My 3 closest GFs and I have a Sunday tradition where we go to pub night at an awesome local restaurant, just the 4 of us. Not everyone makes it every week, but it's the one day a week we have a standing date to see each other. I'm an introvert and really value this time with my closest friends, who are all super extroverted but know me well and always make a point of listening to my stories about what's going on in my life. It's a great friendship and a real "safe place" and we all look forward to it every week.
Well this week one of the girls (let's call her Carole) informed the rest of us that she was discussing her weekend plans with another girl (Becky) and that Becky has sort of invited herself to our Sunday hangout. Carole just notified us via group text message what happened, and that she "couldn't say no without hurting Becky's feelings" and that she "wanted to run it by the group" to see if we were cool with her coming (which is not really "running it by us", but rather informing us after the fact... by I digress). Of course the other two responded with an enthusiastic "yes" and now I feel like a jerk for being annoyed (I haven't actually responded yet).
I wish I didn't mind, but I do. It feels super whiny and SS-y when I say it out loud, and i actually really do like Becky, but adding other people changes the group dynamic and makes it not as enjoyable/comfortable for me. This is something I put into my weekly budget because it's such a value-added activity in my life. I'm annoyed at Carole's "ask for forgiveness" approach here because she knows I'm the introvert of the group, and the one who prefers to hang out in smaller groups, and the only one who's likely to really mind. It puts me in an awkward position.
So at this point my only options are to either a) go and spend $ on an activity I won't enjoy that much (I'll barely be able to get a word in, and also am not close enough with Becky that I'd feel comfortable discussing all my stuff with her there), or b) stay home and save my money for next week, knowing the girls will know why I bailed.
Any other introverts out there who would be annoyed by this, or am I being unreasonable here?