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Best Man speech

jerkyannejerkyanne member
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edited August 2014 in Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

My FH's Best Man just found out that he will not be able to make the wedding.  He is in the Army, it is completely out of his hands.

He messaged me about surprising FH with his best man speech via prerecorded video.  I think FH would love this (and TBH while he understands and isn't angry, him not having his BM there is really getting him down).  I was wondering though, as a guest, would anyone mind this?

ETA: Or do you think it would be more appropriate during the rehearsal dinner with a smaller crowd?

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Re: Best Man speech

  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    I definitely wouldn't mind, especially considering the circumstances.  (There are and were a lot of veterans in my family so I'm a strong supporter of service men and women.)

    But depending on how intimate the speech is, your FH might prefer to play it at the rehearsal dinner.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I wouldn't mind.
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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    I wouldn't mind. Usually they're not "speeches" though, they're toasts. So if its a long speech (not a short toast), maybe it makes more sense for your FI to watch it before the wedding while the guys are getting ready.
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  • slothiegalslothiegal member
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    Like southernbelle pointed out, if it's more of a "speech" rather than a toast, it might be better suited at a different time.  But if it's the toast the BM had planned on giving on the wedding, I would think it's very special as a guest.
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  • jerkyannejerkyanne member
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    All good points. I'm thinking I'll probably watch it when he sends it (and probably cry like a child, FH's BM is such an awesome person. I'm pretty sad he's not going to be there too.) and see how long winded or personal he gets then decide where best suited.
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    I wouldn't mind at all. In fact, I would think it's sweet.
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  • beetherybeethery member
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    I would think that was rad as hell. I say go for it.
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    Another vote for doing it

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  • princessleia22princessleia22 member
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    I love the idea.  I agree that you don't want a 10 minute speech, but a minute or two would be very heartfelt and awesome.  I think your FI and the guests would be really touched by it.  

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