Honeymoon Fund

kateandmikeoneill · September 2014

I have seen this many times on Pinterest. A cute little jar, usually placed at the bar, marked 'Honeymoon Fund'. I think it is a really cute idea but I am sure it comes off as rude to most people. What is the general consensus?

misshart00 · September 2014

kateandmikeoneill said:
I have seen this many times on Pinterest. A cute little jar, usually placed at the bar, marked 'Honeymoon Fund'. I think it is a really cute idea but I am sure it comes off as rude to most people. What is the general consensus?

It's considered rude to ask your guests for any money. Having a jar out is asking for money. Tacky.

Also, if those are your real names, consider changing your screen name. Internet security.

NYCMercedes · September 2014

kateandmikeoneill said:

I have seen this many times on Pinterest. A cute little jar, usually placed at the bar, marked 'Honeymoon Fund'. I think it is a really cute idea but I am sure it comes off as rude to most people. What is the general consensus?

You just stated the general consensus.

misshart00 · September 2014

I will say though that the jars are cute for their intended purpose. Keep it on your dresser for your loose change at the end of the day or in your laundry room when cleaning out pants pockets. Basically when only you and FI will see it.

Maggie0829 · September 2014

Rude. Rude. Rude. Your guests are most likely already coming with a gift in hand so to try and get even more money from them will just make you look greedy and selfish.

lurkergirl · September 2014

The only people who should put out jars for money are panhandlers. Definitely rude.

sarawifenow · September 2014

LondonLisa · September 2014

Would you normally invite people to dinner and put out a jar for a car fund or house down payment fund for them to contribute to?

misshart00 · September 2014

Also, the people I've heard that do this get like $12. Is it worth risking offending everyone on your guest list for a fast food meal on your honeymoon?

JCbride2015 · September 2014

Rude, offensive, tacky. Yep. You're "sure it comes off as rude to most people" and so am I.

climbingsingle · September 2014

Tacky and rude!

MNVegas · September 2014

It is not "cute" to beg people for money Having a jar out asking for donations is rude. You are not a charity.

You will probably get some cash gifts from your guests that you can put towards your honeymoon. You do not need a HM jar or any other kind of honeymoon fund.

MNVegas · September 2014

OP, you might want to change your user name. Anyone can just google your name and find you.

peachy13 · September 2014

This question seems to come up a lot so don't feel bad asking it. This board taught me a lot about right vs wrong at weddings. The right etiquette answer (as you can see from previous posters) regarding the honeymoon fund is: no, not cute, and not okay. Your guests should not have to open up their wallets or purses at your wedding.

JCbride2015 · September 2014

MNVegas said:

OP, you might want to change your user name. Anyone can just google your name and find you.

You also might want to password-protect your wedding website. It's just a generally good idea to practice internet safety.

Kauris · September 2014

You are already registered at FIVE places, I believe that you are asking enough of your guests already. ETA AND you registered for GIFT CARDS at at least one of them and only gift cards, which is equally tacky and rude.

lyndausvi · September 2014

tacky, tacky, tacky.

At no time should you be thinking of ways to extract money from your guests. It blows my mind people actually think of ways to do that. It's crazy.

wrigleyville · September 2014

The reason you see it on Pinterest wedding boards is because it started out as a cute craft to make for your laundry room, where you'd put spare change and dollar bills as you emptied your pockets and did laundry.

Unfortunately, the Original Tacky Bride saw it, squealed with delight, and pinned it to her wedding board, probably with a caption about how "amazeballs" that would be for a reception.

Second and Third Tacky Bride pinned it to their boards, keeping the caption, and then it morphed into the Tackgasmic Trend it is today.

RebeccaB88 · September 2014

Yeahhhhh....OP, definitely change your username. I just found out a scary amount of info on you both just by googling your names. 5 registries is really overkill. And yes, the Honeymoon Jar thing is tacky and greedy, just like you thought. Put one in your laundry room or bedroom, but that's as far as it should go.

AddieCake · September 2014

If you're sure it comes off as rude, why would you even consider it?

southernbelle0915 · September 2014

You are correct - the general consensus is that it's rude. And it makes those who do it seem like pan handlers.

Jen4948 · September 2014

Rude, tacky, and offensive. Don't do it.

luckya23 · September 2014

lurkergirl said:

The only people who should put out jars for money are panhandlers. Definitely rude.

I would argue that this is not really less rude! I detest being asked for money!

lurkergirl · September 2014

alucky23 said:

lurkergirl said:

The only people who should put out jars for money are panhandlers. Definitely rude.

I would argue that this is not really less rude! I detest being asked for money!

I didn't necessarily mean it literally. I was making the point that putting a jar out for money makes you seem like a panhandler.

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826 · September 2014

You have, like, 3 registries and you want a honeyfund jar on top of all that? Put me down for 'No' on that idea.

ETA: Unless that isnt you because those state an August 2014 wedding....but still, honeyfund jar, NO.

grumbledore · September 2014

kateandmikeoneill said:

I have seen this many times on Pinterest. A cute little jar, usually placed at the bar, marked 'Honeymoon Fund'. I think it is a really cute idea but I am sure it comes off as rude to most people. What is the general consensus?

Rude.

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