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Embarrassed and annoyed...

FI is such a dork.

One of the STDs we sent out came back saying that the address didn't exist so I asked FI about it since it was for one of his cousins. Does he want to call and get a corrected address since the address that we were given by his dad is apparently wrong? Does he want to forget about inviting him? 

It turns out that FI had given me the wrong name and had expected me to have another cousin in the guest list that he never mentioned (so 2 people didn't get STDs). He had given me a list of names of people he wanted to invite, I asked if he wanted to invite any more people, I reread the list to him to make sure, and when his dad sent me the family directory for FI in case he had forgotten names, I sent it to him, sent him a list of each individual he didn't name and read it out loud to him to make absolutely sure. He said no to each of those names, including the name of the cousin that he never mentioned that he wanted me to invite.

I'm pretty annoyed right now and kind of embarrassed since everyone else already received their STDs and contacted us to say that they received it and comment on how cute it is. 

At this point, I feel that it's really up to FI if we resend and send STDs to those 2 cousins but I can't help but feel embarrassed about it, they having no doubt heard about the rest of the family receiving them. Will they feel like we put them on the guest list/sent them a STD as an afterthought and think of us rude if we send them STDs late? Or am I overthinking this? I need some wine...

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Re: Embarrassed and annoyed...

  • Just explain that you had a little bit of trouble tracking down their address and that you're sorry it's late. How late is it, anyway? If it's a matter of days, don't mention it at all. They may just assume it got stalled in the mail or something. No big deal. 
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  • I don't think that is that big of a deal. People know that shit happens with the mail and getting addresses. As long as it's not too ridiculously later than everyone else's, I'd be cool.
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  • As of now, it'd be a little more than a week late, but knowing FI, he won't give me addresses or even an answer to whether or not he wants to try to send them for a few days to a week so if we do send them, it'll probably be 2 to 2.5 weeks late...

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  • My H is annoying like that too, so I feel ya. The TY note we sent to one of his coworkers after the wedding got sent back to us for having the wrong address (even though it's correct). DH said that he would just take it to work and send it through interdepartment mail it the coworker.... 3 weeks ago. Still hasn't done it yet. So yeah. Nothing I can do, except BEG my H to do it EVERY.Damn.Day.
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  • I would get a hold of their phone numbers, call them and say, we got your Stds returned in the mail! Can you give us the correct address?

    The end.

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  • Just to make you feel better:

    We sent an invitation to Lalo. Just Lalo. No last name, no proper version of his last name. Just Lalo.

    FI couldn't be bothered to get his head out of his ass to ask for his last name. Lalo didn't add his last name to the RSVP card either so his escort card will just say "Mr. Lalo."

    Oh yeah, we're those people. And it's all FI's fault.
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  • Don't worry about it. The post office effs things up all the time. Plus, I don't think people really compare notes about save the dates as much as you think. It's just mail to everyone but the uber-gossippy.

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  • I think you are over thinking this. As long as you have their address in time for the invitations, it's fine. Not everyone needs to be given STDs. 

    I had an uncle I couldn't get an address for, so he never got a STD. My aunt ended up giving us his address in time for the invitations. 

    Also, sometimes the post office just sucks. My best friend moved right before my wedding. After the wedding, I sent her a thank you note for her gift and the note got sent back to me. I verified with her that I had the correct address and resent it. She got it the second time. I think because her name wasn't on her apartment mailbox they sent it back. Who knows! 
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  • lurkergirllurkergirl member
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    Just to make you feel better:

    We sent an invitation to Lalo. Just Lalo. No last name, no proper version of his last name. Just Lalo.

    FI couldn't be bothered to get his head out of his ass to ask for his last name. Lalo didn't add his last name to the RSVP card either so his escort card will just say "Mr. Lalo."

    Oh yeah, we're those people. And it's all FI's fault.
    At least that's part of a name.  We have FI's friend, TK on our guest list.  TK is from Africa.  TK is not his name.  This is someone that FI "had" to add because  he "didn't have enough people on his side."




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