Shower TY notes: some questions

Re: Shower TY notes: some questions

• Maggie0829 member

  

  October 2014

  Aray82 said:

  My shower was a blast and I was so overwhelmed by all the love from my family and friends. A few questions as I write the TY notes:

  
  

  1) A couple of people did group gifts, but live at different addresses. Do I send one note addressed to both at one address? Or an individual note to each at their two different addresses? I'm thinking the latter, but I also wouldn't want them each to open their note and think "What about so-and-so? She went in on this gift with me too? Did Aray82 forget her?"Send each person who contributed to the group gift their own thank you note.

  
  

  2) My mom and FI's mom asked family members for favorite family recipes to compile into a book for us (not the dish--just the recipe card) and several of FI's family sent recipes, often several recipes, without boxed gifts. I'd like to send TY notes to the long-distance folks who sent recipes since it does take time to write out, send, etc. and a few of these are from cousins I haven't even met--how kind of them to take the time and do this! But I also don't want to risk this coming off as fishing for gifts. The advice on here is generally not to send TY cards to people who did not bring a gift to the reception or who brought just a card because it could look like you're pointing out the lack of a gift. So TY cards for the folks who gave recipes or just for those who gave boxed gifts, cash, or gift cards? (BTW, for lurkers who wonder whether you'll still get cash even if you don't ask for it directly and tackily...I got a lot of cash and gift card gifts even with a shower that I registered for and zero mention of "Oh we're saving up for xyz..." A few guests even gave cash or a gift card in addition to a boxed gift!) I would send a thank you note to those who provided recipes.  Like you said they took time out to write up the recipes and send them in to you.  A nice "thanks for the recipe and I can't wait to try it out" is always appreciated.

  
  

  3) Anyone else think writing TY cards is fun? I'm supposed to be doing schoolwork right now and I'm looking forward to sitting down and writing them tonight while getting to reminisce about how great it was to see everyone at the shower

  Answers to questions #1 and #2 are in the quote box but no I do no think writing thank you notes are fun.  I find that things get a bit repetitive and my hand cramps up because I am not used to writing things by hand when I spend 9 hours a day typing on a computer.

  
  

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• Aray82 member

  

  October 2014

  Maggie0829 said:

  Aray82 said:

  My shower was a blast and I was so overwhelmed by all the love from my family and friends. A few questions as I write the TY notes:

  
  

  1) A couple of people did group gifts, but live at different addresses. Do I send one note addressed to both at one address? Or an individual note to each at their two different addresses? I'm thinking the latter, but I also wouldn't want them each to open their note and think "What about so-and-so? She went in on this gift with me too? Did Aray82 forget her?"Send each person who contributed to the group gift their own thank you note.

  
  

  2) My mom and FI's mom asked family members for favorite family recipes to compile into a book for us (not the dish--just the recipe card) and several of FI's family sent recipes, often several recipes, without boxed gifts. I'd like to send TY notes to the long-distance folks who sent recipes since it does take time to write out, send, etc. and a few of these are from cousins I haven't even met--how kind of them to take the time and do this! But I also don't want to risk this coming off as fishing for gifts. The advice on here is generally not to send TY cards to people who did not bring a gift to the reception or who brought just a card because it could look like you're pointing out the lack of a gift. So TY cards for the folks who gave recipes or just for those who gave boxed gifts, cash, or gift cards? (BTW, for lurkers who wonder whether you'll still get cash even if you don't ask for it directly and tackily...I got a lot of cash and gift card gifts even with a shower that I registered for and zero mention of "Oh we're saving up for xyz..." A few guests even gave cash or a gift card in addition to a boxed gift!) I would send a thank you note to those who provided recipes.  Like you said they took time out to write up the recipes and send them in to you.  A nice "thanks for the recipe and I can't wait to try it out" is always appreciated.

  
  

  3) Anyone else think writing TY cards is fun? I'm supposed to be doing schoolwork right now and I'm looking forward to sitting down and writing them tonight while getting to reminisce about how great it was to see everyone at the shower

  Answers to questions #1 and #2 are in the quote box but no I do no think writing thank you notes are fun.  I find that things get a bit repetitive and my hand cramps up because I am not used to writing things by hand when I spend 9 hours a day typing on a computer.

  Thank you. I will proceed with individual notes and notes for the recipes as well. Yeah, I should have qualified that...TY cards are less fun on my typing-heavy days (trying to finish a dissertation now so sometimes I read and research and other days I just type) and if I try to do all of them at once. Been spacing them out over a few nights so my hand hasn't gotten cramped yet...

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