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Bridal Shower Etiquette

mrsbananymrsbanany member
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My MOH recently mentioned that she has been talking to my mom about the bridal shower, (we are having it a bit earlier than normal because of personal reasons).  I mentioned that I had some cute ideas that I would like included and MOH kind of laughed it off and said she would take care of it (I never mentioned my idea).  I really only have one idea that that I really want to be included: send out a recipe card with the invitations so that everyone who comes can bring one of their recipes and then make a a bridal shower cookbook with the recipe cards that everyone brought with them.  I understand that really it's my MOH and my mom who are hosting it for me but I really love the idea of having the cookbook with recipes from different families and generations as my FI and I start our own little family. Is it appropriate to suggest it to my MOH or my mom or should I just stay out of it and let them do whatever they are doing?
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  • ShesSoColdShesSoCold mod
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    If they've already shrugged it off, I wouldn't bring it up again. 
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  • redwoodoriginalredwoodoriginal member
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    You could mention it to your mom if she wasn't there when you brought it up to your MOH?
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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    mrsbanany said:
    My MOH recently mentioned that she has been talking to my mom about the bridal shower, (we are having it a bit earlier than normal because of personal reasons).  I mentioned that I had some cute ideas that I would like included and MOH kind of laughed it off and said she would take care of it (I never mentioned my idea).  I really only have one idea that that I really want to be included: send out a recipe card with the invitations so that everyone who comes can bring one of their recipes and then make a a bridal shower cookbook with the recipe cards that everyone brought with them.  I understand that really it's my MOH and my mom who are hosting it for me but I really love the idea of having the cookbook with recipes from different families and generations as my FI and I start our own little family. Is it appropriate to suggest it to my MOH or my mom or should I just stay out of it and let them do whatever they are doing?
    Yeah, if you already said that you had an idea and they brushed it off, I wouldn't say it again (unless they ask you). 




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  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom member
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    mrsbanany said:
    My MOH recently mentioned that she has been talking to my mom about the bridal shower, (we are having it a bit earlier than normal because of personal reasons).  I mentioned that I had some cute ideas that I would like included and MOH kind of laughed it off and said she would take care of it (I never mentioned my idea).  I really only have one idea that that I really want to be included: send out a recipe card with the invitations so that everyone who comes can bring one of their recipes and then make a a bridal shower cookbook with the recipe cards that everyone brought with them.  I understand that really it's my MOH and my mom who are hosting it for me but I really love the idea of having the cookbook with recipes from different families and generations as my FI and I start our own little family. Is it appropriate to suggest it to my MOH or my mom or should I just stay out of it and let them do whatever they are doing?
    If your MOH laughed it off, then don't bring it up again. You are not hosting this shower (which you shouldn't do anyway!), so allow the hosts of the shower to do the planning. If they ask for your input, then you can tell them the recipe idea. But I wouldn't say anything unless asked.
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  • twitterbirdtwitterbird member
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    Mention it to your mom if she wasn't there when you asked your MOH. Otherwise I'd leave it alone as they are doing the planning.
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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    Don't mention it to your mom either. Your MOH will know you went behind her back. That's incredibly rude. Just let them plan this for you.
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  • shaker227shaker227 member
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    If it's important to you, you can still have a family recipe collection. Just start asking. "FI really loves it when you make xxx. Would you mind sharing the recipe/showing me how to make it/etc?" It doesn't have to be part of your shower.
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  • MandyMostMandyMost member
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    As much as I do agree with everyone else here, this is your MOH we're talking about. I assume it's your best friend or your sister or something like that. Meaning, you have a very close relationship. She's not some stranger you're trying to make a good impression on. I would say "Hey, I know you said you have the shower handled, which is awesome and I'm really excited about it and so thankful you're doing this for me, but I can't resist sharing this one idea that I think would just be so awesome! How about you send you recipe cards with the invites, so I can start a recipe book of family recipes? I've seen that before, and always thought it was so cool and something I'd love to have! No pressure if you have other ideas. I'm sure I can collect family recipes another way after the wedding. But I just thought it was cute!" 
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