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Are Save the Dates Necessary?

Knottie26651729Knottie26651729 member
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In an effort to save money, I'm considering skipping Save the Dates and just telling people when our wedding will be so they still have the date prior to getting the invitation.  Thoughts on this??
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Re: Are Save the Dates Necessary?

  • misshart00misshart00 member
    2500 Comments 500 Love Its Fourth Anniversary First Answer
    That's fine. You don't need save the dates.
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    Save the Dates are NEVER necessary.
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  • Knottie36491512Knottie36491512 member
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    Save the dates are optional as their basic purpose is to let your guests know about your wedding in advance so that they can schedule their time accordingly. But if you are doing this personally then it's also fine.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    Save the dates are completely optional.  I can see how now a days it seems that STDs are almost a requirement with how often they are used and pushed by the wedding industry.  But as someone who did NOTt use STDs, I will tell you that I don't regret it for a second and that your wedding date will make the rounds via word of mouth just fine.

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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    Not necessary. Just make sure to give all your VIPs the date and location.
                       
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  • princessleia22princessleia22 member
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    Not needed. STD's are a relatively new trend and not required. The only time I'd say you should really do one is with a destination wedding where everyone has to travel. Just tell your VIP's (and maybe out of town guests) the date in person/phone/text/e-mail/whatever. And if you do it in person or phone call, people always notice and appreciate that direct personalized attention, rather than a mass mailing. My sister did a private STD event page on Facebook, which worked great and was free. A lot of her guests were OOT, so she wanted to make sure the had the date/location as early as possible to plan for travel, but didn't really want to spend the money to mail STD's. If you do a social media STD, just make sure it's a private invite either with a private invite-only event/group page or sent via private message. You don't want to send it to all 652 of your "friends" that aren't being invited to the wedding.

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  • jacques27jacques27 member
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    Another vote for not necessary.  In fact, I'm anti-save the date unless they are for VIPs who you know are likely to have a date conflict (say they travel out of town for work a lot or have a job where they have to request time off many months in advance - common in healthcare) or would have to travel by plane to get to your wedding.  And you can absolutely call them and tell them instead of sending them a notice.

    Otherwise, I think it's unnecessary to call dibs on a date, period.  Most people don't need so much notice for a party that they could conceive, grow, and deliver a human child in the intervening time period.  And it would save so many posts on here from people about to send their invites asking if they really, really, really have to invite this person they gave a save the date to because they moved/don't work with you anymore/is a stupidhead who wounded you by not being excited enough for your wedding/etc.
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