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princess146
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Include flower girl and ring bearer?
So me and my fiancée aren't having a real wedding ceremony. Instead we are just going to the courthouse and getting married, hoping all the bridesmaids and groomsman will be aloud in there. But since we already want our son to be the ring bearer and my young sister to be a flower girl and to take part in some way, would it be weird if at the reception we have the flower girl come out with her flower petals before the wedding party is announced and the ring bearer come and give us our rings after we sit down?
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Re: Include flower girl and ring bearer?
I don't think it would be an issue to have them walk in with the party, but if they aren't present at the ceremony, they aren't really being a ring bearer or flower girl. I'd just get pictures with them and call it a day.
That's a ceremony. Just not a church ceremony. Nothing wrong with a courthouse ceremony, but it's still a ceremony.
Well, you seem to have a lack of respect for courthouse weddings, and an inability to Google, so yes. People will assume you're a troll.
You're the type that gets made when tech support asks you if you're computer is turned on and plugged in to a working outlet aren't you?
.................. yep. You've confirmed it.
If you want attendants and flower girl/ring bearers, you can easily hire an officiant to perform the same ceremony at your reception site. This way, everyone gets to see your ceremony, the attendants participate, and it won't cost you much. In many states, friends or relatives can be ordained on-line, and can perform a basic civil ceremony. In Pennsylvania and Colorado, you don't need an officiant at all.
Having bridesmaids, ring bearer and flower girl at a courthouse makes no sense. Having them only at the reception is just silly.
Whether or not you can have a ring bearer and flower girl depends on the rules of the courthouse and its capacity. If it doesn't violate any rules at the courthouse, and there is room in the courtroom, judge's chambers, or office where you marry, then I don't see why they can't be there. But I'd skip the petal scattering.
As to "rudeness": You asked for and received advice. It may not have been what you wanted to hear, but it was advice. If you don't want to take it, that's up to you, but accusing people of "rudeness" over it is not appropriate and is "rude" as well as hypocritical in and of itself.
Anyway... Why don't you have the FG toss petals and the RB blow bubbles before you get announced into the reception?