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pinkshorts27pinkshorts27 member
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Hey ladies, quick question. I asked my cousin for her address. I am inviting her . She told me that her three oldest kids (who all have significant others) and range from 18-24, are back home. She said "you can just send it to my address, addressed to me and all the kids... "

Should I send her one invite as she requested or should I send multiple invites to her address, so each of her kids get an invite individually? I don't want to be rude to her kids and I will for sure be inviting significant others of her kids, but don't want to seem dismissive of her wishes. Also, I don't know how much her kids care (for the record, our family does typically invited non-married kids on their parents invite. I won't be doing that, but that may be why she told me to do so).

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  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 member
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    pinkshorts27 said:
    Hey ladies, quick question. I asked my cousin for her address. I am inviting her . She told me that her three oldest kids (who all have significant others) and range from 18-24, are back home. She said "you can just send it to my address, addressed to me and all the kids... "

    Should I send her one invite as she requested or should I send multiple invites to her address, so each of her kids get an invite individually? I don't want to be rude to her kids and I will for sure be inviting significant others of her kids, but don't want to seem dismissive of her wishes. Also, I don't know how much her kids care (for the record, our family does typically invited non-married kids on their parents invite. I won't be doing that, but that may be why she told me to do so).
    First, are you planning to invite the children? If you were just inviting your cousin, it was rude for her to fish for an invite for her adult kids.

    However, if you are inviting her children, then I would send the invites to her house, but give separate ones to each couple. So you would send 4 invites to this household.
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  • pinkshorts27pinkshorts27 member
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    I was planning on inviting her adult children and have talked to her about it. 

    And I am just worried that it will seem that I dismissed what she said. Is this something I should be concerned about?

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  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 member
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    pinkshorts27 said:
    I was planning on inviting her adult children and have talked to her about it. 

    And I am just worried that it will seem that I dismissed what she said. Is this something I should be concerned about?
    If she's pissed about that, she has major problems. Not your problem. You are doing the correct thing.  All those names on one invite is way too much anyway.
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  • pinkshorts27pinkshorts27 member
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    Ok, just checking! I am trying to do the right thing and was unsure.  

    Thanks!

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  • cupcait927cupcait927 member
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    I would send one for each kid, especially if they are in a relationship. Even though their mom said to just invite all on one invite, they'd might love to receive their own.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Yeah, I would send one for each. To me, it doesn't come across that you dismissed her wishes. And it was more of a suggestion than a wish, most likely to save you additional work and money.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • raissyraisraissyrais member
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    Not sure, but I think etiquette says that for everyone 18 and over receives his/her own invitation, and anyone 18 and over WITH a SO receives their own invitation.
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  • pinkshorts27pinkshorts27 member
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    Thanks everyone! @raissyrais that is what etiquette says, I wanted to make sure I was okay disregarding what my cousin asked. I didn't know the etiquette on that. Glad the consensus was what I thought & what I was going to do originally,  

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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    Yeah some people told us not to bother sending them thank you notes. Went ahead and ignored that suggestion.
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  • steph861steph861 member
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    pinkshorts27 said:

    Thanks everyone! @raissyrais that is what etiquette says, I wanted to make sure I was okay disregarding what my cousin asked. I didn't know the etiquette on that. Glad the consensus was what I thought & what I was going to do originally,  

    I don't even know if I'd consider it disregarding what she asked. She probably thought she was doing you a favour by saving you money on postage. I'd be surprised if she felt strongly enough about it to confront you after the fact.
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