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WR: Bridal Shower

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What would you do if you got invited to a "cash only" bridal shower? I just got home, checked my mail box and I'm invited to FI's cousin's bridal shower. She is getting married in November. I was pretty excited to see the invitation, as I wasn't sure if she was going to have one since it's her second marriage and FMIL said that she probably wouldn't. Well, looks like the groom's mother is hosting...and she hand wrote at the bottom "greenback". WTF IS THAT.

So, I googled it and it's a fucking cash shower. I am shocked and at a loss for words right now, because I would never imagine FI's cousin having a shower like that. Deep down I do not want to attend, but I know that it would be noticed and I don't want to start any drama with FI's family over not going to a shower. I just don't understand where these stupid ideas come from and I just want nothing to do with them. 

Has anyone ever attended one of these showers? Was it super awkward? 
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  • phiraphira member
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    I'd decline the SHIT out of that invitation after making sure I had some other plans that day.
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  • SwazzleSwazzle member
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    NOPE. No way would I want to attend something like this. The purpose of a shower is to shower the bride with gifts, not to make it rain with cash. That said, it kind of sounds like the bride might know nothing about it. I would probably go because of that and to avoid any drama but I would bring a boxed gift like I would at any other shower. If the groom's mother or anyone else is tacky enough to say something, tell them you don't know what the fuck a greenback is.



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  • 500days500days member
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    Thanks for the responses, ladies. I checked the invitation again and my FMIL and FSIL are listed as hosts (in teeny tiny print) but I guess the main host is the FMIL of the bride since her name is bolded with the phone number. Now, I'm embarrassed. And I don't know why since it's not me? 
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  • lmcooper86lmcooper86 member
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    My initial response would be DECLINE, but I would sort of secretly want to go and be judgey about it in my head. But I'm a little bit terrible.

    If you feel that it would be too awkward to not show up (understandable, she's going to be part of the family), then I would go but take a boxed gift. If anyone has the audacity to say something about it, I would very innocently reply that I thought the whole point of a bridal shower was to give gifts…right?

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  • KeptInStitchesKeptInStitches member
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    I'd plan to wash my hair that day.
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  • Dignity100Dignity100 member
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    If you do not feel the bride knows anything about it, I would probably go and take a boxed gift.  If anybody mentions about bringing the box gift just mention back that it's rude to ask for money and that gifts are not a mandatory obligation.

    If you think the bride is involved and knows about it, I would decline!!


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  • lavenderfields13lavenderfields13 member
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    Personally I wouldn't go but that's just me. My friend recently got invited to a shower like this. She actually did have plans so couldn't go so she sent the bride a gift card to Crate & Barrel or some store like that so she would HAVE to use it on something for the home. I'd probably send nothing but I'm a bitch like that.

    I agree with PPs who said if you feel like you MUST go then bring a boxed gift.

     




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  • BaytoSA2013BaytoSA2013 member
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    ^^^^Winner Winner, chicken dinner!!!

    I'd probably go and assume that the poor bride, who it sounds like wasn't even going to have a shower, knows nothing about this and like others said bring a small boxed gift.  I kind of feel bad for her if she truly doesn't know because awkward at gift opening time.

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  • 500days500days member
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    I'm going out to eat shortly with FI and FMIL. I'm sure FMIL will ask if I got the invitation since she is technically co-hosting the shower. I honestly do not know if the bride knows, but my FI thinks she does know and probably doesn't know any better. 

    I had to get FI up to speed on etiquette once we started planning and he said that he has become aware of some no-no's that they will be pulling at the wedding- like a cash bar and money dance. 

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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    So tacky! I wouldn't go or send anything.


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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Since it's future family, I'd probably go, but I'd bring a boxed gift.  Preferably, something with a green back.  A turtle?  A CareBear?  A really weirdly colored beetle? 
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