Help! Need ideas

fallbride502 · September 2014

My soon to be husband and I have decided that instead of having people clink their glass to make us kiss we will have them come up the the head table and take a piece of paper from a small bowl or vase and they will have to follow the instructions on the paper, some of the things we have come up with are "sing I'm a little tea pot with all the actions, name 3 of the seven dwarves, shout like Tarzan. Can you ladies help me come up with some more fun things?

southernbelle0915 · September 2014

kristancoulter said:

My soon to be husband and I have decided that instead of having people clink their glass to make us kiss we will have them come up the the head table and take a piece of paper from a small bowl or vase and they will have to follow the instructions on the paper, some of the things we have come up with are "sing I'm a little tea pot with all the actions, name 3 of the seven dwarves, shout like Tarzan. Can you ladies help me come up with some more fun things?

I don't think this will work. The only way people would know about this would be for you to make an announcement telling people basically "DO NOT clink your glasses. You must consult the head table and then you will be asked to perform a task. Then we will kiss for you." As I guest, I'd be SO confused.

It's funny to think about, but I don't think this is one of those things you can actually do without it being really complicated and coming off like you're trying to control people. Not only that, but people will probably clink anyway.

beethery · September 2014

Just ignore anyone who clinks glasses. My FFIL is being a twat and has been doing it CONSTANTLY whenever I'm around since we got engaged. It is incredibly irritating.

I'm not doing it, and everyone will get the hint when I don't comply with it.

Maggie0829 · September 2014

kristancoulter said:

My soon to be husband and I have decided that instead of having people clink their glass to make us kiss we will have them come up the the head table and take a piece of paper from a small bowl or vase and they will have to follow the instructions on the paper, some of the things we have come up with are "sing I'm a little tea pot with all the actions, name 3 of the seven dwarves, shout like Tarzan. Can you ladies help me come up with some more fun things?

Oh God please don't do this. If you and your soon to be husband want to kiss then just kiss. Why do you feel the need to try and get your guests to embarrass themselves just so that the two of you can show some PDA?

climbingsingle · September 2014

I'm sorry. I think this is a terrible idea. I don't think it sounds like fun, and I think it will go over like a lead balloon.

fallbride502 · September 2014

Games likes these are pretty common at the weddings I've been too. Both my sisters did them as well as my soon to be sister in law, not all the same type of games but still games instead of clinking glasses. If you all don't like the idea that's fine I'm not asking for you to use them at your wedding.

ohannabelle · September 2014

You might find it "cute" but I promise you many of your guests will be cringing and rolling their eyes.

Here's a fun thing I came up with:

Let your guests relax and socialize and enjoy the evening like adults, without pressuring them into juvenile party games.

fallbride502 · September 2014

ohannabelle said:
You might find it "cute" but I promise you many of your guests will be cringing and rolling their eyes.
Here's a fun thing I came up with:
Let your guests relax and socialize and enjoy the evening like adults, without pressuring them into juvenile party games.

No one is forcing anyone to play the game. They are more than welcome to enjoy the evening however they would like to. As for acting like an adult everyone has a different version of that and our families happen to be full of people who are just a bunch of big kids at heart. If I thought no one would have even a bit of fun I would have suggested to my fiancé that we didn't do the game.

Maggie0829 · September 2014

fallbride502 said:

Games likes these are pretty common at the weddings I've been too. Both my sisters did them as well as my soon to be sister in law, not all the same type of games but still games instead of clinking glasses. If you all don't like the idea that's fine I'm not asking for you to use them at your wedding.

Just because other weddings have had them doesn't mean that the games are liked by the guests. Guests will feel pressure to do some silly thing to appease the couple and they will probably say "oh what fun" when really they are thinking "why are their games? this isn't a kids birthday party."

fallbride502 · September 2014

Maggie0829 said:

fallbride502 said:

Games likes these are pretty common at the weddings I've been too. Both my sisters did them as well as my soon to be sister in law, not all the same type of games but still games instead of clinking glasses. If you all don't like the idea that's fine I'm not asking for you to use them at your wedding.

Just because other weddings have had them doesn't mean that the games are liked by the guests. Guests will feel pressure to do some silly thing to appease the couple and they will probably say "oh what fun" when really they are thinking "why are their games? this isn't a kids birthday party."

Truthfully I would rather be at a kids party than at a wedding where everyone is stuffy and uptight and can't allow themselves to have a good time in order to keep up appearances. As for what people will say about the game I'm sure some won't want to play, some will. As I said before no one is being forced to play. Thanks for all the opinions ladies but as my initial question has not actually been answered I think this post is sort of irrelevant now.

