Thank you note timeframe

kimberly0315 · August 2014

So, a previous post got me thinking. My cousin got married over 2 months ago. We couldn't attend because it was in the US and we live overseas. We sent a gift voucher for a substantial amount to their house after their honeymoon. I have still not received a thank you. My mother and sister have also not received a thank you for their gift, so it's not just me. My concern is whether they received it. Is it appropriate to email my cousin and new wife to ask if they received our gift? Or do I let it go?

I have always been one to write a thank you note within days of receiving a gift so I'm not actually sure what the appropriate time frame is. I also don't want a gift voucher to have gotten lost.

Cheers

huskypuppy14 · August 2014

I have usually always gotten a thank you note within 3 months of a wedding, if I got one at all. I'd casually mention that you hope they received your gift.

The only time it was more than 3 months was a wedding my now husband and I went to a few months after we started dating. That wedding was in July, and we didn't get a thank you note until November. Side eyed it, but at least we got one.

My husband and I had all our thank yous done within 1 month of the wedding, and we had half of them done a few days after the wedding.

The other half took a little longer because we moved into our house the week after the wedding.

If the wedding was large, they may not have gotten them all done yet. I made sure to promptly send thank you notes to everyone, but the ones that were mailed were done first, as opposed to ones given at the wedding.

theartistformerlyknownas · August 2014

I think that's an appropriate length of time to ask if they've gotten it.

ohmrs2014 · August 2014

We had ours out in the mail exactly 3 months after the wedding. They say you have up to a year, but I personally believe the sooner the better. I feel like nothing later than 4-5 months.

beethery · August 2014

ohmrs2014 said:

We had ours out in the mail exactly 3 months after the wedding. They say you have up to a year, but I personally believe the sooner the better. I feel like nothing later than 4-5 months.

You have up to a year to give a gift. You have about 6 weeks after the wedding to get thank you cards out before you venture into rudeland.

huskypuppy14 · August 2014

ohmrs2014 said:

We had ours out in the mail exactly 3 months after the wedding. They say you have up to a year, but I personally believe the sooner the better. I feel like nothing later than 4-5 months.

No, you are supposed to send them out as soon as possible. You do not have a year, people took the "year to give a gift" and twisted it for thank you notes.

4-5 months is way too long. I start to question if I'm even getting one after more than 2 months.

kimberly0315 · August 2014

Thanks everyone. I'll give it another week or two. If I don't receive one by then I will just ask. My main concern is that they actually got the gift.

[Deleted User] · August 2014

I had the same situation (sent gift in June, shower was in July, wedding was in August) and I just decided to ask. I got the TY note two days after asking, but I was still concerned that the gift arrived or if I had to get on the horn to Target or FedEx to find out if it had been shipped.

ohmrs2014 · August 2014

@huskypuppy14 @beethery thanks for clearing that up! Glad I sent mine out sooner.

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