games. As dinner was wrapping up, my co-hosts and I ran out early (after paying of course) so we could stuff her bridal shower gifts in the car, and then stood outside the restaurant door while the girls came out. We handed each a cupcake, a balloon, a mini-champagne bottle and straw, and some sort of ridiculous party favor (we had beads, the veritable peeny headbands, sashes, etc.) and this marked the transition from shower to bachelorette. Then we marched on down the street to a local bar where we danced around like crazies. Hence, we dubbed it a Showerette.

muzeqdiva · August 2014

That's cute! I might have to run this past my MOH! LOL

jenijoyk · August 2014

Also, we did it the Thursday night before the wedding. Yeah, I had to take an extra day off work so I could fly in on Thursday afternoon, but I was in the wedding party and was happy to do it.

Most of the other non-bridesmaid Showerette guests were already local. So they didn't have to take time off, and we purposefully made the "shower" part a dinner so people could come after work. Is it weird to have a shower on a Thursday at 6pm? Maybe. But as a host, I would have felt awkward inviting non-BMs to a weekday daytime party. I wouldn't be happy to get that invite.

But the shower/dinner thing worked out and I think she was happy to get the "shower" experience of cheesy games and gifts. We could have easily made it "just" a bacheorette party, but this seemed more fun. Showerettes --> I highly recommend.

muzeqdiva · August 2014

jenijoyk said:

Also, we did it the Thursday night before the wedding. Yeah, I had to take an extra day off work so I could fly in on Thursday afternoon, but I was in the wedding party and was happy to do it.
Most of the other non-bridesmaid Showerette guests were already local. So they didn't have to take time off, and we purposefully made the "shower" part a dinner so people could come after work. Is it weird to have a shower on a Thursday at 6pm? Maybe. But as a host, I would have felt awkward inviting non-BMs to a weekday daytime party. I wouldn't be happy to get that invite.
But the shower/dinner thing worked out and I think she was happy to get the "shower" experience of cheesy games and gifts. We could have easily made it "just" a bacheorette party, but this seemed more fun. Showerettes --> I highly recommend.

Definitely! That might work...I'm in the same situation where my Bridesmaids are out of town, but my non-Bridal Party people are local...I'm excited! My other option was memorial day weekend, but I didn't want to have my BMs spend to much $ commuting!

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