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The Wedding Recap

LadyMillilLadyMillil member
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edited September 2014 in Chit Chat
I've posted some details before about Bridezilla sis. This is going to be a long recap of everything that happened since she started planning her wedding until today. 

Background - she is the biggest AW I've ever met. She has this weird complex about me getting to do things before her because I'm older (she was seriously pissed that I learned how to drive before her) and she thinks everything in life is a competition between the two of us.

She started planning the day after she found out I was engaged. She started pressuring her H to propose at this time, using such classics as "you must not love me because you don't want to marry me"
She told me last summer that after attending so many of her friends' weddings, as well as me getting married in the next year, it made her realize how much she wanted to have a wedding. She also wanted to get married so her and H could live together - his mom doesn't approve of living together before marriage, so they didn't live together.
Every time I talked about my wedding her response was "this is what we're doing at MY wedding". She was not engaged at the time.
I flew across the country to go BM dress shopping with my mom, sis and BFF. Sis spent the whole time trying to convince the consultant to bring her wedding dresses to try on. Consultant refused. She was not engaged.
She picked out and bought engagement ring and gave it to H to propose to her with.
She booked a venue before H proposed and told him that they were getting married next September.
The day after she got engaged she told (not asked) people to be in WP. She demanded the BMs immediately go buy the dress she picked out as well as shoes, accessories and jewelry. She also talked about mandatory hair styles, make-up and nails. Nofucks were given for budget (about 3.5x more than I could afford to spend) or comfort of BMs. Also, she demanded I drop everything to drive 2 hours each way to the bridal salon to get the dress 10 months in advance because it was stressing her out that I didn't buy it immediately. She didn't care about me being too busy to do that at the time.
I was forced out of the WP and another BM was promoted to MOH. A new BM was asked because even sides.
Invitations sent out 4.5 months before wedding. I never received a paper invite, just a FB invite.
FB group created for people to attend the wedding to join. She used the group send out biweekly reminders to RSVP starting 3.5 months out.
Wedding seating - hay bales and blankets on the ground. MOB provided chairs for old people.
Dress code - casual semi-formal
Rain plan - no cover, but wedding would go ahead outside as planned unless there was severe inclement weather. In the case of severe inclement weather, ceremony would be moved to reception site and begin an hour later
No hotel information provided on website. About 50% of the guests were OOT and not familiar with the area.
3 hour unhosted gap so they could take 100's of Pinterest pics. There were no bars, restaurants, fast food places, etc within a 30 minute drive of the ceremony or reception so I have no idea what the guests did during this time.
Bar was by donation.
Memorial to her favourite uncle during the ceremony. Made a little awkward because uncle's widow was there and has remarried.
Head table with no SOs
Parking was in a field. Huge storms the night before so the field was muddy. No one was allowed to park in the driveway. This included an aunt with a disabled son in a wheelchair. 
The ground at the ceremony site was wet and squishy. I have no idea what the people sitting on blankets thought of this.
Bouquet toss. Not a big deal, except she walked around waving her bouquet in the single ladies' faces and pulling them up to be a part of the bouquet toss.
She spent all last night on FB uploading pictures. There are about 25 pictures so far and not one of them has her H in them, they are all pictures of her in her wedding dress with her friends.
She is angry with my parents, who paid for the wedding and did all the set up and take down, because they won't take care of her dogs during the honeymoon. She said she wanted to get a second dog, parents said they would only watch one dog, she got a second dog anyways.
The wedding was all burlap and lace. Nothing seemed to really go together. It was a weird combination of vintage and modern, formal and super casual.
The best part. I've mentioned a couple times that the officiant can't legally marry them so they were going to get legally married at the RD and have a symbolic ceremony for the wedding ceremony. Because of the giant storm the RD didn't happen. I didn't want to stir the pot because my parents are so relieved they don't have to deal with her planning her wedding anymore, but there is a very good chance they aren't actually married.
Besides the karma stuff I mentioned on my other thread, I think that's everything.


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  • There's just no pleasing some people
  • Am sorry to say this but this farce of a wedding/marriage is bound for absolute, absolute divorce. She bought the ring herself? And asked her BF to propose with said ring? That woman is absolutely batshit crazy. And all that for a PPD?! Wow, sounds like the utmost SS to me...am pretty astounded right now. She failed to comply with every single etiquette in the wedding planning book. Probably a good thing you didn't attend that wedding. She sounds like a nutcase...watch the show go down. Cause that shit will!
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  • No offense Lady, but your sister is a piece of work.
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  • Holy moly OP, your sister sounds just like my FSIL!! She drives me batty.

    In fact, there are lot of eerie coincidences, including the e ring/proposal, the venue booking and the seating. 

