I love her and she's such a sweet lady. It's so nice that she wants to include me in everything. But she keeps making plans for me, and it's really fucking pissing me off!
She has a friend that lives in Saratoga. I have never met this woman and her husband before. The first time I'll meet them is at the wedding. This is the text I get from FMIL last week. "Was just talking to Christine. I told her we'd all come up next summer and stay at her house for a long weekend."
Ugh. Wonderful. Just what my social anxiety loves! Staying in someone's house that I don't fucking know!
FI has a friend Caren. I also know Caren through mutual friends from years ago. We just realized that Caren's mom and FMIL know each other. I have never in my life met Caren's mother. FMIL again just texted me this. "Was just talking to Caren's mom. She's so great. I told her next time I come up after the wedding, we're all going to go to dinner. You'll love her."
Now, I realize that this may not be a problem for a person without anxiety. But for me, all of this sounds like a nightmare. And she doesn't even ask me. It's just assumed. And because I'm a people pleaser and I hate any kind of confrontation, I'll just go along with it. Sure, I can speak up. I can tell FMIL, "You know, I'm really not comfortable doing that." But then I risk upsetting her. She thinks of me as the daughter she's never had and I don't want that to change at all. I don't want her to be disappointed in me. I don't want her to feel differently about me. She gushes to all of her friends (and everyone she meets) how much she loves me. I'm lucky to have that!
So, thank you for letting me vent ladies. I feel better now. Phew.