Loud wedding reception in the street of residential neighborhood?

crackktheskyy · October 2014

I live in an apartment complex in a residential neighborhood. The only non residential building in the neighborhood is a Jewish school that occasionally holds events.

Currently, the street outside my apartment is cordoned off in order to accommodate chairs, a presumably large PA system, and tons of people.

It's 8pm on a Sunday (though, to be fair, I suppose it is a holiday weekend.)

It is so loud that I can hear the music very clearly over our TV (FI is watching football) and we are stuck in the living room because it is currently the quietest room in the house. I can't even go into the bedroom to get ready for bed because the music is so loud that I can hear every word being sung over the loudspeakers.

Tenants (and I presume other neighbors based on text messages from local friends we have received) were not informed that this was going on.

Rude? Not rude? Discuss.

ETF: words are hard.

Jen4948 · October 2014

Well, I just moved from a neighborhood where every night people hung out on the streets and made a ton of noise talking and revving engines. This happened on holidays too, like on the Fourth of July when they shot off fireworks. This is not to mention smoking both tobacco and weed. There were tons of complaints made to the cops (no HOA or anything like that) but while I was there, nothing was ever done about it.

I agree that you should at least have gotten fair notice about it. I suppose you can file a noise and/or disturbing the peace complaint with the police, but they might not do anything-especially if they agree to look the other way because it's a wedding.

crackktheskyy · October 2014

Jen4948 said:

Well, I just moved from a neighborhood where every night people hung out on the streets and made a ton of noise talking and revving engines. This happened on holidays too, like on the Fourth of July when they shot off fireworks. This is not to mention smoking both tobacco and weed. There were tons of complaints made to the cops (no HOA or anything like that) but while I was there, nothing was ever done about it.

I agree that you should at least have gotten fair notice about it. I suppose you can file a noise and/or disturbing the peace complaint with the police, but they might not do anything-especially if they agree to look the other way because it's a wedding.

Ugh, so sorry to hear about the troubles in your neighborhood

That's really unfortunate.

This is sort of a rarity. For us, we loved the neighborhood because it's quiet (we're both students). I am supposed to be working on a huge presentation tonight and I can't focus because of the noise.

Unfortunately, I doubt the police will do anything, since they cordoned the space off in the first place.

I've been feeling under the weather all day and so I guess I'm also feeling super cranky.

Viczaesar · October 2014

What time do quiet hours go into effect in your town? I'd wait til 10 minutes after that and then call the police.

blabla89 · October 2014

Rude, but if they don't hold events often they may be unaware of how loud it is inside your building. I think it would be perfectly okay to go and have a (friendly) word with the event coordinator on behalf of you and your neighbors.

crackktheskyy · October 2014

Viczaesar said:

What time do quiet hours go into effect in your town? I'd wait til 10 minutes after that and then call the police.

Good point! I actually don't know because it's never been an issue. I'll look it up. Thanks!

Viczaesar · October 2014

crackktheskyy said:

Viczaesar said:

What time do quiet hours go into effect in your town? I'd wait til 10 minutes after that and then call the police.

Good point! I actually don't know because it's never been an issue. I'll look it up. Thanks!

You're welcome, and good luck! I'm working on a conference paper right now and if there were a party going on outside my apartment I'd be really frustrated too.

RissAnn1970 · October 2014

Not rude, and it wouldn't at all be typical for residents to be warned, since I imagine the noise level is within the town ordinance & will conclude prior to the ordinance's quiet hours. I get annoyed by my neighbors' landscapers making all sorts of ruckus at 8 a.m., but they're within the bounds of the law, so all I can do is deal with it.

crackktheskyy · October 2014

blabla89 said:

Rude, but if they don't hold events often they may be unaware of how loud it is inside your building. I think it would be perfectly okay to go and have a (friendly) word with the event coordinator on behalf of you and your neighbors.

I wonder if there is one! Maybe I could go out and ask... the fact that I'm in my PJs might drive the point home, haha.

Viczaesar said:

crackktheskyy said:

Viczaesar said:

What time do quiet hours go into effect in your town? I'd wait til 10 minutes after that and then call the police.

Good point! I actually don't know because it's never been an issue. I'll look it up. Thanks!

You're welcome, and good luck! I'm working on a conference paper right now and if there were a party going on outside my apartment I'd be really frustrated too.

Ugh, YES! I have 14 pages to write tomorrow and I'm still trying to gather info. So frustrating

lyndausvi · October 2014

I have found that unless it's after noise ordinances there is little you can do other than complain to us. It's annoying. Unless it all night every night, I just let things like this go. (well just complain to you all).

crackktheskyy · October 2014

lyndausvi said:

I have found that unless it's after noise ordinances there is little you can do other than complain to us. It's annoying. Unless it all night every night, I just let things like this go. (well just complain to you all).

