Hi ladies! I am a recently married bride who is the maid (matron?) of honor next year for my sister and my BFF. I wanted some advice on planning both of their showers.
My sister is having a destination wedding in August, and I'm her only attendant. My mom and I are working together to plan her shower. Everyone who is invited is invited to the wedding, even though we know that some won't be able to attend. As long as they're invited to the wedding, there's no issue with inviting them to the shower right? My mom and I are planning on paying for and planning the event.
For my BFF, she has 3 other bridesmaids, her mom, and her FMIL. I e-mailed her mom tonight to let her know that I was hoping to throw a shower for her, but I wanted to speak to her first in case she was thinking of planning anything. I let her know that I would be happy to throw the party and cover the cost, but that I didn't want to step on her toes if she was planning something or wanted to plan something and to let me know if she had any ideas or thoughts about the shower.
Does this make it clear that I would value or appreciate her input if she has some (not necessarily financial) and that I'd be willing to cover the cost to throw the party? My BFF is an only child, and I want her mom to feel as included as she would like to be, while not assuming that she will pay for anything. I want these to be beautiful occasions for both of them, while including people without financial expectations.