My sisters wedding is Nov 2015, and I am truly excited for her. Now two things she asked me if I can guarantee my appearance for that day. So I told her
" I will do everything I can to make it there, I will let my boss know and take some days off to make sure work is not a problem."
Then she ask again "but can you guarantee you will be there? I know life throw curve balls but I want to know if you can guarantee."
So I told her again "I will do everything I can to make sure nothing happens but I cant flat out guarantee it."
Then she ask "well if you cant make it will you promise not to touch the saving for the wedding?"
Im like what? she insite that if I cant make I don't touch the money I saved to go see her so now yes im a lil frustrated and I tell her "if something happen that made me not be able to go its more then likely a financial problem."
so she said "so you cant guarantee you will come. I need to know."
so I tell her again "I will do everything I can if something happens I will keep you posted like I always do." BTW we live in two different states.
Im assuming she wants me to guarantee it because of her last engagement I was suppose to go up there, but she broke it off and one day she asked me if I could visit her . I told her "I have no money" and she asked me bout the savings and I told her I had to use.
she then went off on me saying "well if I was still getting married you wouldn't show up then?" and I told her "if you were still getting married I would of found another way if it was possible but you weren't so I used the money to help myself and my kids to survive."
So ok we some how drop that topic but pretty much the next day she start asking what my dress size is, so ok no big deal but I cant give her a size as Im currently pregnant ( 13 weeks) and Ill be delivering end of feb 2015. I don't know what size I will be by nov and she getting mad at me. Saying she wants to get the dress now she needs to know the size, so now Im try explaining "I honestly don't know what my size will be I don't want to give you a size to only find out when I get there it wont fit im pregnant remember"
but she got mad insisting for a dress size, so I said "ok look im currently M 8-10 somewhere around there if it don't fit ill try and resize it" and she seemed surprised and say "you can resize a dress?"
I was like yeah people resize their wedding dress all the time but she didn't like the idea because we wouldn't have time. Or at least that's what she made it sound like she was upset about the time frame.
But now I know its her wedding (not her first) and she wants it perfect im supposed be her MOH and well she already has a replacement if I don't show up now if I do show up (in her words) then she will have two MOH.
Ok so if you have back plans why are you making it hard on me? im doing everything I can to save for her wedding and survive. im in a very difficult financial situation and I want to be there because she is my twin she is my best friend and I keep telling her I will do everything I can. I will try to bring everyone all my kids our mom and my fiancée but we have to do a road trip take work off (both my fiancée and I) then have to rent a room and go back down its not cheap but we are trying really really hard.
so am I over reacting or is this normal are you suppose tell your guest to guarantee there presence? or force them to tell you your dress size so early in the preparation? I kinda feel like im the bad guy but I always feel like im the bad guy...
EDIT: I really hope this is better I honestly am horrible with grammar and paraghe and well proper English