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I had words with my neighbor this morning.

We live on an extremely narrow street. And we also live off of a very busy main road. One of our neighbors, instead of waiting with this daughter at the bus stop, has been parking his extremely large SUV at the end of the street. He and his daughter wait inside the car for the bus. He did this all last year. It's virtually impossible to see around his vehicle without pulling far into the road. 

This morning as I was pulling to the end of the street, he had his monster SUV there. And a man and a child were walking down the very busy road and past our street. Because of this dickhead's car, it was hard to see them, and if I had not been paying attention, I could have hit both of them. So, I decided something had to be said. I rolled down my window, and told him it was ridiculous for him to park there. 

He told me that I am the only one complaining (not true). 

When I asked why he couldn't stand out there with her, instead of parking his car there (they literally live 25 feet away from the end of the street and the bus stop), he had nothing to say. He knows I'm right! 

I seriously was there for a good 5 minutes. He kept reiterating that I'm the only one that cares. And I kept telling him, "You're creating a hazard! I could have hit that man walking with this child, because I can't see around your vehicle!" And then I told him that I will call the cops on him every single morning if he keeps parking his car there. 

So, anyway. that's how my morning is going so far. How are you guys? 

Re: I had words with my neighbor this morning.

  • I'm glad you said something! That is incredibly dangerous and selfish to boot. And you're right, I'm sure you're not the only one that has said something to him about it.

    My morning is okay so far. I pulled my hamstring on Monday (don't climb on giant hay bales when you're drunk) and today the pain is finally starting to subside and I can walk without limping. So happy it's Friday as we. I plan to spend tonight and the rest of the weekend getting a million wedding things done that I've put off because I don't want to do them. So over this whole wedding planning business.

  • No offense, but I think this wasn't a great way to approach this.

    People do this in my neighborhood too. Except they stop AT the intersection. So sometimes I'm not sure if they're stopped at the stop sign or if they're just waiting for the bus. It's really fucking annoying. 

    But if I were going to approach them about it, I'd do it on a morning I wasn't pissed, not in front of their kid, not after a potential incident, and not in the "you're a fucking idiot, what the hell are you thinking?" kind of way. People aren't usually going to change their ways being approached like that. If you actually want change, I think it's better to reason with people. Even if they are acting like terds.
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  • Ugh, I'm sorry about that @climbingbrideny

    I almost started a thread the other day about bad neighbors.  Our next door neighbors leave their dog out on their deck all day.  Our weather ranges from 100 degrees and humid to violent storms. 

    Then when they get home, they  let the dog run out the front door to use the bathroom, but they don't go out with her or watch her, and she goes all over the cul-de-sac. 

    So the other night, I'm pulling into the garage, and this dog darts in front of my car from out of nowhere.  I get inside and go upstairs to let my own dog out.  He doesn't use a leash, but I do go outside with him, and he doesn't leave the yard.

    I look around to make sure neighbor dog is gone, and I think we're in the clear.  We get out and he's looking for a good spot to do business, when the other dog runs in to the yard.  My dog is a bit dog aggressive, particularly with another animal in his yard.  So, I have to grab my dog who is about to poop and take him inside because this other dog won't leave him alone.  I actually said aloud, "Sorry, buddy, you can't poop in your own yard because our neighbors don't watch their own fucking dog."  I said it quietly, but I wouldn't be upset if they had a window open and heard me. 

    They also don't cut their side yard.  They do the front and back, but not the side.  We have a sidewalk between our houses, and their weeds have almost crossed the whole thing into our yard.

    /end rant




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  • I'm glad you said something! That is incredibly dangerous and selfish to boot. And you're right, I'm sure you're not the only one that has said something to him about it.

    My morning is okay so far. I pulled my hamstring on Monday (don't climb on giant hay bales when you're drunk) and today the pain is finally starting to subside and I can walk without limping. So happy it's Friday as we. I plan to spend tonight and the rest of the weekend getting a million wedding things done that I've put off because I don't want to do them. So over this whole wedding planning business.

    Ouch! I'mg lad the pain is going away. 
  • No offense, but I think this wasn't a great way to approach this.

    People do this in my neighborhood too. Except they stop AT the intersection. So sometimes I'm not sure if they're stopped at the stop sign or if they're just waiting for the bus. It's really fucking annoying. 

