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Teddy917Teddy917 member
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My husband has a psychiatrist appointment that barely got rescheduled on Sat. The appointment is today. I was scheduled to work today but the times conflict. I could get there but not until several hours late. So I found someone to cover for me yesterday. I notified my boss. I did everything that the handbook tells me to do.

1 hour ago my coworker that was supposed to cover for me called to say he didn't have a clean uniform so he couldn't cover. Whenever I'm the one covering for someone, if something happens and I can no longer cover then it's on my head, not the person I'm covering for. I called and told them that he wasn't coming in. My boss says he'll write me up for not coming in.

I am trying to find a new job. I am also going to get a note from the psychiatrist and I'm not deleting my text or call records. I'm also going to find my boss's boss's phone number to see what company states in this situation since the handbook isn't clear.

Is there anything else I should be doing?
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  • KatieinBklnKatieinBkln member
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    This sucks. Do you have a policy where a "subber" specifically writes down that they've "taken" a shift? Without the subbing process in writing it's hard for a manager to know who is responsible.
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  • Teddy917Teddy917 member
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    Our policy states that I have to tell my boss. I texted him. He said okay. I've got all the texts.
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    Update: my coworker will be coming in, just late. I'm still going to see what the policy is because its not fair that I'm the only one that gets written up if the person they found to cover bails.
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  • Sugargirl1019Sugargirl1019 member
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    This "subber" agreed to take your shift and your boss was notified about the switch. This is completely on him. He should have planned in advance and done some damn laundry to make sure he had a clean uniform ready. Or, if he knew there that would be no clean uniform, then he could have declined covering for you. But, it's too late. It's on him. Keep your messages from your boss and get your boss on your side.

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  • KatieinBklnKatieinBkln member
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    Teddy917 said:
    Our policy states that I have to tell my boss. I texted him. He said okay. I've got all the texts.
    Yeah, then you should be okay. Boss is probably just stressed and annoyed, but give it a sec and broach the subject later, only if he actually writes you up.

    FYI, where you probably went wrong is in telling your boss that your sub was bailing on you. Once the sub says they'll sub for you, it's on them to show up or eat the write-up. By stepping in and saying, "Oh hey boss, my sub can't make it" it sounds like you're taking on more responsibility for the situation than you need to. Once you get a sub (and have that sub okay'd) it's no longer your responsibility or your problem. When your sub said "Oh shit, no clean uniform!" your response should have been, "Bummer, dude. Better tell Bossman you won't be in, but you're probably in for a write-up anyway."
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  • jenna8984jenna8984 member
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    When I worked for a large restaurant chain- the original shift person, the substitute person, and the manager had to sign their initials on the schedule agreeing to the switch so that the original person could no longer be held responsible. Maybe you should suggest something like this just so everyone knows more clearly in the future.

                                                                     

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  • cupcait927cupcait927 member
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    The grocery store I used to work at began to have a lot of problems with this kind of situation so they instituted a new policy. Both the person giving away the shift and the person taking the shift had to sign off on a form indicating that they both agreed to the switch and it listed the date and time of the shift. The form was then given to a manager and they signed off as well. Similar to what @jenna8984 suggested. I would definitely bring this up with your boss to see if you can get something like this instituted and take some of the worry off your shoulders in the future.

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    cupcait927 said:

    The grocery store I used to work at began to have a lot of problems with this kind of situation so they instituted a new policy. Both the person giving away the shift and the person taking the shift had to sign off on a form indicating that they both agreed to the switch and it listed the date and time of the shift. The form was then given to a manager and they signed off as well. Similar to what @jenna8984 suggested. I would definitely bring this up with your boss to see if you can get something like this instituted and take some of the worry off your shoulders in the future.

    This is how we did it when I was a manager at the YMCA. It saved a lot of grief for the person who needed a sub, and held the "subber" more accountable. Plus it gave me some peace of mind as a manager because I knew whom to expect once that shift rolled around!
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    KatieinBkln said:
    Teddy917 said:
    Our policy states that I have to tell my boss. I texted him. He said okay. I've got all the texts.
    Yeah, then you should be okay. Boss is probably just stressed and annoyed, but give it a sec and broach the subject later, only if he actually writes you up.

    FYI, where you probably went wrong is in telling your boss that your sub was bailing on you. Once the sub says they'll sub for you, it's on them to show up or eat the write-up. By stepping in and saying, "Oh hey boss, my sub can't make it" it sounds like you're taking on more responsibility for the situation than you need to. Once you get a sub (and have that sub okay'd) it's no longer your responsibility or your problem. When your sub said "Oh shit, no clean uniform!" your response should have been, "Bummer, dude. Better tell Bossman you won't be in, but you're probably in for a write-up anyway."
    This is the way it would have worked when I worked in a grocery store. You agree to sub, it's your shift now. He should have found a new sub rather than bailing on you.
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  • doeydodoeydo member
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    Do you mind if I ask how everything is going between your husband and you?  I remember reading your posts a while back.
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  • Teddy917Teddy917 member
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    I like the idea of having to sign a form. Maybe I can make it so it specifically says what is to happen if the sub can no longer sub.
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    doeydo said:

    Do you mind if I ask how everything is going between your husband and you?  I remember reading your posts a while back.

    I figured someone would ask about that and I really appreciate the concern.

    My husband and I are doing a lot better. He started seeing a new therapist today who is much better than the old one. He has already gotten a lot better on his own. We're planning on moving into our own place soon. He is accepting more responsibility for when he does something that upsets me and actually apologizing. He's less angry. He's making more of an effort around the house. He is starting to focus on my needs as well as his. He's a lot better with money and accepting that when I say we can't afford xyz, that's final.
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  • Teddy917Teddy917 member
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    Update: My boss is getting sent to a different store. This is not the first issue that I or my coworkers have had and his boss is not happy.
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  • InkdancerInkdancer member
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    Teddy917 said:
    Do you mind if I ask how everything is going between your husband and you?  I remember reading your posts a while back.
    I figured someone would ask about that and I really appreciate the concern. My husband and I are doing a lot better. He started seeing a new therapist today who is much better than the old one. He has already gotten a lot better on his own. We're planning on moving into our own place soon. He is accepting more responsibility for when he does something that upsets me and actually apologizing. He's less angry. He's making more of an effort around the house. He is starting to focus on my needs as well as his. He's a lot better with money and accepting that when I say we can't afford xyz, that's final.
    Yay! We needed some good news around here today.
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