So
this will our second marriage....to each other! When we got married the first
go round, we were straight out of college and had been dating since 10th
grade. Long story short, we got married, divorced a year later, and here
we are a couple years down the road, engaged again. The only reason we
want to have another wedding is because we have a different group of friends
now. We rarely talk to anyone who was in/went to the first wedding,
excluding family. These are obvious life-long friends, and we both really
want them by our sides for this. But there are so many things questioned
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Our
first wedding was the big, traditional blow-out of a wedding. Catholic church, 300 guests, the whole
shebang. We want just a small, cheap
wedding this go round. Which brings us to the guest list issue this time. We are not sure where/how to draw the line. I
have it around 150, but we really want it at about half of that. This
list includes friends, immediate aunts/uncles, and cousins. Eliminating
the cousins would get us to the number we want, but there are a few we want
there. Is it rude to invite some cousins and not others? We don't
want to hurt anyone's feelings in this process, but we are on a tight budget,
and we want who we want there.
Other
questions brought up…do you get walked down the aisle again? Do you still do
all the traditional reception things…cake cutting, father/daughter dance, first
dance, garter/bouquet toss, etc?! I want it to be like a normal,
semi-traditional wedding, but I also don’t want it to seem weird since we have
already been married and divorced. The only “shower” we want is a honeydo “whiskey
and wine” party…basically just a get together of friends to hang out and drink. And we would like another bachelorette/bachelor
party, since none of our friends were there for the last one.
I
know this is a long post, and I appreciate any advice yall can give! This is
not a situation you hear of often!