My inlaws want to throw a party for us for the friends they didn't invite or were not able to come three weeks before our wedding. I have polietly informed that 3 weeks before the wedding will not happen and that we can do it the month after. To give you some history- we are having a smaller wedding and the guest list was small. My in laws invited all their "have toos" rather than the "want toos". Some of their guests have declined and we didnt want to fill them up and rather have a small wedding. This has always been conveyed (but thats another story). I told my FH that I thought it was a slap in the face to their friends as well as my parents. (My in laws havent paid offered to help out -money wise or wedding prep wise- what so ever and have blamed my parents for the small list) My FH is not understand that 3 weeks before our wedding will not happen (I have explained I have something to do every weekend leading up to the wedding but he has me to move it around) HELP!