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Babies but Not Children?

Hi Everyone!

My fiancé and I are trying to keep the wedding (relatively) moderate at about 120 guests.  However, we have decided that we should invite all of my and his coworkers, as we are both with relatively small firms/companies and we don't want any hurt feelings.  Unfortunately, that means we do not have the budget for everyone to bring their children.  A close friend of ours has a baby with a severe genetic disorder, so we of course want her to bring her daughter, and on top of that, my MOH may be having a little one shortly before and we would want the entire family there.  We are having my fiancé's niece and nephews in the wedding party, so they will be at the reception.  Is it automatically implied that babies would be accepted even though the invites would be addressed to the adults, or do we just address the invites to the parents and babies, and only address the invitations to the families with children to the adults?  We are bummed to have to come to this, I've suddenly gotten all of my maternal urges and would just LOVE to have all of these kids around!  Plus, a good friend of mine's kids are just the funniest, her daughter is a saucy pants and her son is amazing.  How do we do this?
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Re: Babies but Not Children?

  • Put the name of everyone who is invited on the invitations including any babies or children you are inviting. It is never implied that someone is invited.


  • mrsdee15mrsdee15 member
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    edited September 2014
    Thank you!

    ETA:  I guess my other question is really whether it's within etiquette to invite babies but not children.
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  • Yup, you are completely okay etiquette-wise to invite babies and not children or even to invite some children and not others. It could get tricky if say you were inviting one co-workers kids but not another's but it doesn't sounds like you are doing anything like that.


  • Definitely not, trying to find fair lines to follow.  Thanks!
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  • mrsdee15 said:
    Thank you!

    ETA:  I guess my other question is really whether it's within etiquette to invite babies but not children.
    As long as doing so does not split children within a family, i.e. you can't invite Baby Joey and not his big sister Susie.
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  • You can also make the "circle" as the "kids you know".  So, no co-workers' child because you've never met, but your next door neighbor's kids are invited because they come over and play with your dog every Saturday.  While I plan on inviting kids, I'm also only inviting people that both FH and I have met.  So, a friend's SO's child will not be invited because we've never met him.  But FH's coworker's kid is invited because we've been to their house for football games and met her.
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