Ugh yes. At least I have a place to vent! Even my FI who is the most mild mannered and agreeable person I know admitted to feeling really bothered by this. That's how I know it's bad! Hahaha.

I suppose I'm feeling less tolerant than usual because I'm sick and I have a ton of work to do.

I guess people don't really think about it, but I'm honestly feeling really glad that FI and I are getting married on the top floor of a non residential building in the middle of a city where the noise is inaudible from outside. I wouldn't want to make someone else feel as annoyed as I do right now!

NYCMercedes · October 2014

If you're really annoyed, call the non-emergency police number and complain. You have the same rights as the school.

Eta, I'd wait till closer to 10:00.

AddieCake · October 2014

I hate that. We have neighbors behind us who throw parties sometimes, and I have to wear earplugs to bed. I have to wear them when my husband is home, too, though, courtesy of his snoring. Haha!

crackktheskyy · October 2014

NYCMercedes said:

If you're really annoyed, call the non-emergency police number and complain. You have the same rights as the school.

Eta, I'd wait till closer to 10:00.

Thanks! I know I'm being more cranky than usual so I'll give it some time.

Back to attempting to study for me. Hoping I can get in bed by 10 or 11 so I can get up really early tomorrow to make up for lost time!

crackktheskyy · October 2014

AddieCake said:

I hate that. We have neighbors behind us who throw parties sometimes, and I have to wear earplugs to bed. I have to wear them when my husband is home, too, though, courtesy of his snoring. Haha!

You just made me laugh out loud! My FI snores too and I have no idea why, but he does this thing where he rests his head directly next to mine, wraps his arms around me, and falls asleep with his mouth positioned directly over my ear. When he snores, it's so loud right in my ear!

Sorry about your neighbors...that's so obnoxious! We intentionally sought out a more family based neighborhood in an attempt to avoid this!

AddieCake · October 2014

I didn't sleep for the first 3 years of our relationship until I found these great earplugs that actually work!

We live in a family neighborhood, too. It doesn't happen a lot; it's like holiday parties once or twice a year. Still annoys me, though, b/c I abhor discourtesy. Sometimes people just don't have any regard for whether or not they are inconveniencing anyone.

crackktheskyy · October 2014

AddieCake said:

I didn't sleep for the first 3 years of our relationship until I found these great earplugs that actually work!

We live in a family neighborhood, too. It doesn't happen a lot; it's like holiday parties once or twice a year. Still annoys me, though, b/c I abhor discourtesy. Sometimes people just don't have any regard for whether or not they are inconveniencing anyone.

Ugh, yes. I totally agree. And it isn't even like loud holiday parties that are indoors. This is a full on PA system in the street.

I guess what bothers me the most is that it's not like having their wedding in the street on a Sunday was the only possible option for an enjoyable wedding. This was just poor planning.

syoun1nj · October 2014

I'm curious how they legally got permission to close a street for a wedding? That seems crazy to me. Ugh. I hope they shut up soon. How rude, as my spirit animal, Stephanie Tanner, would say.

crackktheskyy · October 2014

syoun1nj said:

I'm curious how they legally got permission to close a street for a wedding? That seems crazy to me. Ugh. I hope they shut up soon. How rude, as my spirit animal, Stephanie Tanner, would say.

You seriously have me cracking up!

Best spirit animal ever.

Another equally annoyed neighbor texted us and thinks it will be over at 10 so I'm just going to shower and hopefully get back to work.

mrs4everhart · October 2014

My general rule on this type of thing is that I give a pass to isolated incidents. Meaning unless these people plan on reliving this event daily I wouldn't give it a second thought.

I live in a neighborhood in a major city though. If I valued peace and quiet over all else I guess I would move to the suburbs.

In our neighborhood, at least in our immediate area, we have an unspoken agreement - unless it's absolutely beyond the pale, we just suck it up.

H and I are basically nocturnal, and our "weekend" is Wednesday and Thursday. Our neighbors put up with our occasional late-night backyard fireplace parties. We put up with the sounds of their children playing on Sunday morning and all the noises that are made early in the day by 9-to-5'ers on the weekend. If either bothers the other we close the windows and call it good.

Twice yearly the house two doors down have a huge party with a mariachi band that play super late in to the night, regardless of the day of the week. Maybe if it were twice a week, every week, it would get to me, but I just can't get that upset over other people having a good time. Even if it causes me some mild annoyance.

short+sassy · October 2014

Like a lot of the other PPs, for me the key is that this is only an occasional thing. Yes, it is frustrating and annoying...I hear ya! But I wouldn't call it rude.

