So I've only been engaged for a little over a month but have already thrown myself into the planning process, thinking I already knew exactly what I wanted for my dream wedding. But the more I thought about it and looked into it I realized I was totally wrong. I've decided that I want a smaller more intimate wedding instead of a large gathering. Unfortunately, I have a rather large family and my parents have come up with a rather extensive guest list. My parents are paying for mostly everything and having realized how expensive 200 guests can be, thought to pare down the number of people. This sounded like a great idea to me, as my mother is insisting I do the bridal dance despite the fact that I loathe dancing and haven't seen many of these people in years and don't even really know some of them. To top it off, while we're eliminating family members, she insists on inviting her work friends, which would be fine if there weren't 20 of them (some that I'm not even sure I've met!). My fiance isn't much help in any of this either. He agrees that's we should have this huge wedding and invite all his co-workers and bosses (and all their wives and children) and says that I want a fairy tale wedding because I'd rather have a nicer venue, caterer, and such for less money with a smaller wedding. His mother is just as little help. She's anti catering and thinks the family can cook everything and constantly criticizes the venues I pick because "no one will go to my wedding if it's that far away" (30-40 min.) It's just getting to the point where I'm ready to just let everyone else plan the wedding. How do you compromise with this many people and still have a wedding you'll enjoy? Especially when you aren't the one paying for it and your fiance doesn't even agree with you.