How did you deal with the table minimums etc? I'd love to cover it, but it's just not in our budget to do it for the size group we are having. We've been quoted $3k minimum spend (plus service etc) for a 40 person group at Hyde after our wedding, with a fountain view table. We can probably cover about half of this, meaning that our guests would need to pay about $55 each.
We were never planning to host the afterparty, rather just go somewhere and guests buy their own drinks, but as we need to pay when we get to Hyde as it is bottle service, I will need to ask for money towards it.
We're hosting drinks the night before, 5 hours of open bar (and dinner) at the reception and a buffet breakfast the morning after. If you were a guest, would you think that is ok to pay a bit of money towards the afterparty?