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And yet another FB rant on SB

I'm invited to a few weddings this fall, and the weddings are over a month away, their RSVPs are not due yet, and they're all blowing up facebook.

One person has made about 7 statuses in the past 42 hours about their RSVPs and their hotel block. They also inboxed me and asked where mine and my mother's rsvps are. They were already in the mail.

Another person has also made a ton of statuses throughout her engagement and has made even more statuses as of lately saying she's going to "unleash Bridezilla" if people don't rsvp soon. Her rsvp due date isn't for almost 2 weeks out. She also tagged a few people in her statuses demanding to know when they sent the rsvp??

I get people are bad with sending those in and the couple gets very stressed. But imo, it's in poor taste to constantly blast your Facebook friends with wedding plans. It's rude to those not invited and it makes you seem like a controlling nutcase to those who are.

Am I wrong for thinking this is weird? Do others here have equally controlling fb friends?


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Re: And yet another FB rant on SB

  • BLEEECCCHHHH. That is so... messy. Like god damn I get that they want RSVP's back but that's the reason you set a deadline, you know most (normal) people are going so send the shit back before then. If you're missing some after that, then you get to contacting people. I don't understand this wildness 2 weeks before deadline. Lordy!
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  • I changed companies a couple years ago but it is a small world and I touch base with my old crowd.  A couple days ago I was talking to someone I hadnt spoken to in a while from that crowd (we are facebook friends but we don't stalk each other's feeds) and I mentioned my FI.  

    "Whoah!  FI?  When did that happen?  Did you mention it?"

    I changed my FB status, but I rarely talk about my wedding.  I think I mentioned I booked my photog because I was so excited about it, and that I went dress shopping.  Other than that it's radio silence.  I just don't want to hammer people's feeds with a wedding they don't care about!

    Lots of people I know are not in that same train of thought.  One of my friends is constantly posting countdown stuff, bachelorette stuff, RSVP stuff....UGH.

    Some people just love hearing about themselves.....
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  • I have two friends who are blowing up feeds. One friend's RSVPs aren't due for another four weeks, and the other friend's RSVPs aren't due for two weeks.

    I haven't been invited to either one, but I'm still rolling my eyes.

    The first friend, with the four-weeks-away deadline, also posted a photo several months back showing the registry scanner tool scanning some random thing at Macy's. They uploaded it to FB with the caption, "This is the only part of wedding planning I enjoy lol."

    Tacky. >:(
  • This is rude and tacky. YUCK.
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  • pinkcow13 said:

    This is rude and tacky. YUCK.

    Ditto
  • Cookie PusherCookie Pusher member
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    I made a couple of wedding-related FB posts but they were filtered so they were only visible to people invited to the wedding (not hard since we had a relatively small guest list). And it was stuff like, "oh hey the hotel extended the dates for the room block so this is the new cutoff date" and "if you don't see the room type you want, message me so I can have the coordinator add the room for you". In nearly 2.5 years of being engaged, we barely even mentioned that fact on social media.
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  • I have two friends who are blowing up feeds. One friend's RSVPs aren't due for another four weeks, and the other friend's RSVPs aren't due for two weeks.

    I haven't been invited to either one, but I'm still rolling my eyes.

    The first friend, with the four-weeks-away deadline, also posted a photo several months back showing the registry scanner tool scanning some random thing at Macy's. They uploaded it to FB with the caption, "This is the only part of wedding planning I enjoy lol."

    Tacky. >:(
    Ugh, that's gross.  I find the registry the most uncomfortable part :(:(
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  • I made a couple of posts about wedding related things on my FB feed, but kept it really limited.  Obviously not all my fb friends were invited to the wedding, and I didn't want anyone who hadn't received an invite to be bombarded by my wedding stuff.

    My mom took things to a whole new level of tacky though.  We have a family fb group that was used for planning and organizing a reunion last summer, and has remained as a way to share info about things going on with the family (health concerns, birth announcements etc).  My mom posted on there that my wedding was on May 24, and that anyone in the area should attend.  I understand that I had only about 50% attendance from invited guests, but this was 2nd tiering family to the EXTREME.  I would have been so offended to not receive an invite but then be last minute invited in that way.  She  saw nothing wrong with it. 
  • I had a friend recently that had several last minute declines, so she posted an open invitation on facebook to anyone who wasn't previously invited to fill the open seats. This was the night before the wedding.

  • Sorry to high-jack this thread but speaking of Facebook... my FMIL has let me know, multiple times, that I can save postage by instead of sending invitations to their family members that won't come to the wedding, I can just send them a Facebook invite.

    FUCKING. NO.

    I think Facebook events are stupid to begin with, but for my wedding?! I can't even. 

    Okay, high-jack over :)
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  • I'm so glad I posted about this, I love hearing a good Facebook fail story from you all.

    @lulu411‌ No problem! I would be horrified to be invited to a wedding through Facebook invite!!


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  • lulu411 said:
    Sorry to high-jack this thread but speaking of Facebook... my FMIL has let me know, multiple times, that I can save postage by instead of sending invitations to their family members that won't come to the wedding, I can just send them a Facebook invite.

    FUCKING. NO.

    I think Facebook events are stupid to begin with, but for my wedding?! I can't even. 

    Okay, high-jack over :)
    EWWWWWWWWWWW No no no!!  


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  • I especially dislike the "calling people out publicly" on FB about their RSVPs.  That reminds me of walking into the occassional "mom and pop" grocery store that has pictures posted of people who have bounced checks to them, lol.
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  • Yeah, calling people out on your RSVPs are bullshit.

    The same girl who called people out on RSVPs just said she is going to "follow up" with everyone about their RSVP when she gets them. I don't know if anyone has seen a thread I made a little while back about whether or not I should RSVP to a sort-of-friend of mine who's bridal shower invitation addressed me as a totally different first name, but it's the same girl. 

    I wonder if she will inbox me demanding a PowerPoint presentation with at least 6 references and citations of why I declined. 


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  • Yep. I posted when we got engaged, put up links to a few of our engagement photos last month, and that's it. I havent even actually changed my relationship status, haha. I'm not posting anything about the wedding because we're having a really small reception, and also no one cares.
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