I used to live across the street (a large street) from a school and it wasn't unusual for me to be JOLTED awake at 7:00AM when they rang the bell that school was starting. And this was in a totally residential neighborhood. But, how was I going to complain to? The school was going to ring their bells regardless of how disruptive it was to the rest of the neighborhood.

Oh, and more fun. A few times when I was trying to go to work early, a police officer would park his police car BLOCKING MY DRIVEWAY while he dropped his child off. So I'm sitting in my car waiting 5-10 minutes for him to move. But again, who am I going to complain to? The police? Yeah, right. Always lovely when police break the law purely for their own selfish benefit (sarcasm).

abbyj700 · October 2014

mrs4everhart said:

My general rule on this type of thing is that I give a pass to isolated incidents. Meaning unless these people plan on reliving this event daily I wouldn't give it a second thought.

I live in a neighborhood in a major city though. If I valued peace and quiet over all else I guess I would move to the suburbs.

In our neighborhood, at least in our immediate area, we have an unspoken agreement - unless it's absolutely beyond the pale, we just suck it up.

H and I are basically nocturnal, and our "weekend" is Wednesday and Thursday. Our neighbors put up with our occasional late-night backyard fireplace parties. We put up with the sounds of their children playing on Sunday morning and all the noises that are made early in the day by 9-to-5'ers on the weekend. If either bothers the other we close the windows and call it good.

Twice yearly the house two doors down have a huge party with a mariachi band that play super late in to the night, regardless of the day of the week. Maybe if it were twice a week, every week, it would get to me, but I just can't get that upset over other people having a good time. Even if it causes me some mild annoyance.

This.

We have garage parties almost every weekend. We've requested that if we are too loud - our neighbors come talk to us. The 80 year old woman next to us always just smiles and says "you kids have fun, I"m half deaf and happy to have great neighbors."

We live in a family neighborhood. Dogs park, kids scream and play, people have parties and heck - on Halloween one of the neighbors sets up his DJing equipment during trick or treat! It's an active, fun, safe neighborhood with both older folks and young people alike. I love it. Unless it's all the time and unless it's over the top - I'd be fine with it and wouldn't consider anyone rude.

PrettyGirlLost · October 2014

crackktheskyy said:
I live in an apartment complex in a residential neighborhood. The only non residential building in the neighborhood is a Jewish school that occasionally holds events.

Currently, the street outside my apartment is cordoned off in order to accommodate chairs, a presumably large PA system, and tons of people.

It's 8pm on a Sunday (though, to be fair, I suppose it is a holiday weekend.)

It is so loud that I can hear the music very clearly over our TV (FI is watching football) and we are stuck in the living room because it is currently the quietest room in the house. I can't even go into the bedroom to get ready for bed because the music is so loud that I can hear every word being sung over the loudspeakers.

Tenants (and I presume other neighbors based on text messages from local friends we have received) were not informed that this was going on.

Rude? Not rude? Discuss.

ETF: words are hard.

Huh? What holiday?

Columbus Day? Yeah most ppl I know don't get Monday off. . .In fact I don't know anyone other than teachers who have today off.

lyndausvi · October 2014

Most local, country, state and federal gov't employees and banks have off. Not a holiday I ever got off. Even in school we didn't get Columbus day off.

huskypuppy14 · October 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

I live in an apartment complex in a residential neighborhood. The only non residential building in the neighborhood is a Jewish school that occasionally holds events.

Currently, the street outside my apartment is cordoned off in order to accommodate chairs, a presumably large PA system, and tons of people.

It's 8pm on a Sunday (though, to be fair, I suppose it is a holiday weekend.)

It is so loud that I can hear the music very clearly over our TV (FI is watching football) and we are stuck in the living room because it is currently the quietest room in the house. I can't even go into the bedroom to get ready for bed because the music is so loud that I can hear every word being sung over the loudspeakers.

Tenants (and I presume other neighbors based on text messages from local friends we have received) were not informed that this was going on.

Rude? Not rude? Discuss.

ETF: words are hard.
Huh? What holiday? Columbus Day? Yeah most ppl I know don't get Monday off. . .In fact I don't know anyone other than teachers who have today off.

I'm a scientist and my office is closed today. In Massachusetts a lot of people have it off. The traffic on Friday for the weekend was horrendous. It might be a northeast thing? My boss said in California they don't have Columbus day off.

photokitty · October 2014

IMHO - in my neighborhood, as long as it isn't past the noise ordinance hours, then I'm cool with it. I don't want to be the cranky old lady in my slipper griping about the Fourth of July fireworks or high school football game - so I don't see how any other ever would be different.

