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Change your date ?

Alesiakn0wzbestAlesiakn0wzbest member
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edited October 2014 in Wedding Etiquette Forum
I've booked a wedding venue and signed a contract AND put a deposit down, my wedding coordinator called me and said someone booked that date before me and she was unaware. She has offered me a crepe station on the house for 4 dollars pp. I'm not sure if this is appropriate because she has also messed up a prior date giving me one price and then realizing it was Labor Day and tried to charge me more unless I changed the date. (She then proceeded to give me free up lighting which is values at $750) I took the offer Which prompted me to change it to this current date which is now taken :( what is an appropriate reasonable amount of money or upgrade I should ask for ? Sorry if the post is confusing I'm writing from my iphone and a bit agitated.
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  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 member
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    Yeah, you put a deposit down for a particular date, they now cannot give you that date. You deserve your deposit back, and get a new venue. 

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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    I would find a new venue.   One mistake is one thing.  2 before the ink is barely dry sends a message you will be having even more problems throughout the process.






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  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    Ditto PPs.  Get your deposit back and go find a more reliable venue!
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  • NymeruNymeru member
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    I'd be really worried about this venue too--I'd probably look for another venue.  There is a very good chance that your wedding will never happen with them at this rate.  If you do decide to stay with them, they need to start giving you things for free...none of this discounted nonsense.  Plus, if there is another discrepancy, I'd write it into your next contract that they will owe you something, like LOTS of cash.  Make it hurt.  That might make them take signing contracts a little more seriously and make them pay attention to the calendar.
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  • Alesiakn0wzbestAlesiakn0wzbest member
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    Sorry if I was confusing it is on the house free I just put 4 dollars per person as what the value would be which would equal somewhere between 400-500 dollars depending how many ppl I have 100-125! I have no interest in Crepes at all my family does not eat them either
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  • JCbride2015JCbride2015 member
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    The crepe station is a pretty lousy offer, especially because this is the second time.

    It's a huge PITA, but I'd also be trying to get my deposit back.  This venue seems really disorganized and you're going to have a much worse problem if they mess something else up closer to your date.  good luck!
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Given that this is their second messup, I'd get the deposit back and get a new venue.  This one's really unreliable.
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  • downtondivadowntondiva member
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    If they can't get booking a date right, imagine what else they might get wrong. Demand your deposit back and run the hell away from that venue!
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  • lovesclimbinglovesclimbing member
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    Alesiakn0wzbest said:
    Sorry if I was confusing it is on the house free I just put 4 dollars per person as what the value would be which would equal somewhere between 400-500 dollars depending how many ppl I have 100-125! I have no interest in Crepes at all my family does not eat them either
    Oh, OK.  I didn't realize that. My advice is still the same. She should be offering you discounts or free things of stuff you already have in your contract and/or want.  Not offering you something else you DON'T want for free.
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  • jacques27jacques27 member
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    One screw-up, shame on them.
    Two screw-ups, shame on you if you keep going with them.

    They've screwed up twice already - what makes you think they are competent and not going to continue to screw things up?  I'm a generally forgiving person the first time around and I am actually very forgiving to changing dates because I'm not the type to put all my stock in one specific day being more special than another, but I don't suffer incompetence.  And then offering you things you never wanted in the first place? 

    I agree with everyone else - get your money back and find somewhere else. 
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  • allispainallispain member
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    I'm with PPs. Tell them that they have messed up twice now, and that you want your deposit back and to nullify the contract. If your coordinator can't even look at the calendar to see if the date's already booked, how's she going to keep everything straight closer to the date of your wedding?
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  • cowgirl8238cowgirl8238 member
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    I agree with everyone else to get a new venue.  I was in a similar situation with a vendor who kept changing her availablity...ultimately I had to cut her out a week before the wedding and lost all my money...trust me. Get you money back and RUN LIKE HELL!!!
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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    I agree with the PPs, get a new venue! No venue is going to be worth the amount of stress they will cause you. They have shown you that they are unreliable and cannot be counted on to follow through - this will not be the last time they mess up. Get your deposit back, leave a bad review, and find a new venue that is professional and organized.


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  • MegEn1MegEn1 member
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    So if they've messed up twice already and you haven't gotten to the nitty gritty details yet, what will you do when you're a month our and they have another mistake? Oops, we forgot to order the tables - we'll just do Japanese family-style instead. That's totes ok right?

    I'd be afraid to risk it.

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Another vote for not trusting venue after second mess up. I think I would start shopping around for another venue and ask for deposit back because they can't live up to their end of the contract.
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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    Another vote for a new venue. To only try to make amends by offering crepes you never wanted is pretty pathetic.
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  • Alesiakn0wzbestAlesiakn0wzbest member
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    Thank you all! We are trying to come to a mutual agreement before I change my mind on the venue!
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