    But if I were going to approach them about it, I'd do it on a morning I wasn't pissed, not in front of their kid, not after a potential incident, and not in the "you're a fucking idiot, what the hell are you thinking?" kind of way. People aren't usually going to change their ways being approached like that. If you actually want change, I think it's better to reason with people. Even if they are acting like terds.
    Well, I never cursed at him. My FI has actually knocked on their door numerous times to talk to them about this. They're either not home or they refuse to come to the door. And I honestly thought using the example of the man walking with this child right then would help him realize that it's extremely dangerous to do that. 
  • Ugh, I'm sorry about that @climbingbrideny

    I almost started a thread the other day about bad neighbors.  Our next door neighbors leave their dog out on their deck all day.  Our weather ranges from 100 degrees and humid to violent storms. 

    Then when they get home, they  let the dog run out the front door to use the bathroom, but they don't go out with her or watch her, and she goes all over the cul-de-sac. 

    So the other night, I'm pulling into the garage, and this dog darts in front of my car from out of nowhere.  I get inside and go upstairs to let my own dog out.  He doesn't use a leash, but I do go outside with him, and he doesn't leave the yard.

    I look around to make sure neighbor dog is gone, and I think we're in the clear.  We get out and he's looking for a good spot to do business, when the other dog runs in to the yard.  My dog is a bit dog aggressive, particularly with another animal in his yard.  So, I have to grab my dog who is about to poop and take him inside because this other dog won't leave him alone.  I actually said aloud, "Sorry, buddy, you can't poop in your own yard because our neighbors don't watch their own fucking dog."  I said it quietly, but I wouldn't be upset if they had a window open and heard me. 

    They also don't cut their side yard.  They do the front and back, but not the side.  We have a sidewalk between our houses, and their weeds have almost crossed the whole thing into our yard.

    /end rant
    That really sucks. Bad neighbors like that are the worst. If you're not going to properly care for a dog, then don't have one! 
  • I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM ON MY STREET!

    I am not ballsy enough to say something, but good for you for approaching the neighbor. I forgot about the issue during the summer, but now that school is back in session it's very much a problem. I've thought about reporting it to the police. 

    I would take a photo of it next time it happens so you have a license plate number if you need to take it to the next level and report it to authorities. 
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  • ElcaB said:
    I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM ON MY STREET!

    I am not ballsy enough to say something, but good for you for approaching the neighbor. I forgot about the issue during the summer, but now that school is back in session it's very much a problem. I've thought about reporting it to the police. 

    I would take a photo of it next time it happens so you have a license plate number if you need to take it to the next level and report it to authorities. 
    That's a good idea. I have a friend that works at the police department too. I've mentioned it to him in the past, and he said either get a picture or call. 
  • I would very obviously stand behind the car in the middle of the street and snap lots of pictures paparazzi style. From all different angles. So he sees you. And wave your camera at him.

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  • It's fun to think about how we would handle things, but actually doing them is another story. I had to have words with my neighbor (condo building) and chose to slip a note under her door. The rest of the day I was paranoid she'd vandalize my door or something. So yeah, I'm a bit wimpy. Luckily the note worked and the behavior stopped. So that being said, if this guy is parked or stopped illegally, I'd simply notify the non-emergency police department. If not, the next time this happened, I'd roll down the window and ask him nicely to move the car back a bit so I could see around him.
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  • Yay!  Good for you!  I often have the same problem at the end of my street, but it tends to be random delivery trucks, so there's really not much to be done.  
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  • Ugh bad neighbours.  I'm pretty sure mine is a drug dealer, so that's awesome. (sarcasm alert)
  • Glad you said something! So often people are too afraid of standing up and saying something everyone else is thinking. Hopefully other neighbors do the same so he realizes that it isn't just you. 

    I too spoke my mind to an asshole this morning so I'm feeling pretty good about it. But I'm not separated from him by steel. I can actually see his desk. But the nerve of that guy! He kept me out of a process that directly impacted me for 9 months then asked me to help him define "the role I would have wanted to be doing here" so they can hire it.

    Seriously dude- fuck you. If you wanted my opinion you had 9 months to ask for it. I'm not going to help you hire the job I wanted now.

    I told him to go look at my last review, that all of the information is there.
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  • Ugh bad neighbours.  I'm pretty sure mine is a drug dealer, so that's awesome. (sarcasm alert)
    So, one time there was a black Dodge Charger sitting in front of my house all day.  I was freaking out thinking criminals were casing my house.

    FI (then BF) gets home, I tell him, and he goes up and taps on the window and motions for the guy to roll it down.  FI says, "Can I help you?  You're really freaking out my girlfriend."

    Guy whips out a freaking DEA badge!  FI was like, "Um, can you tell me which neighbor I need to avoid."  Guy was not amused and rolls up the window.

    He came back the next day, but was never seen again. As far as we know, there was no bust or drug raid in the neighborhood.  All our neighbors are old people and yuppies, so we still wonder who they were watching.




