So, forgive me, but after being off the dating scene for over half a decade, I'm a little rusty (OK, a lot rusty). Can y'all please be my voices of sanity and tell me if I'm misunderstanding something?
I have gone on dates recently that were obviously dates. And then I have hung out with guys in a more casual way that, to me, doesn't seem like dating. According to my family and a few friends, ANY time a man asks to hang out, it's a date, even if they don't USE the word "date," because apparently men and women don't get together just to play nice and make friends. I just...I don't get that.
There are two specific situations I'm thinking of right now, where the gentleman in question knows (at least in general terms) that I'm not interested in dating anyone right now; we get together for what I think is a friendly meal/conversation/whatever; and there is some flirtation or other communication that makes me feel like he doesn't actually get it. I enjoy spending time with these guys due to shared hobbies and groups of friends but am not interested in dating them. So I guess I'm wondering if I'm crazy for pursuing a friendship with these people, and if it's even possible with the opposite sex? Is it a case-by-case basis? Am I making too big a deal since no has actually said anything about date vs. not date in the first place? (I'm guessing it's the last one, but some of my close confidantes have made me question myself.) I don't know, I'M SO CONFUSED.
I feel like they made a movie out of this once...