    I sympathize with you.
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  • OMG. Please tell me when everyone finds out she's not legally married, or she can't apply for married thing documents because, well, she's not.

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  • I'm sorry, but the stories about your sister make me feel so much better about my own family... although still not FSIL. I think it will take a while for this all to sink in. Fing hilarious! But I feel so, so sad for everyone who attended that PPD.
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  • How does your sister have any friends or anyone in her life who will even talk to her?
  • Too bad it rained.
  • The best part. I've mentioned a couple times that the officiant can't legally marry them so they were going to get legally married at the RD and have a symbolic ceremony for the wedding ceremony. Because of the giant storm the RD didn't happen. I didn't want to stir the pot because my parents are so relieved they don't have to deal with her planning her wedding anymore, but there is a very good chance they aren't actually married.

    I lol'd.
  • I got no words.
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  • Wow, that is A LOT of snowflaking!!

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    So she proposed to herself, ungratefully had your poor parents plan this, she isnt legally married (maybe?) and comitted so many etiquette no-nos it's almost easier to list what she did RIGHT.  Just...wow.

    So...How do you feel about this whole thing lasting?  I mean do you give it two years?  Ten?  Three years and PPD-style do-over?  
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  • The best part. I've mentioned a couple times that the officiant can't legally marry them so they were going to get legally married at the RD and have a symbolic ceremony for the wedding ceremony. Because of the giant storm the RD didn't happen. I didn't want to stir the pot because my parents are so relieved they don't have to deal with her planning her wedding anymore, but there is a very good chance they aren't actually married.
    Besides the karma stuff I mentioned on my other thread, I think that's everything.

    Oh, you know she's going to do a vow renewal next year. And probably every year after that.
    And that is IF there are a few more years after that shit show!
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  • DH and I actually have a "bet" on how long it will last. He thinks they will separate before the first anniversary. I think she will accidentally-on-purpose get pregnant right away so she can have the first grandchild and "win" and that they won't make it to 5 years. I do see the first year being very very rough because compromise isn't in her vocabulary.

    She has friends because she is very manipulative and puts on an act to take advantage of every situation.

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  • Wow, that is A LOT of snowflaking!!

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    So she proposed to herself, ungratefully had your poor parents plan this, she isnt legally married (maybe?) and comitted so many etiquette no-nos it's almost easier to list what she did RIGHT.  Just...wow.

    So...How do you feel about this whole thing lasting?  I mean do you give it two years?  Ten?  Three years and PPD-style do-over?  
    10 years, a blog, and a PPD-style do-over.

    Wait, that was inappropriate.

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    I'm the fuck
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  • wrigleyvillewrigleyville member
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    edited September 2014
    DH and I actually have a "bet" on how long it will last. He thinks they will separate before the first anniversary. I think she will accidentally-on-purpose get pregnant right away so she can have the first grandchild and "win" and that they won't make it to 5 years.
    That is exactly what I was going to say. She's going to "forget" to take her pill or poke holes in the condoms or something.  

    I bet they won't make it to their second anniversary, especially after she has the "oops" kid.  

    I feel so bad for that kid. I hope she doesn't project her AW-ish, need-to-be-first issues onto it. "How come you didn't get to be the star of the play? I'm going to go yell at your teacher."
  • She picked out and bought engagement ring and gave it to H to propose to her with.
    She booked a venue before H proposed and told him that they were getting married next September.

    I can't believe her H didn't run away screaming after these two events. 
  • Ven&Radio said:
    She picked out and bought engagement ring and gave it to H to propose to her with.
    She booked a venue before H proposed and told him that they were getting married next September.

    I can't believe her H didn't run away screaming after these two events. 
    For real!  Maybe they are a perfectly dysfunctional match and will last forever...hahaha yeah right!




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  • DH and I actually have a "bet" on how long it will last. He thinks they will separate before the first anniversary. I think she will accidentally-on-purpose get pregnant right away so she can have the first grandchild and "win" and that they won't make it to 5 years.
    That is exactly what I was going to say. She's going to "forget" to take her pill or poke holes in the condoms or something.  

    I bet they won't make it to their second anniversary, especially after she has the "oops" kid.  

    I feel so bad for that kid. I hope she doesn't project her AW-ish, need-to-be-first issues onto it. "How come you didn't get to be the star of the play? I'm going to go yell at your teacher."
    She's likely to have trouble getting pregnant, so hopefully they don't add a baby to the mix any time soon. 
    We are planning to TTC around our 1 year anniversary so it's likely our kids will be around the same age. I think it will be more likely stuff like '"Baby Millil is taking piano lessons/learning a second language/taking dance/etc so bridezilla baby has to too"

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