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Need Help with a ceremony idea

Knottie38307189Knottie38307189 member
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My fiancé and I met on match.com.  We feel like we may have never met one another if it wasn't for our two friends that made us sign up when we were both so against the idea.  We wanted to find a way to do something special for them on our wedding day or at least recognize them.  We are having a fairly small wedding, so they will not be in the wedding part unfortunately, but we want them to know how special they are to us since they are somewhat our "good luck" charms :-).  Any ideas??? 
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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    I wouldn't do this in your ceremony. If you have a program, you could say something in it as a thank you.




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  • Knottie38307189Knottie38307189 member
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    Thank you! I am so clueless on everything so I wasn't sure what to do really.

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  • artbyallieartbyallie mod
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    By the way, you should also send a message to KnotPorscha with a few possible screenname choices so you can ditch the Knottie#s one. If you're going to continue posting, we want to be able to remember you and get to know you!
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  • RebeccaFlowerRebeccaFlower member
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    Eh, I think this is more personal than anything. I think you should write both of them a sweet note and mail it a couple days before the wedding. This isn't something I would make it public.
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  • NdelibleNdelible member
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    During the toasts might be a good idea. Many couples thank the person or persons responsible for their meeting.
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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    I would get them a corsage/boutonniere for the day of along with a note about how grateful you are to them and give them a good seat at the reception.
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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    Ndelible said:
    During the toasts might be a good idea. Many couples thank the person or persons responsible for their meeting.

    B&G don't usually give toasts.




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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    I'd write them nice notes and perhaps take them out to dinner or something like that.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    You could mention them while giving your toast that "We would like to take a moment thank our friends Jim and Jane. For those of you who don't know, we met through match.com and if Jim and Jane wouldn't have encouraged each of us to sign up, we never would have met."
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  • jacques27jacques27 member
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    sarahbear31 said:
    Ndelible said:
    During the toasts might be a good idea. Many couples thank the person or persons responsible for their meeting.

    B&G don't usually give toasts.
    That could be regional then.  Every wedding I've been to except for one, the groom (usually) gives a short toast thanking their parents, the wedding party, the guests, and his new bride.  It's usually done after the best man gives his toast.
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  • jenijoykjenijoyk member
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    jacques27 said:
    sarahbear31 said:
    Ndelible said:
    During the toasts might be a good idea. Many couples thank the person or persons responsible for their meeting.

    B&G don't usually give toasts.
    That could be regional then.  Every wedding I've been to except for one, the groom (usually) gives a short toast thanking their parents, the wedding party, the guests, and his new bride.  It's usually done after the best man gives his toast.
    Same here. I've never been to a wedding where the groom didn't toast the hosts and the guests and say thank you. We'll probably do this right before cutting the cake. 
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    Erikan73 said:
    You could mention them while giving your toast that "We would like to take a moment thank our friends Jim and Jane. For those of you who don't know, we met through match.com and if Jim and Jane wouldn't have encouraged each of us to sign up, we never would have met."

    I like this idea.  There is no reason it would be inappropriate to share this with your guests, but I do like sharing it at the reception rather than the ceremony.
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  • destinationtake2destinationtake2 member
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    That's sweet. Hey, at least you can get ideas and thank those responsible for your pairing.  H and I met at a wedding and the couple was divorced by the time we married so it would have been super awkward to thank them. ;)



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  • LittlePeachBlossomLittlePeachBlossom member
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    No offense, but I just don't understand the desire to do something extra special for anyone at a wedding. I would think the way to do this is to give them honored roles such as BM, gm, or reader in religious ceremony.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Knottie38307189 said:
    My fiancé and I met on match.com.  We feel like we may have never met one another if it wasn't for our two friends that made us sign up when we were both so against the idea.  We wanted to find a way to do something special for them on our wedding day or at least recognize them.  We are having a fairly small wedding, so they will not be in the wedding part unfortunately, but we want them to know how special they are to us since they are somewhat our "good luck" charms :-).  Any ideas??? 
    Find out if they're okay with public recognition before you make plans to do anything.  Then find out what kind of recognition they'd be okay with.  They might not mind a mention in a program but might mind a mention in a speech, etc.
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  • annakay511annakay511 member
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    I would mention it in the program or as part of the toast you give at the reception.
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  • oxfordcomma14oxfordcomma14 member
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    I wouldn't put it in the program, but maybe mention it very briefly in the toast to the guests/hosts (like 'and a special thanks to Bill and Karen for bringing us together in the first place") or have them participate in the ceremony in a special way without tying it to the website thing (i.e. have them be readers or light the outer portions of the unity candle if you have one).

    And yes, every wedding I've been to includes a short toast from the bride and groom thanking the guests and families/WP/hosts if there are any.
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