Maggie0829 · September 2014

fallbride502 said:

fallbride502 said:

Games likes these are pretty common at the weddings I've been too. Both my sisters did them as well as my soon to be sister in law, not all the same type of games but still games instead of clinking glasses. If you all don't like the idea that's fine I'm not asking for you to use them at your wedding.

Just because other weddings have had them doesn't mean that the games are liked by the guests. Guests will feel pressure to do some silly thing to appease the couple and they will probably say "oh what fun" when really they are thinking "why are their games? this isn't a kids birthday party."
Truthfully I would rather be at a kids party than at a wedding where everyone is stuffy and uptight and can't allow themselves to have a good time in order to keep up appearances. As for what people will say about the game I'm sure some won't want to play, some will. As I said before no one is being forced to play. Thanks for all the opinions ladies but as my initial question has not actually been answered I think this post is sort of irrelevant now.

I have fabulous times at weddings talking and laughing with my friends, dancing with my H, eating up the tasty food and downing some cold beverages. Just because I think games are silly and not appropriate at weddings doesn't mean that I am stuffy and uptight and can't have a good time. There are time and places for games (weekend party at our house where drinking games are involved for instance) and weddings are not it.

southernbelle0915 · September 2014

fallbride502 said:

fallbride502 said:

Games likes these are pretty common at the weddings I've been too. Both my sisters did them as well as my soon to be sister in law, not all the same type of games but still games instead of clinking glasses. If you all don't like the idea that's fine I'm not asking for you to use them at your wedding.

Just because other weddings have had them doesn't mean that the games are liked by the guests. Guests will feel pressure to do some silly thing to appease the couple and they will probably say "oh what fun" when really they are thinking "why are their games? this isn't a kids birthday party."
Truthfully I would rather be at a kids party than at a wedding where everyone is stuffy and uptight and can't allow themselves to have a good time in order to keep up appearances. As for what people will say about the game I'm sure some won't want to play, some will. As I said before no one is being forced to play. Thanks for all the opinions ladies but as my initial question has not actually been answered I think this post is sort of irrelevant now.

Just because someone doesn't want to scream like Tarzan, sing a nursery rhyme, or name cartoon characters from a children's movie doesn't mean they're stuffy or trying to "keep up appearances".

A wedding is a union of adults, so children's games are inherently out of place. That's all.

AddieCake · September 2014

CUTE GAMES CUTE GAMES CUTE GAMES! Please stop the insanity.

Jen4948 · September 2014

I don't enjoy "cute games" period, let alone to get the couple to kiss.

rooz103 · September 2014

I've never quite understood the clinking thing, but I suppose it's all in good fun and it seems like it wouldn't be worth the effort to discourage it. If it's sprung on us at our wedding, I think I'll be (playfully) demanding a piece of good marriage advice first. I only plan on doing this marriage thing once, so I might as well gather up tips while I can.

MandyMost · September 2014

I'm fully expecting people to clink glasses to get us to kiss multiple times during the reception. First, it only works while people are seated at their tables, so that limits the time to about an hour or so for the seated dinner. Even if they try to do it 3-4 times during that hour, it's what, about 1-2 minute's worth of annoyance on our part? To make those random annoying relatives happy? We'll just go with it.

Regardless of the game/activity, I don't enjoy anything at a wedding where the guests are expected to either 1) provide the entertainment, or 2) stop what they're doing in terms of socializing and enjoying themselves to pay attention to something/someone (with the only exceptions being toasts, spotlight dances, and cake cutting--and even those should be worked into the framework of the event to not be disruptive).

HeatherH92 · September 2014

I'm not so sure about the idea of guests having to do some offbeat task like sing a song. I would personally be terrified to do that in a room full of (mostly) strangers.

However, my future brother-in-law just got married in March, and what he and his wife did for this was put the names of all the married couples (probably just the closest ones - parents, grandparents, aunts/uncles, siblings, etc.) in a bowl, and when the glasses started clinking, they pulled out the name of a couple and that couple had to kiss each other and the bride and groom had to copy however that couple kissed (like the guy dipping the woman to kiss her, for example). I honestly thought that was fun and the couples looked like they had fun thinking of something crazy for the bride and groom to imitate.

JoanE2012 · September 2014

fallbride502 said:

My soon to be husband and I have decided that instead of having people clink their glass to make us kiss we will have them come up the the head table and take a piece of paper from a small bowl or vase and they will have to follow the instructions on the paper, some of the things we have come up with are "sing I'm a little tea pot with all the actions, name 3 of the seven dwarves, shout like Tarzan. Can you ladies help me come up with some more fun things?

Oh God, please no. It's a wedding, not a 5 year old's birthday party.

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