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  • We have a new neighbor who is proving very quickly he won't be making friends soon. We live up in the mountains and none of the houses have fences. There are four house about 1/4 acre apart including our. 3 of the 4 of us have dogs that more or less roam the forest together. All of us know each other and are used to the others dogs just showing up for an unexpected play date. 

    On Sunday at noon the new neighbor showed up flipping out that our dog and one of the others had been barking. He was right they had been for about 5 or 10 minutes at deer that were trying to eat veggies out of our other neighbors garden. He told us that if we didn't shut the dogs up, he would shut them up for us and then mentioned he was in a motorcycle club. 

    Really? Is he planning to intimidate the dogs into shutting up? I could understand if it was at night, but the noise ordinances in our area don't protect you at noon. Plus dogs barking in a forest during the day 1000X less annoying than the sound of a motorcycle breaking the silence at 1 am. 


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  • afox007 said:
    We have a new neighbor who is proving very quickly he won't be making friends soon. We live up in the mountains and none of the houses have fences. There are four house about 1/4 acre apart including our. 3 of the 4 of us have dogs that more or less roam the forest together. All of us know each other and are used to the others dogs just showing up for an unexpected play date. 

    On Sunday at noon the new neighbor showed up flipping out that our dog and one of the others had been barking. He was right they had been for about 5 or 10 minutes at deer that were trying to eat veggies out of our other neighbors garden. He told us that if we didn't shut the dogs up, he would shut them up for us and then mentioned he was in a motorcycle club. 

    Really? Is he planning to intimidate the dogs into shutting up? I could understand if it was at night, but the noise ordinances in our area don't protect you at noon. Plus dogs barking in a forest during the day 1000X less annoying than the sound of a motorcycle breaking the silence at 1 am. 


    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eZZmdDr9RlU

    You will feel better if you watch this.

    Also maybe talk to your local PD about this douche making threats and mentioning motorcycle gang affiliation.
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  • afox007 said:
    We have a new neighbor who is proving very quickly he won't be making friends soon. We live up in the mountains and none of the houses have fences. There are four house about 1/4 acre apart including our. 3 of the 4 of us have dogs that more or less roam the forest together. All of us know each other and are used to the others dogs just showing up for an unexpected play date. 

    On Sunday at noon the new neighbor showed up flipping out that our dog and one of the others had been barking. He was right they had been for about 5 or 10 minutes at deer that were trying to eat veggies out of our other neighbors garden. He told us that if we didn't shut the dogs up, he would shut them up for us and then mentioned he was in a motorcycle club. 

    Really? Is he planning to intimidate the dogs into shutting up? I could understand if it was at night, but the noise ordinances in our area don't protect you at noon. Plus dogs barking in a forest during the day 1000X less annoying than the sound of a motorcycle breaking the silence at 1 am. 


    WTF? What an asshole. 
  • Ugghh, as I got to the end of my street this morning, the man in the last house whipped out of his driveway so fast, without looking, that he almost took me out.  I had to swerve, slam on the brakes, and lay on the horn so he didn't hit me.  He stopped, then waved at me when I continued.

    I actually had to stop for a minute to compose myself, that's how close it was.  I was also in a car accident in May, so I am admittedly a bit on edge.

    DH thinks I'm nuts, but I am actually really hoping that he says something when I see him walking the dog tonight.  I would LOVE an apology!

  • afox007 said:
    We have a new neighbor who is proving very quickly he won't be making friends soon. We live up in the mountains and none of the houses have fences. There are four house about 1/4 acre apart including our. 3 of the 4 of us have dogs that more or less roam the forest together. All of us know each other and are used to the others dogs just showing up for an unexpected play date. 

    On Sunday at noon the new neighbor showed up flipping out that our dog and one of the others had been barking. He was right they had been for about 5 or 10 minutes at deer that were trying to eat veggies out of our other neighbors garden. He told us that if we didn't shut the dogs up, he would shut them up for us and then mentioned he was in a motorcycle club. 

    Really? Is he planning to intimidate the dogs into shutting up? I could understand if it was at night, but the noise ordinances in our area don't protect you at noon. Plus dogs barking in a forest during the day 1000X less annoying than the sound of a motorcycle breaking the silence at 1 am. 



    I would probably keep a close eye on your dog because that sounded like a threat. I don't want to freak you out but there are douches out there who wouldn't think twice about shooting a dog for barking. 