After 11pm - then I'm annoyed.

short+sassy · October 2014

photokitty said:

IMHO - in my neighborhood, as long as it isn't past the noise ordinance hours, then I'm cool with it. I don't want to be the cranky old lady in my slipper griping about the Fourth of July fireworks or high school football game - so I don't see how any other ever would be different.

After 11pm - then I'm annoyed.

SITB
Yeah, I was at a NYE party once and the neighbor came over and complained at 10PM that her 13-year-old son was trying to sleep. I mean, normally I would have been sympathetic...but geez, it was NYE for goodness sake! And it wasn't a crazy party. No loud music. Just people talking in the backyard. She definitely was that "cranky old lady", lol.

crackktheskyy · October 2014

short+sassy said:

Like a lot of the other PPs, for me the key is that this is only an occasional thing. Yes, it is frustrating and annoying...I hear ya! But I wouldn't call it rude.
I used to live across the street (a large street) from a school and it wasn't unusual for me to be JOLTED awake at 7:00AM when they rang the bell that school was starting. And this was in a totally residential neighborhood. But, how was I going to complain to? The school was going to ring their bells regardless of how disruptive it was to the rest of the neighborhood.
Oh, and more fun. A few times when I was trying to go to work early, a police officer would park his police car BLOCKING MY DRIVEWAY while he dropped his child off. So I'm sitting in my car waiting 5-10 minutes for him to move. But again, who am I going to complain to? The police? Yeah, right. Always lovely when police break the law purely for their own selfish benefit (sarcasm).

Ugh that sounds horrible about the police car!! I would have been beyond annoyed at the principle of the entire matter.

Don't get me wrong: there is noise in the neighborhood all the time -- kids across the street on the playground all day, construction to the building, etc. But I was more or less annoyed that this was 4-5 hours of bass pounding music in the street within feet of my house. It felt like the wedding was in my house but without the meal or beverages, haha.

Unfortunately, I was right about thinking that I was getting sick and I ended up super sick the next day. I managed to give my presentation yesterday but took off today to catch up on sleep/rest/fluids!

crackktheskyy · October 2014

abbyj700 said:
mrs4everhart said:
My general rule on this type of thing is that I give a pass to isolated incidents. Meaning unless these people plan on reliving this event daily I wouldn't give it a second thought.

I live in a neighborhood in a major city though. If I valued peace and quiet over all else I guess I would move to the suburbs.

In our neighborhood, at least in our immediate area, we have an unspoken agreement - unless it's absolutely beyond the pale, we just suck it up.

H and I are basically nocturnal, and our "weekend" is Wednesday and Thursday. Our neighbors put up with our occasional late-night backyard fireplace parties. We put up with the sounds of their children playing on Sunday morning and all the noises that are made early in the day by 9-to-5'ers on the weekend. If either bothers the other we close the windows and call it good.

Twice yearly the house two doors down have a huge party with a mariachi band that play super late in to the night, regardless of the day of the week. Maybe if it were twice a week, every week, it would get to me, but I just can't get that upset over other people having a good time. Even if it causes me some mild annoyance.
This.

We have garage parties almost every weekend. We've requested that if we are too loud - our neighbors come talk to us. The 80 year old woman next to us always just smiles and says "you kids have fun, I"m half deaf and happy to have great neighbors."

We live in a family neighborhood. Dogs park, kids scream and play, people have parties and heck - on Halloween one of the neighbors sets up his DJing equipment during trick or treat! It's an active, fun, safe neighborhood with both older folks and young people alike. I love it. Unless it's all the time and unless it's over the top - I'd be fine with it and wouldn't consider anyone rude.

ooooo garage parties sound fun! We used to have those years ago when my friend basically worked out of his garage. This sort of thing doesn't bother me, either, unless you have a very large garage that can accommodate 100 people and a live band with PA speakers

I don't mind the occasional noise. I think I was just cranky about the street being closed and the noise being so loud so consistently for so long! This was way louder than your average apartment party or the like. It was so over the top.

@photokitty : yeah, I don't want to be a cranky old lady either I think being sick exacerbated all of my feelings about the matter. We live in a family neighborhood so I don't mind some noise and kids are always outside playing which is nice. This was just sort of crazy. It sounded like the band was in my house! At least it's all over now.

And for anyone lurking....if you're wondering if you should have your wedding in the street on a Sunday with a loud band, PA speakers, and a blocked off road....I would definitely recommend looking into other places first!

Thanks everyone!

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