Rethinking my decision to walk down the aisle alone.
My Dad died when I was a child, so I was planning to ask my grandpa to walk to me down the aisle. My grandpa died last December, so after that I decided to walk down the aisle alone. My mom and I are very close, but I've never wanted to ask her. She's been two parents my whole life, and I'm trying really hard to make her just MOB that weekend. I had thought about asking one of my uncles, because my aunt and uncle have been there for everything my whole life. However, all three of their daughters are in the wedding, and they've already helped with a bunch of stuff so I didn't want to put any more burden on them.
I've been ok with walking myself down the aisle until we went to the wedding of friends in June. I saw how much the bride was shaking as she walked the down aisle with her father. I already know I'll be a nervous wreck right before going down the aisle so that's when I started rethinking. Originally, I thought I could maybe ask a friend to stay back with me until after I walk down the aisle. However, most of my good friends are out of state and can't make it.
My aunt called me last night and said she had just found out officially that I was walking down the aisle by myself. She said she and my uncle had been talking about it recently, and he on his own said how honored he would be to walk me down the aisle both for himself, and for my dad (they were only related by marriage, but were really close). My aunt said she wasn't at all trying to pressure me into changing my mind, but she wanted me to know in case I had any concern or doubt that he would love to walk to me down the aisle. Of course, this basically opened Pandora's box for me and now I'm feeling all the things, and completely unsure of what to do. I know walking down the aisle with my uncle won't diminish the memory of my dad or grandpa, or their place in my life.
Sorry for rambling, I'm not even sure what I asking here, I guess I'm just looking for some perspective. I'm a 10/25 bride, so my wedding is 17 days away. I need to make a decision quickly, obviously.
Re: Rethinking my decision to walk down the aisle alone.
If you want to walk down the aisle yourself, you could have your groom meet you half way.
It's really your decision and you have to do what makes you feel the most comfortable!
@Negativity yay for 10/25 brides!
I think I'm just conflicted that I don't know what I want to do. Although I'm leaning towards sticking with what I planned and walking alone. I'm ok with the idea of walking alone, I just think it could be difficult for me emotionally.