    I'm so happy that my new neighbors have been awesome so far. I used to have really annoying neighbors though. They were kind of creepy too. The one family is rich and bought and rehabbed two houses on the street. One for his family and one for one of his employees families. Both families have a lot of kids that they homeschool, which whatever, nbd. Then they bought a third house that went up for sale and moved another family in. Then a fourth house. Eventually the guy flat out said that he intended to buy all the houses on the block and move "his people" in. That wouldn't have freaked me out except, one night I saw them all standing in a circle in their yard, chanting, and passing around a cup. Also we were starting to have a wildlife problem in the neighborhood because they thought it was cute to feed opposums and raccoons. 
  • jdluvr06 said:
    afox007 said:
    We have a new neighbor who is proving very quickly he won't be making friends soon. We live up in the mountains and none of the houses have fences. There are four house about 1/4 acre apart including our. 3 of the 4 of us have dogs that more or less roam the forest together. All of us know each other and are used to the others dogs just showing up for an unexpected play date. 

    On Sunday at noon the new neighbor showed up flipping out that our dog and one of the others had been barking. He was right they had been for about 5 or 10 minutes at deer that were trying to eat veggies out of our other neighbors garden. He told us that if we didn't shut the dogs up, he would shut them up for us and then mentioned he was in a motorcycle club. 

    Really? Is he planning to intimidate the dogs into shutting up? I could understand if it was at night, but the noise ordinances in our area don't protect you at noon. Plus dogs barking in a forest during the day 1000X less annoying than the sound of a motorcycle breaking the silence at 1 am. 



    I would probably keep a close eye on your dog because that sounded like a threat. I don't want to freak you out but there are douches out there who wouldn't think twice about shooting a dog for barking. 

    I'm so happy that my new neighbors have been awesome so far. I used to have really annoying neighbors though. They were kind of creepy too. The one family is rich and bought and rehabbed two houses on the street. One for his family and one for one of his employees families. Both families have a lot of kids that they homeschool, which whatever, nbd. Then they bought a third house that went up for sale and moved another family in. Then a fourth house. Eventually the guy flat out said that he intended to buy all the houses on the block and move "his people" in. That wouldn't have freaked me out except, one night I saw them all standing in a circle in their yard, chanting, and passing around a cup. Also we were starting to have a wildlife problem in the neighborhood because they thought it was cute to feed opposums and raccoons. 
    I could see him shooting the dogs so mine has been having supervised outside time this entire week. I feel bad because like I said before he had run of the forest so it seems mean to have him cooped up in the house because of this douche. 

    We've had a raccoon problem ever since the douche moved in. I think there are two reasons 1) our neighbor was called out about the barking way before we were since their houses are closer so she told the rest of us to bring the dogs in at night. All three dogs used to chase off the raccoons. 2) She also said when she was out walking she noticed he doesn't have any lids on his trash while the rest of us have those lockiung cans they can't get into. 
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  • jdluvr06 said:

    I'm so happy that my new neighbors have been awesome so far. I used to have really annoying neighbors though. They were kind of creepy too. The one family is rich and bought and rehabbed two houses on the street. One for his family and one for one of his employees families. Both families have a lot of kids that they homeschool, which whatever, nbd. Then they bought a third house that went up for sale and moved another family in. Then a fourth house. Eventually the guy flat out said that he intended to buy all the houses on the block and move "his people" in. That wouldn't have freaked me out except, one night I saw them all standing in a circle in their yard, chanting, and passing around a cup. Also we were starting to have a wildlife problem in the neighborhood because they thought it was cute to feed opposums and raccoons. 
    And you're 100% this isn't a cult? Because if it looks like a cult, sounds like a cult, shares kool-aid like a cult....
    Were your neighbors Bill Paxton, Ginnifer Goodwin, Jeanne Tripplehorn, and Chloe Sevigny?




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  • jdluvr06 said:

    I'm so happy that my new neighbors have been awesome so far. I used to have really annoying neighbors though. They were kind of creepy too. The one family is rich and bought and rehabbed two houses on the street. One for his family and one for one of his employees families. Both families have a lot of kids that they homeschool, which whatever, nbd. Then they bought a third house that went up for sale and moved another family in. Then a fourth house. Eventually the guy flat out said that he intended to buy all the houses on the block and move "his people" in. That wouldn't have freaked me out except, one night I saw them all standing in a circle in their yard, chanting, and passing around a cup. Also we were starting to have a wildlife problem in the neighborhood because they thought it was cute to feed opposums and raccoons. 
    And you're 100% this isn't a cult? Because if it looks like a cult, sounds like a cult, shares kool-aid like a cult....

