I think I made a boo boo.
My dad is a pastor. I had always planned on him performing my wedding ceremony. When FI and I found the chapel we are getting married at, a requirement was that one of their pastors do the ceremony. They were willing to make an exception as long as one of their pastors talked to my dad and read the ceremony beforehand. So I didn't think that pastor would really be involved in the wedding ceremony at all. But then it turned out that pastor wanted to just say the welcoming prayer, which we were all fine with. He and my dad talked and worked out how they would do all the parts. Everything seemed good. I never really thought of this guy (FI and I met him once for maybe five minutes) as "performing" our ceremony at all. We did have to do marriage counseling with him because it was required by the church (this was done over Skype because I live out of state).
And now I realized, three and a half weeks before our wedding, that I didn't send him and his wife and invitation to the wedding. My dad says this is really bad and that as a pastor, although he usually wouldn't go, he would always expect an invitation to a wedding he's performing. I just told FMIL to send him an RD invite (she's sending those out tomorrow), but what should I do about the wedding? Send him an invitation even though the RSVP date is next week? Just email him and ask if him and his wife would like to join us at the reception and if they'd like chicken or beef? Do nothing?
Or did I not boo boo at all? This guy isn't really having to plan a ceremony for us or anything. My dad is doing all of the "work." But he will be there for our entire rehearsal and ceremony.
ETA: I have no idea why there are no paragraph breaks. I put them in. Also, we paid this guy a required $225 officiant fee. So the counseling wasn't free or anything. Not sure if that makes a difference.