WR: Cost of Wedding Correlates to Marital Success

Moiramab · October 2014

Just a quick article my coworker sent me (because she is not good at helping me be patient)

http://www.today.com/style/what-cost-your-engagement-ring-may-say-about-your-marriage-2D80202658

Thoughts?

lavenderfields13 · October 2014

I kind of think this is bull. My ring cost less then $2000 but our wedding will be over $20,000 so we have a 50/50 chance at our marriage lasting?

I think if you can't afford a $30,000 wedding and go into debt over it then yeah, there's going to be financial issues that could affect your marriage. If you're a mega millionaire and spend $100,000 on your wedding I don't see how this means a higher chance of divorce since you could afford it.

Hummingbird125 · October 2014

I read an article a few months ago that said the MORE money you spent on your wedding the less likely you were to get divorced. All the articles like this are ridiculous.

Correlation does not imply causation.

lennonkdc · October 2014

"Our findings provide little evidence to support the validity of the wedding industry’s general message that connects expensive weddings with positive marital outcomes."

Pretty much.

wedding =/= marriage; ring size =/= love; engagement =/= valid relationship

I didn't really need a study to tell me what NEY has been saying for years.

labro · October 2014

Well I guess I'm doubly screwed since my ring was defiintely more than $2000 and our wedding is...yeah...our wedding is a lot. Might as well tell FI we should call it quits now.

luckya23 · October 2014

Maybe because it's my Monday, but that article is making no sense to me. Who are these sample people? When I think low budget big wedding, I think church basement, and it's not surprising that these marriages "last"... and what does that even mean? How long was this study? Or they asked people at different anniversaries what their wedding was like? And further back, simpler weddings were more the norm...

All kinds of holes to me, but again, maybe it's my Monday brain!

Plus I eye it suspiciously since my ring was nowhere near $2000! lol

Moiramab · October 2014

Haha I know it was a "shock" article, but I do agree with what some of you are getting at. There has to be more at play than just "My wedding cost X amount, so we're doomed."

I think it's more "I DEMANDED my dream wedding, we must have all the things, and my fiance doesn't love me if he didn't buy the perfect ring."

Like @hummingbird125 said, correlation =/= causation

loves2shop4shoes · October 2014

I'm doubly screwed too. Whoops.

Swazzle · October 2014

My thoughts are that this is horseshit.

GoldenPenguin · October 2014

Swazzle said:

My thoughts are that this is horseshit.

This.

Dignity100 · October 2014

LOL - I really don't believe this. I think we have a 50/50 according to the article. In my case I think a study of 'divorce rates of couples with 1 bathroom vs multiple' would be more appropriate ;o) .

KeptInStitches · October 2014

Dignity100 said:

LOL - I really don't believe this. I think we have a 50/50 according to the article. In my case I think a study of 'divorce rates of couples with 1 bathroom vs multiple' would be more appropriate ;o) .

Oh yes, this. So much this. The best thing about the house is there are two bathrooms and we're no longer taking turns.

ShallowSeas · October 2014

blabla89 · October 2014

KeptInStitches said:

Dignity100 said:

LOL - I really don't believe this. I think we have a 50/50 according to the article. In my case I think a study of 'divorce rates of couples with 1 bathroom vs multiple' would be more appropriate ;o) .

Oh yes, this. So much this. The best thing about the house is there are two bathrooms and we're no longer taking turns.

I have the opposite issue. I'm moving into FI's condo and he doesn't understand why I want to use the second bathroom instead of sharing one. Like, he was actually really upset about it for a while.

Dignity100 · October 2014

blabla89 said:

KeptInStitches said:

Dignity100 said:

LOL - I really don't believe this. I think we have a 50/50 according to the article. In my case I think a study of 'divorce rates of couples with 1 bathroom vs multiple' would be more appropriate ;o) .

Oh yes, this. So much this. The best thing about the house is there are two bathrooms and we're no longer taking turns.

I have the opposite issue. I'm moving into FI's condo and he doesn't understand why I want to use the second bathroom instead of sharing one. Like, he was actually really upset about it for a while.

I don't mind sharing a bathroom, but you know how they show the little clip at the movie theater about 'A Time and a place for a (smart)phone' - yeah, I need that video to play in my bathroom. . .

bethsmiles · October 2014

Hummingbird125 said:

I read an article a few months ago that said the MORE money you spent on your wedding the less likely you were to get divorced. All the articles like this are ridiculous.

Correlation does not imply causation.

This! I honestly don't think how much money someone spends on a ring has anything to do with how successful a marriage will be. Also, I would hazard a guess that this study is being reported on poorly. It happens all the time, reporters just want something flashy so they pull one statement from an article, skew it to make it more interesting and then present it as fact. I'd be interested to read the actual study and see what it actually says.

phira · October 2014

Correlation does not equal causation, so ... who the fuck cares.

lilacck28 · October 2014

My ring is worth way over $2000.... but it cost fiance less than that since we already had the center diamond. Had we not had that diamond, I would have told fiance to get me a moissanite. Because I AM a super picky little diva. I wanted a certain size and shape and look. But then it would have cost less than $2000 altogether... so... my level of picky-ness would not have been accurately measured by this idea that less money = more willing to compromise.

(Note: I didn't actually read the article. I'm commenting based on your comments haha)

speakeasy14 · October 2014

Articles like this crack me up. The only time that cost should be a determination for success or failure of a marriage is if the couple does not communicate and that lack of communication leads to serious debt.

Ollie08 · October 2014

I don't care what you naysayers think, according to this article, our marriage has a 100% success rate! :-p Stick that in your juice box and suck it!

On a slightly more serious note, I really think this article is bogus. But money is like the number one reason for divorce in this country, so I can see why there might be some correlation between the two.

lmcooper86 · October 2014

Well shit. Our marriage clearly has a 100% chance of failure. I guess I should call the whole thing off and go back to actually being NEY so I can have a better shot with someone else.

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