Forever Long engagement...:/

Re: Forever Long engagement...:/

• caitlinmca member

  

  August 2014 edited August 2014

  It sucks! I've been engaged since Sept 2013 granted we talked about dates, but didn't pick an actual date until Jan 2014 when I went to one of the biggest bridal shows in my area and all I heard was 2015 this and 2015 that. That is when I knew I best jump on a date, and even then, some of the venues that I wanted were already booked for my date.
  
  The good thing about the long engagement is that I have been able to take my time with things, I have been able to DIY a lot of my things such as my aisle bows made out of ribbon that will go on my chairs for the ceremony, half of my centerpieces, I made my block of hotel rooms in June-July '14 for my April '15 wedding, I've had my wedding dress bought since Nov '13. I have personally liked my long engagement because I haven't needed to stress about, do I have this done, do I have that done, I only have 2-3 months left and I still need this that and the others.
  
  I know a girl that has been engaged for a while, picked a date, changed her date, and is now getting married in Jan '15. Sometimes moans and groans that she still has a ton of stuff to do and not much time.
  
  For us with long engagements, we can take our time with things, work on them when we want, as fast or as slowly, and not be stressed out. Can it sometimes take the fun away from things in the end, yes, but do you get to the same ending result...yes!
  
  This is the DIY centerpiece that I am doing!
  
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• caitlinmca member

  

  August 2014

  Photo that won't show up! My DIY centerpiece!
  

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• jackannlu member

  

  August 2014

  Think about what BOTH of you really want and what is important to you guys. You shouldn't have to talk him into eloping, because if he really wants a wedding, it isn't fair to him just because you are stressed and impatient. Like you said, you've already done a lot, so why the stress? If you feel that everything is falling on you, speak to your FI, mother, MOH, etc., and see what they suggest and how they can help you. But think hard about eloping! Because if its not what you reeeaaally want, then you might end up regretting not having a wedding. 

  
  

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• HannahClaire22 member

  

  August 2014

  Yeah I think you are right, I don't think I really want to elope. Thanks for all your help!

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• ohmrs2014 mod

  

  August 2014

  DH and I had a long engagement.  There is nothing wrong with it.  It gives you time to really think about what you want and save for it.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• jessicalstory member

  

  September 2014

  If it makes you feel better at all, by the time my fiance and I get married, we will have been engaged for three years At first, we wanted to get married right away, but kept putting it off because of money. Now that it's been two years since his proposal, I realized that this is exactly what we both needed (and wanted!). It gave us so much time to budget and decide on a theme, as well as settle down in a great place and spend time with each other as an engaged couple. We're just getting through the bulk of our planning, and even though it's stressful, just remember that it'll all be worth it in the end Good luck with the rest of your plans, and congratulations on your engagement!

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  September 2014

  Our date got pushed twice. At first when I thought about it, it seemed like we have been engaged for a while (i was just impatient) this november makes 1 year engaged (see just me being impatient lol) . I have 8 months until I get married and some days i get so impatient and just want it to be tomorrow. But overall I am thankful for the next 8 months because despite all of the hard work I have put in, I still have soooooo much to do that i can't get done in any less than 8 months!

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