Hi, all! My future mother-in-law is planning the rehearsal dinner, as is custom. However, she's not communicating with me about any of her decisions. She's going ahead and planning the menu without knowing what is on the wedding menu. In fact, I have not even finalized the wedding menu. I told her that we plan to have mac & cheese at the wedding because that is my favorite food, and it sounds like she was wanting to put mac & cheese on the rehearsal dinner menu. I said no.
She also went ahead and decided what hotel out-of-town guests will use. Granted, it will be mostly her family that is from out of town - but I feel like that is something that she should have cleared with me. What if I had already blocked out hotel rooms somewhere else?
My question is... What things should the future mother-in-law be running past me? I feel like I need to be more involved so that the rehearsal dinner doesn't end up being more extravagant than the wedding itself. The wedding is going to be very low budget and low key. I don't want the rehearsal to overshadow it.
Thoughts? I'm really annoyed.