Has anyone else dealt with the awkwardness of a person asking to sing a song or otherwise "perform" at your wedding? Someone close to us has now asked us twice if they can do this. First they asked FI, and he politely said, "We just want you to enjoy the evening! Don't worry about doing something like that! Really!" Then this person came to ask me, and told me not to tell FI, because the performance would be "a surprise." I guess they didn't realize that FI and I tell each other everything? Especially in relation to our own wedding?
I feel like such an asshole. Like, should I just suck it up and let this person do this? In my head it will be the most cringe-worthy thing ever. And part of me is also thinking this person is super duper AWish and that's why they are being so adamant about this.
Or maybe I am a cynical jerkface, and this is really just a nice, touching, thing this person wants to do and I am being ungrateful and rude by saying "ABSOLUTELY NOT."