I am having a small destination wedding (around 35 guests). I originally didn't want to ask any of my friends to be BMs because I didn't want them to feel obligated to come since it's a destination wedding. Fiance however has a very close friend that he wanted to be best man...who knows we are not having a bridal party but somewhere along the way Fiance is calling him a "honorary" best man although he does not have a role in the ceremony. He did plan Fiances bachelor party. I have told Fiance if he wants his friend involved in the ceremony that is fine with me.
The wedding is a month away and I am now wondering if I should have asked my close friend to be my maid of honor. She planned my bachelorette party. I have 2 other friends that are invited to the wedding (neither has RSVP'd) that I originally felt if I didn't ask them to be a BM that it may hurt their feelings. But as time has gone by with the wedding planning I've felt closer to my friend I've considered asking to be MOH. However, I don't want to spring this on my friend last minute and make her feel stressed. She also had her first baby 2 months ago.
So now that time has gone by with all the wedding planning I am wondering if Fiance and I should go ahead with a Best man and Maid of Honor? Is it too late/rude to ask?