Most of the girls I asked to be a bridesmaid in my wedding turned around and so no because I want it to be traditional. I heard things like "not paying for a dress i am only going to wear once" , "don't like my picture taken" , and "sorry i have a kid to raise." I understand that we all have different things going on in life but it sucks knowing that girls I have known since I was three are not really on the same page as me. Does anyone have any wedding party alternative ideas? My fiance is not happy with having guys on both sides that we are close to because they are not girls. Is asking older cousins of mine okay? I mean at least then I would be able to get to know them better. Just asking since I was looking forward to a little extra fun before the big day.