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InkdancerInkdancer member
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So at my wedding, H and I got ambushed by BIL. He took the mic from the DJ and announced that he was putting a basket on our table, and if anyone wanted to make us kiss they had to put a dollar in the basket.

I was horrified. He hadn't run this idea by either of us. But he also announced it right in the middle of everyone eating, without warning, so we couldn't stop him. So we went with it, so as not to embarrass anyone, but I was not happy.

What would the Knotties have done in this situation?
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  • KatieinBklnKatieinBkln member
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    Yikes, that's scary and annoying. 

    I guess I might block the basket with my hand when people came up and say, "We couldn't possibly take your money, but we'll kiss anyway!" and lay a big, theatrical smooch on H. 

    But that only mitigates the awkward by a fraction. Sorry that happened to you!
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  • thisismynickname2thisismynickname2 member
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    Oh goodness. Did anyone put money in? And did you take said money home? 

    I would probably have joked to anyone who did try to put money in the basket, "Oh no no, I need no reason to kiss my DH."  
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  • doeydodoeydo member
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    Oh hell no.  Someone (probably whoever I`m marrying) better get their ass up their and ``apologize for any confusion, but please disregard the last comment.  I repeat, there will be no money bowl``.  IDGAF if that pissed that dude off, he needs a swift cuff across the head; I mean WTF?
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  • InkdancerInkdancer member
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    thisismynickname said:
    Oh goodness. Did anyone put money in? And did you take said money home? 

    I would probably have joked to anyone who did try to put money in the basket, "Oh no no, I need no reason to kiss my DH."  
    Several people. My uncle came back 6 times, giggling. I of course said "no, you don't have to pay us to kiss" but nobody listened.
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  • InkdancerInkdancer member
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    beethery said:
    Hand the basket back to him before he finished talking, give him a cold stare and say firmly, "No." and then sashay off.

    I am not nice, that kind of shit annoys me, and I'm not going to play along.
    I am always super worried about rocking the boat/ hurting feelings.

    I am kind of mad at the DJ though because I asked her not to let random people take the mic. But I guess she thought Best Man doesn't count as random.
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    Inkdancer said:
    beethery said:
    Hand the basket back to him before he finished talking, give him a cold stare and say firmly, "No." and then sashay off.

    I am not nice, that kind of shit annoys me, and I'm not going to play along.
    I am always super worried about rocking the boat/ hurting feelings.

    I am kind of mad at the DJ though because I asked her not to let random people take the mic. But I guess she thought Best Man doesn't count as random.
    I guess a note to lurkers is be firm to DJ about not letting anyone other than bride, groom, and maybe a list of people anywhere near the microphone.  
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    I would have thrown the basket away. 
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  • flantasticflantastic member
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    ClimbingBrideNY said:
    I would have thrown the basket away. 
    Yup, this. As soon as he moved away, I would have gotten up and made the thing disappear.
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    flantastic said:
    ClimbingBrideNY said:
    I would have thrown the basket away. 
    Yup, this. As soon as he moved away, I would have gotten up and made the thing disappear.
    Even though he'd already put $2 in the basket in front of everyone?
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    Inkdancer said:
    flantastic said:
    ClimbingBrideNY said:
    I would have thrown the basket away. 
    Yup, this. As soon as he moved away, I would have gotten up and made the thing disappear.
    Even though he'd already put $2 in the basket in front of everyone?
    Yup. I'd probably give back the $2 as well.
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  • InkdancerInkdancer member
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    southernbelle0915 said:
    I would have removed the basket and put it under our table or something. And gone up to the DJ immediately after and said "NO ONE except this person and this person or the two of us are allowed to have the mic." 

    I might even consider taking the mic and making a joke about it like "oh, funny BIL - he is such a joker. We won't be accepting any of your money, but I'm sure you'll catch a kiss or two tonight. Thank you all so much for coming. Your support means the world.... [15 second distraction toast] so here's to all of you. Thanks so much."
    EVERYONE DO THIS. Do not do what I did. Think faster than me!
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  • beetherybeethery member
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    Inkdancer said:
    flantastic said:
    ClimbingBrideNY said:
    I would have thrown the basket away. 
    Yup, this. As soon as he moved away, I would have gotten up and made the thing disappear.
    Even though he'd already put $2 in the basket in front of everyone?
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  • summerbride2015summerbride2015 member
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    That is so awkward that he did that. I thought I had an awkward moment but not that bad. My DH left our sweetheart table to get a plate of food from the buffet for his grandfather. His brother came over and sat down to chat, then we hear glasses clinking. We were so confused and then realized they thought he was my DH and wanted us to kiss! We were both freaked out. My BIL left from the table pretty quick haha.
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  • larrygagalarrygaga member
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    Hide the basket and pretend like it never happened. If anyone asked I would act like the basket was lost in the flurry of activity. 

    Then maybe suggest to tap their wineglass like at every other wedding if they want a kiss.
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  • beetherybeethery member
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    In case anyone else's dipshit friend/relative/acquaintance does anything like this, throw rolls in the basket right away. Throw rolls at the perpetrator. Throw rolls at anyone who tries to make you participate in this nonsense.

    I am not with any of this shit. I am not kissing anybody on command, glass-clinking, or money basket, songs, dances, traditions be damned. I hate it.
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  • raissyraisraissyrais member
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    JFC why is it always some drunk lunatic of an uncle?! Whyyyyyyyyyyy?
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  • novella1186novella1186 member
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    Yeah I've already warned the DJ several times that my dad is NOT allowed near the microphone. He thinks it's funny to humiliate people and is totally oblivious to how rude he's being, and NEVER. STOPS. TALKING. Plus he's the biggest AW I've ever known. It's so effing awkward. 

    I did a surprise party/roast for his birthday one year. When it was his turn to get the mic, he made a 20 minute speech. Then he realized the mic was wireless, and proceeded to stroll around the room and mingle. Any time another thought popped into his head, he'd make another speech with the mic. I tried to get it away from him and told him he only got ONE speech, which made everyone laugh, but I was so annoyed and so embarrassed for him. This will not happen at my wedding. 
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  • beetherybeethery member
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    novella1186 said:
    Yeah I've already warned the DJ several times that my dad is NOT allowed near the microphone. He thinks it's funny to humiliate people and is totally oblivious to how rude he's being, and NEVER. STOPS. TALKING. Plus he's the biggest AW I've ever known. It's so effing awkward. 

    I did a surprise party/roast for his birthday one year. When it was his turn to get the mic, he made a 20 minute speech. Then he realized the mic was wireless, and proceeded to stroll around the room and mingle. Any time another thought popped into his head, he'd make another speech with the mic. I tried to get it away from him and told him he only got ONE speech, which made everyone laugh, but I was so annoyed and so embarrassed for him. This will not happen at my wedding. 
    That reminds me to do the same for FFIL.
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    I keep thinking about this now:

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    Anyway, I would have kept his $2 for being such a PITA. 
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