Long drawn out story short we have several people in our bridal party who have dated/are dating... My fiance and I had a longggggggggggg conversation about how to go about this. I'm going to give some background info so you guys don't think I'm being over dramatic.
Here is a synopsis I will make it short as possible.
Friend one (let's call her Tiffany) dated friend two (let's call her Veronica) for a couple months but Tiffany started dating someone else and it got messy and Tiffany and Veronica weren't on speaking terms. However, Veronica is still head over heels, I will sacrifice a baby goat over you, in love with Tiffany. Both of them have moved on but Veronica will leave her current girlfriend for Tiffany no questions asked. Tiffany knows this but won't give Veronica the time of day. They have since became friends but aren't together. Tiffany is my bridesmaid. Veronica is my fiances broomsman (lmao please don't ask me where she got that from). Fast forward I asked for everyone's address using the TK'S guest tool and both Tiffany and Veronica are bringing their girlfriends. My initial reaction was "oh shit" literally. I showed my fiance and she said "f**k, there better not be any f**king drama"
NEXT
Friend three, let's call him Brandon,is a broomsman and dated friend four, let's call her Michelle who is my maid of honor. They dated years ago in high school but will still jump each other's bones every now and then. They don't think they will get back together but both have said they plan to have sex sometime during our wedding weekend. Now that's no biggie because they are adults. The issue comes in when Brandon is trying to court another one of my bridesmaids, let's call her Jessie. Jessie has a boyfriend.. let's call him James. James is also a broomsman. Now if Brandon and Jessie go on a couple dates that's no biggie. I just don't want Brandon to hop in the sack with Michelle while courting Jessie. I also don't want James to find out and hold some sort of animosity and there be drama.
Did I confuse you? I confused my self and it's my story. The moral story is that my fiance and I are worried that somehow dirty laundry will be aired and we will have some angry people on our hands. Now I must add I have added anxiety because at my father's wedding, two of my step-mothers bridesmaids got into a argument in the bathroom because one slept with the other's boyfriend the NIGHT BEFORE. I was in the middle of it because I was washing my hands and my step-mom had to ask them both to leave. I don't want to have to ask anyone to leave my bridal party and I definitely don't want to have to ask my closest friends to leave my wedding. Especially Brandon because I forgot to mention his GIRLFRIEND will be there... I feel bad because I know all of this but Tiffany,Brandon, Michelle and Jessie are all my very BEST friends... Brandon, Michelle and Jessie are more like the siblings I just can't get rid of.
I have been to weddings where fights have broke out. I have read horror stories about fights in bridal parties and I am genuinely afraid. I asked my fiance should I have a sit down with Tiffany, Veronica ad Brandon SEPARATELY of course. But I don't want grown adults to feel like I am trying to control their lives. Would I be out of line to ask these people to possibly hold their emotions until 11:31 (the reception ends at 11:30) to themselves? Or possibly ask them to speak to their spouses about not causing confusion? I really am torn because as I explained to my fiance it is poor etiquette and a little rude to not invites spouses of bridal party. I also liked an idea I saw of having the bridal party sit with their spouses at tables close to the sweetheart table or at the head table but my fiance said and I quote "hell no, we can't sit them together that's how drinks and fists get thrown"
Knottiessssss helppppppppp!