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This should probably go on invites board but...

whoaitsmeganwhoaitsmegan member
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If I write "Mr. & Mrs. Smith" on the outer envelope of my invitations, can I write "Mr & Mrs Smith & family" on the inner envelope or do I need to list every kid? I have a few families with a lot of kids and I would rather not write them all out (one of them has 7 kids). OR can I just write "The Smith Family" or "The Smiths" on the inner envelope?

Thanks for the help!!
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Re: This should probably go on invites board but...

  • SP29SP29 member
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    Ok, generally "and Family" or "The Smith Family" means everyone living in the household.

    However, I would caution you with writing "and Family" as other people often do not understand what this means and think they can literally bring their whole family (grandma, etc). 

    We listed every kid on the inner envelope, however very few of our guests had young kids, and at the most, 2 per family, so I can see your pain in trying to fit 7 kids + 2 adults on an envelope. 

    I will leave the rest to the etiquette gurus...
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    I'd write the names on the inner envelope. It's just clear that way.
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  • pinkshorts27pinkshorts27 member
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    I'd write names. My grandma would think "And family" means her grown up step children, grandchildren, and even a boy they fostered 10 years ago (now adult and living out of state). Heck, she would say that her neighbor's kids are family. 

    You risk a lot with that "and family"

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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    @banana468, you're around! Has Chiquito joined us yet? OP, I think writing out names is wisest to avoid any misinterpretations of who is invited.




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  • lovesclimbinglovesclimbing member
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    I did do "and family" and had no problems with anyone bringing random other relatives.  It is probably best to do names, but you know your family best and if they're the kind that would think "and family" means they can bring half a dozen relatives.  To me "and family" means the adults bringing their kids.  And all of my friends and relatives (there were at least 10-15) thought that too.
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    banana468 said:
    @banana468, you're around! Has Chiquito joined us yet? OP, I think writing out names is wisest to avoid any misinterpretations of who is invited.
    Yes! I need to do an update post when I get two free hands!
    YESSSSSSSS update!!!

    So question... would it be appropriate to write it out as "The Smith Household?" So not the whole "family," but anyone who lives at that address?
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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    banana468 said:
    @banana468, you're around! Has Chiquito joined us yet? OP, I think writing out names is wisest to avoid any misinterpretations of who is invited.
    Yes! I need to do an update post when I get two free hands!

    Congrats!!!!! I hope you're both well!




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  • whoaitsmeganwhoaitsmegan member
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    OH jeez. I didn't think about that. Okay, probably listing names for most. Thanks!
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