    They might be a cult. Idk. I'm happy we moved away though. Actually we ended up selling that house to them. They gave us the highest offer and didn't have to finance anything because the dude is rich.
  • I really should have read this thread earlier! Tuesday, FH and I are texting, as he was working that night. In the middle of our boring exchange, he writes, "chicken in the front room". I have visions of my dog having found a drumstick leftover from the night before, so I write, "what?" "A real chicken. I have to get it out". I was sitting at my desk, wondering what to do. Go home because chickens have invaded my house with two cats and a German shepherd? How on earth did it get in? The neighbors did have a full grown rooster but it's been MIA for the last month. Turns out they are rearing another one who is now a teenager. It somehow got out retractable screen to open up and squeezed in. To the room with my new fabric furniture. My pretty tea chair. And FH's clothes everywhere. He finally got it out but not after pooping on my circular rocking chair. WTF. We live in South Central LA, not freakin' central Iowa!
    Happiness is an inside job
  • Ugh bad neighbours.  I'm pretty sure mine is a drug dealer, so that's awesome. (sarcasm alert)
    Back when DH was just BF, he was living with a guy he had found on Craiglist, whom he claimed was a convicted arsonist.  When he told me that, I kind of brushed it off, thought maybe he lit a fire at a riot or something (I don't know, I'm from Detroit).  

    I got to work (this was back in my courthouse days) the next day and looked up his file--yeah, apparently he lit a house on fire....with people inside....and served about 20 years in jail.

    That was the last time I spent the night at DH's house.
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  • Ndelible said:
    I really should have read this thread earlier! Tuesday, FH and I are texting, as he was working that night. In the middle of our boring exchange, he writes, "chicken in the front room". I have visions of my dog having found a drumstick leftover from the night before, so I write, "what?" "A real chicken. I have to get it out". I was sitting at my desk, wondering what to do. Go home because chickens have invaded my house with two cats and a German shepherd? How on earth did it get in? The neighbors did have a full grown rooster but it's been MIA for the last month. Turns out they are rearing another one who is now a teenager. It somehow got out retractable screen to open up and squeezed in. To the room with my new fabric furniture. My pretty tea chair. And FH's clothes everywhere. He finally got it out but not after pooping on my circular rocking chair. WTF. We live in South Central LA, not freakin' central Iowa!
    hahaha! My dog is part lab but 100% bird dog. My husband was off one day. He went upstairs to take a nap but heard commotion downstairs. He called for the dog and she game into the entry way with a live dove in her mouth. She tried to give it to him. He kind of freaked out because he didn't want the bird and told her to drop it.

    She did

    Then he had to deal with chasing the dove around to get it out of the house. The dog eventually caught it again and my husband ushered her outside where she dropped the bird and it flew away. But before the dog got the bird a second time the poor thing crapped EVERYWHERE! Months later when I was painting the kitchen I found bird shit on top of my fridge. 
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  • SBmini said:
    Ndelible said:
    I really should have read this thread earlier! Tuesday, FH and I are texting, as he was working that night. In the middle of our boring exchange, he writes, "chicken in the front room". I have visions of my dog having found a drumstick leftover from the night before, so I write, "what?" "A real chicken. I have to get it out". I was sitting at my desk, wondering what to do. Go home because chickens have invaded my house with two cats and a German shepherd? How on earth did it get in? The neighbors did have a full grown rooster but it's been MIA for the last month. Turns out they are rearing another one who is now a teenager. It somehow got out retractable screen to open up and squeezed in. To the room with my new fabric furniture. My pretty tea chair. And FH's clothes everywhere. He finally got it out but not after pooping on my circular rocking chair. WTF. We live in South Central LA, not freakin' central Iowa!
    hahaha! My dog is part lab but 100% bird dog. My husband was off one day. He went upstairs to take a nap but heard commotion downstairs. He called for the dog and she game into the entry way with a live dove in her mouth. She tried to give it to him. He kind of freaked out because he didn't want the bird and told her to drop it.

    She did

    Then he had to deal with chasing the dove around to get it out of the house. The dog eventually caught it again and my husband ushered her outside where she dropped the bird and it flew away. But before the dog got the bird a second time the poor thing crapped EVERYWHERE! Months later when I was painting the kitchen I found bird shit on top of my fridge. 
    LOLZ!  A couple of years ago, a bird got in through the chimney, so when I got home, it was flying all over the place, driving the cats crazy.  The male cat, James, did catch it, but really didn't know what to do it with (#IndoorHouseCatDeficiencies).  It was so painful to watch because he just couldn't kill it.  I sucked it up, got the bird away from him with a rag and let it go.  Good thing it's wings were not broken.  

    And I wonder why they can't catch flies either.
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