Does anyone else purposely wait a week to return their RSVP cards?

peachy13 · October 2014

I wait eagerly for the invitation to arrive, ask my FI what he wants to eat, fill out the card, put it in my bag, and then wait a week before putting it in the mail.

Anyone else? Nope, just me?

labro · October 2014

Why would you wait a week? That makes no sense to me. If you know your response, then put it in the mail.

Sorry...it just drove me crazy waiting on RSVPs to come in and I'm still feeling sensitive over some of the people I didn't get a response from. I don't understand why people hold on to the RSVP unless they truly don't know and need more time to make a decision.

peachy13 · October 2014

LaPeanut1018 said:

Why would you wait a week? That makes no sense to me. If you know your response, then put it in the mail.
Sorry...it just drove me crazy waiting on RSVPs to come in and I'm still feeling sensitive over some of the people I didn't get a response from. I don't understand why people hold on to the RSVP unless they truly don't know and need more time to make a decision.

LOL! Waiting a week, I'm still probably one of the first guests to respond. I just don't want to look super crazy by sending the card back ten minutes after receiving it.

CTYankeeBride · October 2014

I send RSVP's back as soon as I know whether or not we can attend. I can't see the point of deliberately holding onto an RSVP.

southernbelle0915 · October 2014

I could see if you put it in your purse and forgot about it for a week.

But I do think it's odd to deliberately let it sit there. Just why? I know myself well enough that if I don't mail it right away, I'm going to forget about it and be "that person" who the B&G have to chase down. *facepalm* So I send them right away.

vmj23 · October 2014

If i don't send it back right away, there is a good chance I will lose track and forget. And now that i've been on teh receiving end, and rushed out to my mailbox everyday after getting home from work anxiously awaiting the rsvp's, I think I'll now def make a point to send them back as soon as possible.

lyndausvi · October 2014

Unless it's a sibling, I send back RSVPs closer to the due date. Shit happens so I want to make sure I can make it.

misshart00 · October 2014

I don't purposely wait a week. But I'm always nervous that I'm forgetting something so I tend to delay sending it in.

AddieCake · October 2014

Do you also make sure not to comment right away on someone's FB status if it pops up while you are on? Because that's what this makes me think of.

Jen4948 · October 2014

While I can see holding off on responding in situations where there is genuine uncertainly that one can attend, deliberately waiting a week to reply when one already definitely knows whether or not one can attend a wedding does not make sense to me.

I think it's inconsiderate to deliberately hold back one's RSVP when one already knows whether or not they can attend. Not wanting to be an early response, or thinking the couple don't want early responses? I don't get it.

We hear so many stories here of how two weeks or so before a wedding couples haven't gotten back RSVPs from people who they then have to chase down that I really can't see any politeness in waiting any period of time just to avoid being "early."

It's like deliberately coming to a party "fashionably late" because one assumes (erroneously) that the hosts won't be ready at the stated time and jerking them around by making them wait half an hour or so for you.

AddieCake · October 2014

Right. Waiting b/c you don't know is fine. But waiting just so as not to seem too eager or something seems odd to me.

canadianhearts · October 2014

Nope, though sometimes I do forget to mail it out right away and feel bad about that.

I'm sure the bride and groom would appreciate knowing right away whether or not I can attend. In fact, I'm sure they would love to find out that I'm so eager to be there for their special day that I reply right away. It doesn't make me any less "cool"...I hope.

atlastmrsg · October 2014

Nope. I mail it as soon as I can.

Granted, not all guests heard, but I mentioned to friends and let it spread on Facebook that I was giving a prize to first RSVP card received to my wedding. I hoped it would encourage people to not wait to send them and I'd be tracking down fewer cards last minute. I ended up also giving a prize to most creative RSVP since some of the declines included funny notes/explanations. First RSVP went to my matron of honor, who lives across the city (alcohol) and most creative went to a friend asking (jokingly) if she could bring my mini-donkey as her plus one. If she got him a doggie tuxedo to wear. (box of cupcakes). Gave me a chance to see both of them before the wedding an extra time when I dropped off their small gifts.

Maggie0829 · October 2014

No, I don't. If I know H and I can go then I RSVP right away. As a former bride that anxiously awaited RSVPs to our wedding I think deliberately waiting to mail out the RSVP when you know for a fact that you can go is almost mean. And with weddings, the couple/hosts are usually happy when people seem eager to attend.

theartistformerlyknownas · October 2014

Nope. As soon as I know I can make it, I send it in - whether that's the day I get it or right up near the deadline. I definitely think the host has bigger things to worry about than thinking you look too eager for sending it in right away.

Knottie36491512 · October 2014

Unless you forgot, you should send them back as soon as you get the time. The bride or the couple might find it very difficult to plan their wedding if every guest do the same thing. Your timely response can be very helpful for them.

Does anyone else purposely wait a week to return their RSVP cards?

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